confused why she hasn't replied to 2nd text?

[pete101]

as per my other thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=165289

the general concensus was that she's not attracted to me which i find strange cos i felt/thought she was, more so than other girls i've been out with who were interested too.

i sent her a text to meet up this weekend at 8pm , she tells me 'hi, im not too sure about saturday. i have some work to do and dont know what time i will finish but it will definitely be later than 8pm. you wanna change the time or the day?'

it was basically a semi-counter offer. but i did mention to her on our 1st date i would be choosing either fri or sat for our next date depending on when i/we were going out with our own friends as fri/sat is party nights or date nights. (we're both at college on campus). her work thing may be legit cos she gets minor modelling work quite frequently.

so i took a risk on the basis of already mentioning either fri or sat and chose friday as the alternative even knowing full well i'd look too available offering both fri and sat night to change my schedule around her. i tried to be coy about it in my response but i think i failed, 'i can. im going out with my friends either fri or sat but which day depends on when me and u would be meeting 1st.. (date location 1) has no time issue so we can make it later, but (date location 2) closes at 9 so we can go (date location 3) 1st then to a different (date location 2) after. hows tomorrow at 9?'

i sent this last night after an hour after her response. my initial text was at 6pm, her response was at 8.45pm, i sent my last response at 9.45pm. i've had no response since..

was i coming across too available and subcommunicating i was too keen?

if she doesnt get back to me, im bound to bump into her on campus. how should i behave, should i be polite, say hello smile but ignore her and dont talk to her, or should i bring up her not getting back to me? or should i pretend it never happened and just talk to her to set up another date in person?

im really confused what to do in these situations.

 

[AlexTheGreat]

'i can. im going out with my friends either fri or sat but which day depends on when me and u would be meeting 1st.. (date location 1) has no time issue so we can make it later, but (date location 2) closes at 9 so we can go (date location 3) 1st then to a different (date location 2) after. hows tomorrow at 9?'

3 things:

First, the fact that you put your date with her in front of your friend shows your priorities: aka you are too available.

Second, don't plan out on text what you're gonna do with her. Especially not on a 2nd date. Have a plan ready, and propose it to her. If she's not okay with that, you are fine and will do something else. No changing your plans or being too flexible for someone you barely know.

Third, listen to jungle-man. Either call or see her in person, but keep texting to a minimum.


If I were to rewrite your text, it'd look something like this:

'I've already got plans for Friday, but I'd love to see you on Saturday. Let's get together at 9 and go to [location 1]. I'll even let you buy me a drink in exchange for my good company "

 

[Captain]

Stop texting. You've blended in with every other chump who hasn't had the confidence to call.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Off course, you refuse to pay attention to what the guys said to you. She is not interested in you. One could see that coming from a mile away, yet you couldn't.

Ok, you gave it one more shot, and she is not showing much interest. Time to move on.

Don't bother with this one anymore. Done. Over with. Move onto the next one. Go find a next one, and learn from this experience.

 

[j0n24]

The easiest thing I can say to you is .....WHY should YOU care?

She didnt care enough for YOU to get back to you and say sorry or actually go out on the date with you, so why should you care to even talk to her when you see her?

I say forget the b1tch and look for someone else, you dont need to be all friendly toward her since she just sh1t on your invitation to go out, so just act like you could care less about some bimbo.

good luck.

 

[pete101]

Off course, you refuse to pay attention to what the guys said to you. She is not interested in you. One could see that coming from a mile away, yet you couldn't.

Ok, you gave it one more shot, and she is not showing much interest. Time to move on.

Don't bother with this one anymore. Done. Over with. Move onto the next one. Go find a next one, and learn from this experience.

but i dont understand.. she counter offered with me giving her another time. isnt that a sign of interest at that point? (obviously my response has made her lose interest)

are u saying this to spare my feelings cos she doesnt know what to do so says shes busy saturday night but asks me for another day/time but then decides not to reply to that?

 

[Energizer]

Girls hate turning down guys Pete, they'd rather stall and hum and ha about things then tell a man the truth. She is not interested in you mate, find someone who is.

I went on a date with a girl who seemed really interested in me from the get go, went on a date, thought things went well, evidently she didn't feel the same way, I went to arrange another date, she agreed for a week and then delayed it a few times, I was like you convinced she was generally busy and sooner rather than later, I got fed up of her games, so cut all ties with her.

I saw her a few months ago at a club and guess what? She looks like a drunk mans vomit. She wasnt worth my time, this girl isn't worth yours.

 

[She_feelin_Me]

I would forget about it....maybe get use to it because some girls tend to flake out on dudes for no apparent reason.

Ok say you see her at school just play it cool and not mention her standing you up. She know what she did wrong and you really dont know her so dont bring it up just get keep it cool. I woulddnt go out my way to speak either. Let her come to you.

 

[romangod]

but i dont understand..

Truer words were never spoken. :yes:

Maybe she found some Italian guy that you were fretting about in your last topic. You reek of desperation and chumpdom. Even if somehow you amazingly get her she'll chew you up and spit you out without a second thought. Time to work on yourself and save some heartache.

Cheers!