Constant Improvement

Brad324

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So here you are. Sitting in a dump you call your room, smelling like onion rings, masturbating like there's no tomorrow, wondering why you can't get no respect. I'll tell you why, it's because you don't think too much of yourself. Your confidence has drained so much that people have begun to expect less from you, causing you to expect less from yourself, and the spiral continues.

Well, let me ask you something - How can you be expected to deal with MORE when you can't deal with what you've already got? How can you expect to take care of a girl when you can't take care of yourself? How can you expect to gain respect from the opposite sex when you can't get respect from your so called buddies.

Here's the first step you need to take: Stop Whining. No-one cares. Just keep it to yourself.

Now, here's a new method I came up with:

Write a big list of ways you can improve yourself. Go into as much detail as possible. Instead of "keep room clean", split it into smaller tasks like "remove dishes from desk", "make bed", "put laundry away", etc. Go from personal hygiene, to fitness goals, to phoning your buddies, to saying hi to your mom, to reading your biology text, to getting an oil change for your car, ETC.

You should end up with a huge list that involves tasks like "take multivitamin", "shave", "actually eat breakfast", "drink at least 2L of water", "go to gym", "see the dentist". Now some of these are everyday things, but others can be every other day (like going to the gym). Just mark down the frequency beside the task.

Now every day, when you get up in the morning, look at which tasks you could be doing to keep your life in top shape, and just DO THEM. I don't care how pointless they seem, just do it. For 3 weeks, try to do as many as possible, and even add more as you come to think of it. You'll notice something after the 3rd week - these tasks just come natural now. They don't seem like work at all. They've become habit, and you don't even need to look at your list anymore. If you get into your car and there's garbage laying around, immediately you clean it. Have a chemistry assignment due in 3 days? Why not get started right now?

Now, you might be thinking "okay, but what does this have to do with meeting women? Becoming obsessive about minor things in my life would just be an obstacle!" But here's the magic of it all. Once you really have your OWN life under control, you will automatically start to have more respect for yourself. And you'll actually find yourself being willing to help other people. Helping OTHER people? But I'm supposed to be selfish right? Being selfish is good to an extent - don't sacrifice your own well being for someone else's convenience - But helping others, and being a DOER, is what ultimately will gain you respect. You will never have success with women if people don't respect you.

Once you have done these for 3 weeks, don't take a sigh of relief and slide back into your lazy state. KEEP LOOKING for ways to imrpove yourself. Now you can start focusing on communication skills, techniques for picking up women, finding a better job... constantly be tweaking yourself so that you can honestly say you're in better shape than you were last week.

While there's certainly no "quick fix" to getting your life together, I'm confident that doing things this way will set your life on the right track alot faster than any "feel good", motivational bull. You dont "think" your way into building muscle, you "DO" your way into it... over a long, consistent period of time, while constantly increasing your load. This same principle applies to the rest of your life, so don't let the line go slack, always be improving, and in as little as 2 months, you will be a new man.

I will be using the above technique starting today, and will report back weekly to tell you how it goes.
 

tactic

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You are right about the whining. Since whining doesn't get you anywhere, it's good to stop. However, writing down tasks like "fix bed" or "buy new table clothe" would only help you keep busy. I just recommend going to places where you can meet many people, join clubs and meetings, and let things flow.
 
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