Content without a Female... is this good or bad????

[WeakMenNeverRise]

If your happy thats all that matters man but you gotta ask yourself, are you really happy. By your original post it seems like you have some pinned up hostility against females; you spoke about their "crap and drama." I mean I know that a lot of females are just full of shyt but not all of them are. If you found one that was actually cool would you still feel the way you do. I know from personal experience that a lot of times we adopt a particular mindset to insulate us from certain things. Maybe you were hurt by someone and this is your way of saying screw women. I understand your focused on your life but are you really saying that you are so consumed with other things that you have no time for females. I mean either you have an an extensive library of porn and lotion and thus have no sexual desire for women, or you might not being honest with yourself. Now I've never met you so i'm not saying this is the case, but i'm just throwing this out there.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by klaz

No. Its an opinion.

No. truth.

If a man cliams he's content without women then that means he's not attracted to them...he's not drawn to them...there is no desire to be up close and personal with them...which means three things...gayness, masturbation or impotence...

Originally posted by klaz

No. YOU need women to quench your sexual desires. Need is a depndency. You don't need sex. You WANT sex.

Let me reiterate...

Women are needed to quench a non-impotent/gay/maturbationholic man's desire...obviously...

Originally posted by klaz

I assume you know what ejaculation entails? I'm not trying to flame you with this. But there's more to life than sex. You can live your live quite well, without wanting it. (Although I AM on this
forum with the aim of getting alot more of it)

Your the one stressing sex...I'm thinking about intimacy...intimacy can mean long walks on the beach and candle light dinners...

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by DjDreamer

If a man cliams he's content without women then that means he's not attracted to them...he's not drawn to them...there is no desire to be up close and personal with them...which means three things...gayness, masturbation or impotence...

We are in general programmed to want women, but that doesn't mean every one of us is going to have an unrelenting desire to have one. Believe it or not, but some people are straight, physically fit and healthy, yet lack a strong desire to be with a woman. This happens with both woman and men. It's not that common, but it exists. This condition is more likely to happen when someone lives a very stressful life, especially a dangerous one. It's been scientifically studied that under certain types of stress, testosterone levels in the male drops and hence the desire.

 

[DjDreamer]

Dropping testoserone levels is the path to impotence...

Now impotence is not necessarily a bad thing...more impotent men walking around just means more women for me and other non-impotents to choose from...

 

[Jack McCrack]

What's with all the hate here?

djdreamer, you seem a tad bit insecure in your sexuality. What's with putting this guy down?

Are you so sure of your desires in life that you have to make fun of his LACK of desire?

Leave him be. If someone is content without the opposite sex, then who cares. It's not your business. He asked if his happiness was good or bad and you made it clear that you think it's bad. However, I highly doubt that means he's 'gay' or 'impotent'.

 

[DjDreamer]

I see this topic as a philosophic journey into SurfsupinHawaii's mind state.

And I ain't hating...I'm appreciating his impotence...

Originally posted by DjDreamer

Now impotence is not necessarily a bad thing...more impotent men walking around just means more women for me and other non-impotents to choose from...

 

[Trance]

"No matter if a man says his goal is power, fame or money, our goal is always the search for true love"

 

[SurfsupinHawaii]

I seriously didn't expect to get this much feedback.. I appreciate it, the positive and negative.

Also I re-read my post and I think I may have worded it wrong or just came off wrong. I love females, and definitely love sex.. I don't lack testosterone and I'm definitely not a bad lookin guy.

I guess I feel like I deserve a quality girl and I just dont deal with anything other than that on anymore than a sexual level, and even that gets played out after a while. Seriously, whackin off is cheaper and stress free lol.. no kids or anything, and no STD's.. but gettin back to what I was saying, I dont dislike females.. I actually have a few close female friends who understand how I feel on this subject..

Again though, I can get laid, but random lays arent that satisfying after a few, it gets old.. I know what I want and I'm lookin for quality and quality only.

ps - I put a link to some pics on my profile.. I swear I'm not a horny loser LOL.. just not into stupid chicks.. I can plow them, no problem but I dont waste my energy

 

[California Love]

Originally posted by SurfsupinHawaii
I deserve a quality girl and I just dont deal with anything other than that

Bravo



BTW, fvcking good back definition bro! The delts and guns are ripped!! Weight and height?

I'm smaller, but I'll get some pics up tomorrow.

 

[SurfsupinHawaii]

Cali Love,

Hey man, 5'10 and 185.. back and delts get murdered surfing and in the gym...

so how long did you live out in Hawaii Kai?

 

[Yotsuya-san]

Originally posted by DjDreamer


You need women to quench your sexual desires...you don't need women if you're gay, if you masturbate a lot or if you're impotent...

What about asexual people? I was asexual as a teenager and well into my twenties. Are you saying that if you don't need to have sex you are broken in some way?

 

[DjDreamer]

LoL...what's up with you guys giving a negative value to impotence? Yotsuya-san if you kept on reading this thread you would have seen that I equated impotence with more oppurtunity for me...

Concerning being asexual...if your asexualness is biological then shame is the reason why one doesn't want to be sexual...if the asexualness is mental then it's just impotence...

 

[ScrewIt]

It's perfectly normal. and as to speak, i think a lot of ppl go through that stage at one time or another.

I'm not impotent, and i will and always love porn and girls, but you could say im in your stage now.

i've been doing my own thing, chilllin with friends, sports, gym, college and hobbies these past few months. Strangely this vibe i've given off this semester seemed to have attracted girls to me that i have no interest in.

Always remember, your priority and your needs should always go before any woman.

 

[MrCode]

There is nothing wrong with putting your romantic life on hold if you have other priorities. God knows I've done my share of it.

But sometimes you can take it too far. In my case I keep putting obstacles in my way before I can go "full-force" in becoming a ladies man/DJ/whatever you want to call it. Things like "fix my teeth" (which I did and have had done for over a year), "buy a house" (done 2.5 years ago) have been replaced with "get in better shape", "perfect my DJ skills", "have my house perfectly set up/decorated" and crap like that.

Obviously I realize what I'm doing (sabotaging my own success) and I'm getting over it, but it isn't easy changing habits like this.

So don't fall into the trap of postponing this part of your life indefinitely, no matter what the reason. But there is definitely nothing wrong with having standards and going for quality over quantity with women. Plus you are a very good looking guy and with a DJ attitude could probably get anyone you want.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by DjDreamer
Dropping testoserone levels is the path to impotence...

Now impotence is not necessarily a bad thing...more impotent men walking around just means more women for me and other non-impotents to choose from...

I'm just saying that not really caring about sex is not a definete sign of impotence. Impotence is defined as the inability to get or maintain an erection. The desire to want sex is not exactly the same. They're similar and are linked together, but they still are not 100% dependent.

 

[Yotsuya-san]

Originally posted by DjDreamer
LoL...what's up with you guys giving a negative value to impotence? Yotsuya-san if you kept on reading this thread you would have seen that I equated impotence with more oppurtunity for me...

Concerning being asexual...if your asexualness is biological then shame is the reason why one doesn't want to be sexual...if the asexualness is mental then it's just impotence...

DjDreamer. I've read all the posts. It's you who isn't getting it. You and I are talking apples and oranges here. As far as your seeing more opportunity for yourself with more impotent men around, that's just an indication that you lack confidence to be competitive. I could care less about that! That's a story for another day.
Now as far as what I was talking about. I merely stated that you simply defined not needing women as being gay, impotent, or a big fan of hand-sports. You simply left out the possibility that some people are simply asexual. Meaning that YOU do NOT know what it means to be asexual.

 

[DjDreamer]

Originally posted by Yotsuya-san
DjDreamer. I've read all the posts. It's you who isn't getting it. You and I are talking apples and oranges here. As far as your seeing more opportunity for yourself with more impotent men around, that's just an indication that you lack confidence to be competitive. I could care less about that! That's a story for another day.

I label you content without a woman guys impotent and it's a problem and when I praise you content without a woman guys it's still a problem? LoL...amazing....

Originally posted by Yotsuya-san
Now as far as what I was talking about. I merely stated that you simply defined not needing women as being gay, impotent, or a big fan of hand-sports. You simply left out the possibility that some people are simply asexual. Meaning that YOU do NOT know what it means to be asexual.

Alright...let's clarify what it means to be asexual...

a·sex·u·al

adj.

1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
2. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.
3. Lacking interest in or desire for sex.

Now since you have a sex and you're not a unicellular organism that leaves the third definition to explain your past sexual self.

If you lack interest in sex then how would you know if your erection mechanism is working?

 

[Climax]

Trance see's the light

Originally posted by Trance
"No matter if a man says his goal is power, fame or money, our goal is always the search for true love"

Best post on this thread. HEED IT!

 

[rick6599]

I sex many girls, but I am single. And I looove it - sex roller coster yeaaaah!

 

[Yotsuya-san]

Originally posted by DjDreamer

Alright...let's clarify what it means to be asexual...

a·sex·u·al

adj.

1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.
2. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.
3. Lacking interest in or desire for sex.

Now since you have a sex and you're not a unicellular organism that leaves the third definition to explain your past sexual self.

If you lack interest in sex then how would you know if your erection mechanism is working?

DjDreamer,
The third definition only defines asexuality in the simplest of terms. Too simple, really. It totally misses the many degrees of asexuality.
The AVEN website discusses all of the various degrees of asexuality including my own. The linking factor in all of these different definitions is whether or not you feel the absolute urge to express that sexuality in any way other than to yourself. So, since some asexuals do masturbate, it is reasonable to assume that although they might experience erections in private self stimulation, they do not feel the need to act on it with anyone that they are attracted to.