At the 4-5 date stage, I think I go against the grain of most guys here... I will text a HB I am seeing if she texts me first, not generally right away, but within an hour or two if I am no busy, longer if I am. I keep all text convos funny, nothing serious ever, unless we are scheduling a meet.... But I will text for more than just that.. But even if she says something as basic as "what are you doing", my answer will be something like "getting my Kelvin Kleins ready for my dancing gig tonight" or "shining my handcuffs" or "doing what you do best, sitting on my a$$ on the couch". The one thing that is really better with text is the ability to just cut off and go NC. There aren't many things that drive a HB insane than when you are texting and all the sudden you just go cold and stop.. And she sends 3-4 texts and you don't reply.. When a HB does something to displease me, that's what I do, and it always ends up working out in my favor in regards to her wanting me more and IL. Much harder to do like this in a live phone call. I'm just not big on the phone call. As a kid like 10 and under I loved talking on the phone but as an adult I've never been much into it.. Maybe it's because I like doing more than one thing at a time and when talking on the phone often that's not as easy. A text is short, sweet, and to the point whereas with a phone call there is generally more BS chatter than concrete conversation. Thats my perception anyway... To each their own.