Confusing girlfriend need help ASAP

[JohnnyKeg20]

This guy I know just left for the military. His girlfriend and I are pretty tight. He worked at a club and I always went up there to drink and all. W'd always dance and she'd always seem to really enjoy being with me. Well last night we went out just the 2 of us and we got a little toasty. I was talking to my friend and she came up to me and just started holding me and grabing me and all and insisted that i dance with her. Well we danced and she took my hands and placed them at the bottom of her @ss and started moanin and kissing my neck, licking and sucking and biting and all! It's like she wanted to go right there. She's never been like this before. We danced for like two hours like this almost came real close to kissing a few times. Keep in mind she's got a boyfriend. We hold hands nearly the whole night and to the naked eye you'd say were boyfriend and girlfriend. I take her home cause she siad she's too drunk to drive. I stay on the couch but she did offer the bed with her but then siad that may get "complicated". She siad the next morning she kept saying the next morning, Oh we were soo drunk last night. Now maybe she was but i wasn't. She geniunely likes being around me and I think that she may have some hidden feelings about me. I feel a little guilty but then I don't. Is it possible she let some of her feeling come out when she was "drunk" and had no inhabitions? Please help me, I'm confused and caught between how I should handle this. Help DJs.Thanx

 

[Big Pappy]

I'm certain you're going to get varying opinions on this.
First, you haven't mentioned one thing - how do you feel about this girl? I'm guessing you find her pretty attractive, or you wouldn't have been so easy to manipulate on the dance floor.

Some girls remember everything when they get drunk, and the rest claim they don't. Who can say?

Second - what about your buddy in the service? Is it worth losing his friendship? and hers too, possibly?

I can't attest to what she is feeling now. My bet is, a bit horny - or lonely. Maybe both.

If you want to lay the pipe, do so. Be prepared though, to lose your friend and suffer a good deal of drama if he finds out.

Conversely, be prepared to quit her cold turkey when he gets back if he doesn't find out. Of course, she may dump him while he's still away, leaving her guilt free and not you.

So, perhaps you need to figure out what you want.
The moral choice is to not be around her when she's drinking.

Just my opinion and I could be wrong.

 

[JohnnyKeg20]

I like her and all and I find myself falling for her more and more. I'm not good friends with the guy, I mean i worked with him and all more or less aquatences. I just don't want to be a wrench in the wheel. They've only been datting for about a month or 2. My experiences when i'm drunk or buzzed is that i will say or do what is on my mind because i don't care , i have nothing holding those thoughts back. My guess is she's the same way?

 

[NewMan]

Sounds like a lot of drama to me.

You got to think whether you guy friend means anything to you. As rule, don't fvck with your buddies chick... so I'd say keep clear

 

[ToddRodd]

Man..... I'll say that once she gives you the green light again...... take it. Looks like she wanted to try you for a good while now and this is her chance.

Have fun man..... but don't try to wife her.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by ToddRodd
Man..... I'll say that once she gives you the green light again...... take it. Looks like she wanted to try you for a good while now and this is her chance.

Have fun man..... but don't try to wife her.

STFU noob. You just registered!

jk


Jonny - the only reason you want to hit on this girl is cause she's in your comfort zone. The other girls (girls you don't know) are out of your comfort zone. You want to extend the comfort zone to the point of talking to everybody, so forget about her and instead use her as social proof to get other girls.

Don't backstab your buddy

 

[ToddRodd]

Originally posted by Ice Cold


Don't backstab your buddy

Cool point.... but just how close is he to the girl's boyfriend exactly??? That's the question here.

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by ToddRodd
Cool point.... but just how close is he to the girl's boyfriend exactly??? That's the question here.

Excuses

This site is about growing balls, not making excuses about why you can **** your buddy's girl.

What's the difference? What if he's not THAT close? They still had some time together, didn't they?

The only thing that's stopping getting a hotter girl who's gonna be interested in him in t=10 mins is lack of balls.

 

[TesuqueRed]

We need to answer his basic question, I don't see it being addressed here. Most of the guys have been here awhile and know all this already because they're discussing it a few steps ahead. So, Jon-boy, lissen up:

a) BF goes to military and will be GONE and OUT OF SIGHT a LONG time.

b) girl can't handle being w/o a guy, and BF at Paris Island just isn't going to work.

c) girl choses you.

d) girl doesn't want to be known as a slvt, so girl prepares cover (known as anti-slvt defence--ASD--around here.)

e) girl gets drunk--she has cover.

f) girl moves on you.

g) girl manipulates it so you drive her home---ASD cover is that she's too drunk.

h) offers bed. ASD defense is that she's drunk.

i) you screw it up and take the couch.

j) next morning, she makes sure everyone's story is the same: everyone was drunk, she doesn't remember much, it can't be her fault. She has an alibi.

Basically---her plan was to get you worked up, arange for you to take her home but where she had a cover story, have "things just happen, she didn't know, you all drunk too much last night..." and--bingo--she has a new BF and it's not her fault, she's not a slvt, it just happened...

No confusion here---look at her actions, not her words. It was a straight up seduction on her part (you botched your role in her eyes, ok?) complete with heavy-duty ASD.

Now, the guys are a few steps ahead and are discussing whether you should or shouldn't go along with her plan. She's beginning to think you're clueless, but you may still have a shot. Now, pick up where they started---you want that?

 

[learningtopimp]

Has there ever been a girlfriend that WASN"T confusing?

 

[NatureGuy]

When you think about it, it's not that
confusing. She really likes you, and if
not for the boyfriend, would pursue
you without hesitation. But she does
have that boyfriend. Problem I see is
that if he's gone away (Military, School,
whatever) for some time, it's difficult
particularly at that age, to expect her
to stay committed or exclusive to him.
I think it's unrealistic to expect that. So she is probably mentally wrestling with this issue, and that's why you see some "confusing" behavior.

 

[BGD]

Heat her up a little. light Kissing, fondeling, sexy talk, more dancing.

But mimic her concern that it might get complicated if you go to far with her (alone).

Then suggeest that you bring in another person to the party.

Turn off the lights and dive in.

Then you can both blame it on the other girl.

 

[ToddRodd]

Originally posted by BGD
Heat her up a little. light Kissing, fondeling, sexy talk, more dancing.

But mimic her concern that it might get complicated if you go to far with her (alone).

Then suggeest that you bring in another person to the party.

Turn off the lights and dive in.

Then you can both blame it on the other girl.

Now you're thinking!

 

[JohnnyKeg20]

he really isn't a "great" buddy noone i see to often. So I think I may persue this with caution, we shall see. Thanks guys!

 

[CLOONEY]

yeah keep clear, she was drunk!

 

[Krassus]

HIDDEN feelings? From what you said, they don't seem that hidden. Recommended course of action (assuming he's a good friend and all):

1. Inform your friend
2. Fvck her brains out
3. Tell her she got played