Ok, so i've met this woman recently through my friends, i used to see her sometimes from far away but she never caught my attention, until one day she approached me and started talking to me, she wasnt all bad, said she wanted to see me again and i agreed, (i still didnt care for her that much but i was lonely and saw how hard she was trying to get to know me)
We started seeing each other several times a week, she asked me personal questions from the start, anything you can imagine she asked me. and after a while i really started to like her, she was smart, good looking, and fun to be around. but i still thought of her as a friend at the time and didnt want to go into any relationship or anything at all.
Then the days passed and we started getting more closer to one another and seeing each other almost everyday, she was just so forward with me and literally told me everything, i dont mean daily stuff gibberish, i mean personal things, and i did the same. and so i was actually starting to fall for her, which was something i didnt expect at all, days passed and every time i saw her i started having feelings for her even more. but the problem was is that i was not looking for any relationship and commitment at the time,
so one day i decided to open up my feelings for her, because i couldn't hold them inside any longer. so i told her and she just acted weird, said that she wasnt thinking of that at all. and said that we were just friends, now keep in mind, i havent told her anything til i was certain that we got know each other pretty good, and like i said she was so open with me, and flirty, like over the top flirty, her eyes would just follow me all over the room, i couldnt do anything without her commenting on it, she would always lean close to me whenever i spoke. she came to my house everyday, and would say things like ''will you think of me today?'' and whenever im doing any sort of activity, like working on something or using my phone, so would say i love when you do that!. which were things that none of my female friends (who i knew had no crush on me at all) ever said to me. this wasnt a "oh i do hope this girl likes me because i do" situation.
i wasnt afraid of that at all, i was more afraid of the commitment issue as im not very good at those and many woman left me because i couldn't commit. so like i said her face turned blank when i told her that. and so i told her:
"no pressure i just got so used to you and was really starting to have feelings for you." then i told her that its best that we dont see each other any longer, as my feelings would probably grow more that way. she said "Okay" but i could feel like she got really sad, her face expression when i told her goodbye was like i just killed her dog or something. i felt really bad, (but confused) generally if i dont have feelings for a woman then i wouldnt be like that if she said she said she didnt wanna see me. so a few days later, i thought about it, i wasnt ready for a relationship, and me and this girl were really having a good time. maybe being friends with her isnt a bad idea.
So i called her and told her that i had no problems being friends with her, and would like to see her again. and so its been a few months now since we've been friends. but man those were some terrible months.
Whenever we were speaking and i spoke about a girl i used to know or just met, so would go crazy, she would ask me literally everything about this girl. one day i saw her female friend (they were pretty close) and so i started to talk to her, then she came and saw us together and went crazy again, its like she didnt want me to talk to her or something. then later when we sat down together, she kept asking me what i think about her friend, and saying things "oh shes more beautiful than me" with a moaning tone. whenever a girl topic pops up (whether someone i just met or know or one of her friends) she would go into this jealous-mode. which to me just felt childish. like you said you didnt want us to have any relationship, and i agreed that we stay friends. why the heck are you acting like that?
Other things she used to do was nag me about everything, my habits, my friends, the way i behave. she would always say the weirdest things, like "i always wanna be with you" "think of me" and all that jazz. she was acting as my girlfriend even though we were not together. then i asked her again do you have feelings for me? maybe you didnt have those before but now you do. and she would always say no, i just think of you as a friend.
Now keep in mind, if this was a 16-17 chick i would have said, she was just confused, playing around or wasnt sure of her feelings. but she is 23, and overall she was a mature person in public from what i've seen. but why she acts like that baffles me.
Anyone had a similar situation? what is this girl's deal? does she wants the D? is she secretly attracted to me, is it the men and women cant be friends thing? or does she have issues and is insecure? and should i keep in contact with her?
Edit: one thing i failed to mention, is that in all the time i've known her, she does show genuine concern for me, always nice to me, when shes not going crazy jealous. which was a good sign for me and why i didnt say goodbye to her a long time ago. i tried to fix her, but that just seems impossible, never had any luck in changing a woman's ways before.
Edit 2: im writing this at 3AM and im tired sorry. last time it got heated and i told her that shes making it harder for us to be buddies if she keeps acting like that. and she went puppy-face again, not the manipulative face (trust me i know that one) the sad one. like im the love of her life and suddenly i told her i wanna break off with her and broke her heart face. which again confused me. but yeah, thought id mention this.
We started seeing each other several times a week, she asked me personal questions from the start, anything you can imagine she asked me. and after a while i really started to like her, she was smart, good looking, and fun to be around. but i still thought of her as a friend at the time and didnt want to go into any relationship or anything at all.
Then the days passed and we started getting more closer to one another and seeing each other almost everyday, she was just so forward with me and literally told me everything, i dont mean daily stuff gibberish, i mean personal things, and i did the same. and so i was actually starting to fall for her, which was something i didnt expect at all, days passed and every time i saw her i started having feelings for her even more. but the problem was is that i was not looking for any relationship and commitment at the time,
so one day i decided to open up my feelings for her, because i couldn't hold them inside any longer. so i told her and she just acted weird, said that she wasnt thinking of that at all. and said that we were just friends, now keep in mind, i havent told her anything til i was certain that we got know each other pretty good, and like i said she was so open with me, and flirty, like over the top flirty, her eyes would just follow me all over the room, i couldnt do anything without her commenting on it, she would always lean close to me whenever i spoke. she came to my house everyday, and would say things like ''will you think of me today?'' and whenever im doing any sort of activity, like working on something or using my phone, so would say i love when you do that!. which were things that none of my female friends (who i knew had no crush on me at all) ever said to me. this wasnt a "oh i do hope this girl likes me because i do" situation.
i wasnt afraid of that at all, i was more afraid of the commitment issue as im not very good at those and many woman left me because i couldn't commit. so like i said her face turned blank when i told her that. and so i told her:
"no pressure i just got so used to you and was really starting to have feelings for you." then i told her that its best that we dont see each other any longer, as my feelings would probably grow more that way. she said "Okay" but i could feel like she got really sad, her face expression when i told her goodbye was like i just killed her dog or something. i felt really bad, (but confused) generally if i dont have feelings for a woman then i wouldnt be like that if she said she said she didnt wanna see me. so a few days later, i thought about it, i wasnt ready for a relationship, and me and this girl were really having a good time. maybe being friends with her isnt a bad idea.
So i called her and told her that i had no problems being friends with her, and would like to see her again. and so its been a few months now since we've been friends. but man those were some terrible months.
Whenever we were speaking and i spoke about a girl i used to know or just met, so would go crazy, she would ask me literally everything about this girl. one day i saw her female friend (they were pretty close) and so i started to talk to her, then she came and saw us together and went crazy again, its like she didnt want me to talk to her or something. then later when we sat down together, she kept asking me what i think about her friend, and saying things "oh shes more beautiful than me" with a moaning tone. whenever a girl topic pops up (whether someone i just met or know or one of her friends) she would go into this jealous-mode. which to me just felt childish. like you said you didnt want us to have any relationship, and i agreed that we stay friends. why the heck are you acting like that?
Other things she used to do was nag me about everything, my habits, my friends, the way i behave. she would always say the weirdest things, like "i always wanna be with you" "think of me" and all that jazz. she was acting as my girlfriend even though we were not together. then i asked her again do you have feelings for me? maybe you didnt have those before but now you do. and she would always say no, i just think of you as a friend.
Now keep in mind, if this was a 16-17 chick i would have said, she was just confused, playing around or wasnt sure of her feelings. but she is 23, and overall she was a mature person in public from what i've seen. but why she acts like that baffles me.
Anyone had a similar situation? what is this girl's deal? does she wants the D? is she secretly attracted to me, is it the men and women cant be friends thing? or does she have issues and is insecure? and should i keep in contact with her?
Edit: one thing i failed to mention, is that in all the time i've known her, she does show genuine concern for me, always nice to me, when shes not going crazy jealous. which was a good sign for me and why i didnt say goodbye to her a long time ago. i tried to fix her, but that just seems impossible, never had any luck in changing a woman's ways before.
Edit 2: im writing this at 3AM and im tired sorry. last time it got heated and i told her that shes making it harder for us to be buddies if she keeps acting like that. and she went puppy-face again, not the manipulative face (trust me i know that one) the sad one. like im the love of her life and suddenly i told her i wanna break off with her and broke her heart face. which again confused me. but yeah, thought id mention this.
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