Confused with a Woman I have feelings for

lunaz

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Ok,

I met a woman who is a co-worker. We hit it off and flirted and saw each other almost everyday. We IM each other at work all day too. One day we all went out for drink after work and the whole time she kept giving me a look. We ended up making out for awhile and I thought things where going great. The next day we went out for lunch and made out in the car like teenagers and I was leaving for the weekend and she was sad. I get a txt message on the weekend that says she has been seeing someone else for about 1 month, but she really likes me and is confused. She was off sick for 3 days and when she came back to work she said we had to talk. The whole day she was very rude to me and eventually told me she now has a BF.

It turns out she was pregnant from him and that is why she picked him over me. I was a bit hurt because I had STRONG feelings for her. Some time passed and we still talked and would hang out but not nearly as much. She would always complain to me about her BF and that he was being a dbag. She decided to get an abortion and the day she was going to go through with it she called me at 4:30am in the morning crying and upset. Her Ex told her to **** off and he wasn't going with her. She broke up with her BF a few days earlier and he was still supposed to go with her to get an abortion. I told her I would go with her and told her to tell me when she wanted me to pick her up. She agreed and seemed very thankful and very happy. I waited and waited for a few hours and she never called me back. It turns out her ex BF went with her, but she didn't tell me anything.

Few days pass and she sends me a txt thanking me for all my support and it means a lot to her. She takes a week off work and we don't really talk at all. When she returns she see's me at the coffee shop and sends me a txt saying it was sooo sooo good to see me. Then she says she really wants to see me and we go out for lunch together and she gives me several hugs and is smiling all the time. I then find out she is back with her BF, but she always wants to see me and talks to me all day. She always calls me sunshine and love. She gets upset if I don't meet her for a smoke or invite her for coffee. She is ALWAYS interested in my love life with other woman and gets upset if I don't tell her. FYI she knows how I feel about her.

I still have strong feelings for her, but I am soo confused. Does she actually like me or is playing me for a fool because I give her attention?
 
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Tiguere

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welcome to the board MR NICEGUY!

i dont understand how you went from making out with her to being her emotional tampon? how come you never took her to bed. were you waiting for her to grab you by the hand.


as you can see her boyfriend the the typical jerk who treats women like crap and they always comeback for more.

if you wanna succeed with women you have to start adopting this mindset.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzUZGqDV_f4
 

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Dear Lunaz,
She sees in you what many of us older Guys would see,A Bluddy good bloke......She will never forget your principaled gesture,at the least you have a long term friend....Looked at more cynically,you can easily get whatever you want from her regardless of who else is on the scene.
 

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Is there any reason why you let her do this to you? You pretty much brought it upon yourself by letting her decide what she gets from you.

Abort now, she's a lost cause. Waste your time and energy on something or someone more productive.

Also: break your wall of text up to paragraphs.
 

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Tiguere said:
welcome to the board MR NICEGUY!

i dont understand how you went from making out with her to being her emotional tampon? how come you never took her to bed. were you waiting for her to grab you by the hand.


as you can see her boyfriend the the typical jerk who treats women like crap and they always comeback for more.

if you wanna succeed with women you have to start adopting this mindset.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzUZGqDV_f4
Just because she was making out with him doesn't mean she wants to have sex with him.

she will always take the boyfriend over you. Why the hell were you going to go with her for an abortion? That is not your problem son. Let her figure it out. You are doing way more for her than she will ever do for you. That is why you will never have her and will always get burned with women. She has her boyfriend and she doesn't want you except as a string along.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Tiguere said:
welcome to the board MR NICEGUY!

i dont understand how you went from making out with her to being her emotional tampon? how come you never took her to bed. were you waiting for her to grab you by the hand.


as you can see her boyfriend the the typical jerk who treats women like crap and they always comeback for more.

if you wanna succeed with women you have to start adopting this mindset.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzUZGqDV_f4
Oh god, this man is hilarious!
 

lunaz

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Yea, I am waay to nice of a guy. Maybe I should start treating her like crap since it seems to work for her BF.

She was really drunk that night and I left around midnight and she stayed out. She called me around 2am and I should have met her because I would have most likely had sex with her.

I let her do this to me because I thought if I was nice and listened to her she would come crawling to me. She always says she wants a nice guy, but clearly she is full of it.

What do you mean Scaramouche? How can I get whatever I want from her? She is damn hot!!!!

Do I have any chance with her? Any tips on how to get her or is she a lost cause?
 

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lunaz said:
Yea, I am waay to nice of a guy. Maybe I should start treating her like crap since it seems to work for her BF.

She was really drunk that night and I left around midnight and she stayed out. She called me around 2am and I should have met her because I would have most likely had sex with her.

I let her do this to me because I thought if I was nice and listened to her she would come crawling to me. She always says she wants a nice guy, but clearly she is full of it.

What do you mean Scaramouche? How can I get whatever I want from her? She is damn hot!!!!

Do I have any chance with her? Any tips on how to get her or is she a lost cause?

You need to read Roissy STAT. My man theres way too much to dissect in your OP to comment on. Read the DJ bible. Absorb some PUA material. You got lot to learn my friend.
 

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lunaz said:
I let her do this to me because I thought if I was nice and listened to her she would come crawling to me. She always says she wants a nice guy, but clearly she is full of it.
That was painful to read. Nothing against you, it just reminds me of my younger years.

The nice guy finishes last because the girl is all used up and no real man wants her anymore. That's what fairy tales don't tell you. Good thing you're starting to realize this now.

There was a point in my life when I realized that what society tells you is to live like a scavenger. Finish up what's left of the kill that the Top Dog of the food chain leaves behind.

Also, success with women doesn't mean you have to be a jerk, just assertive in what you want. You don't have to be a jackass, just resourceful and direct with what you want.
 

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She sounds f_cking nuts to me.
You are her bytch too, by the way.

Dont worry mate we have (most of us) all been in this situation before.

Eject eject eject eject eject eject.............
 

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Well, I told her that I couldn't be friends with her and I didn't appreciate her stringing me along and sending me signals that she liked me. She basically told me to **** off and to never speak to her again.

hahaha.. frick her!
 
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