Confused???!?!?

[cruesoepolo]

Here's the dilemma,

I like this girl, we've been dating about a month..The other day, we went out. We hug & hold hands and stuff all the time, and we were really good friends b4 we got together. She gave me a hug, and asked if I could kiss her (to which she replied yes), and I did for about a second, before she pulled away & said 'this is strange'....she mentioned something about being a bit fast, & shyness.......

I'm confused, now she won't talk2me..

UPDATE:

Saw her yesterday, she said she still liked me & wanted to be mi girlfriend, but needed time to think bout stuff, bout herself?

I'm just confused, how can she want time to think about herself yet still want to go out, surely, this means she's hesitant?

She's not got anyone else (its not like that), but isnt us together doomed/wrecked?

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

How long have you been "friends"?

 

[cruesoepolo]

Bout 6 months, but i was never really in the friends zone, lots of c&f?

 

[Thomas94305]

Suggest you "lean back" for a while. Go on a date, and don't try to kiss her. If she asks, just wait. Forced romance is not romance. A DJ is not a rapist.. he just builds a life where he is not dependent on a particular girl. She needs a little comfort, she needs to let go of the friendship and move into a romance with you. Your leaning back is telling her that you are in control, and she can't get things out of you simply by withholding kisses or giving them.

But, don't play her games or give her power. If she's not your gf, you're free to see others. If you want kissing, and she won't, then don't see her so often, you can tell her that you enjoy romance and affection, and you are wondering that she might not be that type of person. She'll then have a choice to make.

 

[cruesoepolo]

Can anyone help?

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

The way i see it there are 3 doors and you have to choose only one.You could keep things neutral and see what happens,you could relax a bit and bring your game a notch down to setup that bf/gf illusion,or you could attack head on. . Depends on her (real) interest level i guess.

 

[cruesoepolo]

just still confused...

 

[DonJuanForever]

crue, listen.

Now, a lot of guys jump on the forum and begin posting without CHANGING THEIR SELVES. If you would read the DJ Bible beginning at the new bie section, you'll be on the right road.

First off, you have too much oneitis and you are not ENJOYING WOMEN. You are rather sticking to one bytch like magnet, and you are doing that because you don't know YOU'VE GOT A FIELD OF WOMEN RIGHT NOW WHO WANT YOU.

Serioulsy, friends and dating for a month and you have not fvcked her? First off, if you have not fvcked her or at least know you are about to fvck her, SHE'S NOT YOUR GIRLFRIEND, PERIOD. Dude, you are the prize! We want sex, women want relationships. Why give her want she wants, when she clearly won't give you want you want? This means, sadly, YOU ARE IN THE FRIEND ZONE, without you knowing it. The Friend Zone is you "playing the boyfriend part" without the girl playing the girlfriend part.

It goes like this, she fvcks you and caters go to you and shows you she likes you, THEN....you can be in a relationship with her. But I don't think you've read the DJ Bible starting at the newbie section. A lot of guys skip that and still wonder why their pvssy flow is off.