WORKEROUTER
Master Don Juan
So as a couple previous posts of mine have probably illustrated, my current LTR of three months has a couple intermittent problems.
Last night, I'm joking with her friends about how I first met up with my gf (I went up to her straight after class in the hallway, introduced myself, and asked her out). Then she interjects how I was "stuttering and moving around a lot." And okay, maybe I was, but at least I had the balls to go up and approach her. So anyway, I got pissed at that and told her pretty much what I just said, and that most guys are too timid or scared of rejection to even do that.
THEN, she says something along the lines of "well from what I've seen the guys who just go straight up to a girl and ask her out are usually confident, but needy and desperate for a date...just kinda dorky" This f*cking pissed me off even more. I told her that at least those guys know they have some balls and aren't afraid of rejection. I told her to explain herself on this one.
Then it started going into how sometimes I can be so sweet and other times a complete d*ck who's full of himself. And when she said that sometimes she just gets tired of listening to me, I just told her she can walk out the door at any time..that I really don't give a damn. Then a little later she said she can't change her thoughts about me in one night.
Now I'll admit that I can be a jerk once in a while, especially if I'm just not in a very good mood that day. And I DO admit it.
But what pissed me off was that I took it as if to mean that she was calling me dorky and was insulting me, that that's how she thought of me in the beginning. Though I generally don't become flustered over mere insults, the idea is that it represents a larger, more important issue at stake: the person I'm having a relationship with doesn't seem to give me FULL respect. This can only lead to a plethora of other problems down the line, and I have no desire to deal with them.
And what also pisses me off is that she doesn't seem to acknowledge all the times she acts like a b*tch, or the times that I've stuck with her through stuff.
Anyway, the rest of the night really didn't go well. I was irritated and began arguing with her, and then now she gets all pissy. And plus there's no sex.
So all in all this was just a lousy time. Part of my problem it seems like is that I just won't tolerate crap from people. I'm often very blunt and very straightforward.
But I think that I need to learn to be more romantic in a way. I've come to realize that we're on two different platforms here...she's on an emotional one, and I'm on a logical one. No matter how much I try to reason things out, she'll just stay as dense as she was initially, and I'll just get frustrated. So I need to tap into that "casanova" sense, to make her FEEL something, to get her juices flowing not through argument but through the pathways of emotion.
Last night, I'm joking with her friends about how I first met up with my gf (I went up to her straight after class in the hallway, introduced myself, and asked her out). Then she interjects how I was "stuttering and moving around a lot." And okay, maybe I was, but at least I had the balls to go up and approach her. So anyway, I got pissed at that and told her pretty much what I just said, and that most guys are too timid or scared of rejection to even do that.
THEN, she says something along the lines of "well from what I've seen the guys who just go straight up to a girl and ask her out are usually confident, but needy and desperate for a date...just kinda dorky" This f*cking pissed me off even more. I told her that at least those guys know they have some balls and aren't afraid of rejection. I told her to explain herself on this one.
Then it started going into how sometimes I can be so sweet and other times a complete d*ck who's full of himself. And when she said that sometimes she just gets tired of listening to me, I just told her she can walk out the door at any time..that I really don't give a damn. Then a little later she said she can't change her thoughts about me in one night.
Now I'll admit that I can be a jerk once in a while, especially if I'm just not in a very good mood that day. And I DO admit it.
But what pissed me off was that I took it as if to mean that she was calling me dorky and was insulting me, that that's how she thought of me in the beginning. Though I generally don't become flustered over mere insults, the idea is that it represents a larger, more important issue at stake: the person I'm having a relationship with doesn't seem to give me FULL respect. This can only lead to a plethora of other problems down the line, and I have no desire to deal with them.
And what also pisses me off is that she doesn't seem to acknowledge all the times she acts like a b*tch, or the times that I've stuck with her through stuff.
Anyway, the rest of the night really didn't go well. I was irritated and began arguing with her, and then now she gets all pissy. And plus there's no sex.
So all in all this was just a lousy time. Part of my problem it seems like is that I just won't tolerate crap from people. I'm often very blunt and very straightforward.
But I think that I need to learn to be more romantic in a way. I've come to realize that we're on two different platforms here...she's on an emotional one, and I'm on a logical one. No matter how much I try to reason things out, she'll just stay as dense as she was initially, and I'll just get frustrated. So I need to tap into that "casanova" sense, to make her FEEL something, to get her juices flowing not through argument but through the pathways of emotion.
