Confused she 'friendzones' me but comes to my house - enlighten me

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Hi fellas
Been a longtime. I was on my grind.
Met a 7 year older woman. She is a dime, has a carreer, her own business and house. I got my sh*t together also.
We were the same time and place somehwere and had fun interacting. We had to do the same thing, I grabbed her number.

I asked her out on a date and we went for food. I let her do most talking, we had a very good date. I looked her long and deep in the eyes, made her laugh, we got to know eachother, it was just fun. At the date a couple of things happened. She said ''when can I go on vacation with you?'' and we moved to a bar after eating.

At the bar she sat very close to me, touched my arms, I grabbed her hands, looked at her rings, there was cexual tension! She told me she had a long relationship for 10 years and the it was very very complicated with no children. I didn't ask for more information. Then she said ''What do you expect from me?'' I said nothing.Then she says ''I see that you are a very dominant man''. I say ''why?'' she says ''I think it's funny but I can sense it from the beginning I met you'' I said ''I am very dominant indeed'' She says ''I am submissive'' ''No joke i am not.

Then she says ''Don't expect nothing from me''. I say: okay same from me, I find you very attractive but I just want to get to know you for now. We leave the bar and I ask her back to my crib but she friendly declines, she says another time.

She texts me the same night and the day after some random chitchat. Now 3 days later I ask her to my crib, Im going to cook for her and now listen boys.

Her: That's so nice of you! So sweet!
but....
I don't want to give you the wrong signals but I want to keep this friendly to be honest. Next to the fact that you are a very attractive youngman I want to keep this stuff friendly. Is that okay for you?''

Me: ''So you wanna be my sister? hahaha''
Me: ''You know I find you attractive, but for me it's no problem''
Her: Hahah I could be your mother (joking around shes only 7 years older)
Her: Well if that's okay for you then I'll come saturday at 8 to you, cozy!!!

So we set for saturdayevening.

My thoughts on this with so much experience. She fits me, (on the looks), I am taller. She sit next to me, touched my arms, there was cexual tension the whole date, I could feel it. Next to that, why would she come over to my house if she really doesn't want nothing. She is coming to my house without knowing me very well, I was dominant. I am planning on escalating anyway. But what do you guys think?

What are your thoughts on this boys?
If she comes to your house, escalate.

If she doesn't cooperate, send her packing and never invite her out again.

And if she ever mentions friendship again, first block her number, then delete it.
 

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Thanks for being positive. We will see. Yes, nice good pvssy. No, still good pvssy because I got 2 other fine options.
Then why are you even pursuing a woman who is 7 years older than you?
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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Thanks for being positive. We will see. Yes, nice good pvssy. No, still good pvssy because I got 2 other fine options.
Did you want me to tell you to sit by the phone and wait for her to reach out?

If she wants to she will. But from what you've stated, sounds like she won't. Being positive and realistic are two different things.

It's good you have other options. Forget about her and pursue them.
 

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LOL. She gave you a friendzone and you invite her over?
that si why she flake, if she did show up saturday she would have sex with him,

guys remember see what she does not what she says, if she says only friends, but you invite her out for 1x1, she goes and you kino, push for a kiss, and you bed her, she still can call you friend for all she cares, you did your job and get what you wanted.

like I said does not matter, or he pursue risk being needy, find another (he said he does), or use her as proxy, its just wait and see.
 

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I'd go silent for a while and see if she reaches out. You don't know what other options she is juggling, and Holiday time is hectic, especially if she has kids.

Never know, you might get a text saying the kids at the dad's and she's drinking a margarita ....alone..... Giddy up....
 

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The complete opposite. She has no interest in him, and the friendzone was just to be polite lol.
correct that is the thing she know what would happen, and then he need to decide with of the 3 options he would so, I would forget her, but each to his own
 

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LOL. She gave you a friendzone and you invite her over?
Did you want me to tell you to sit by the phone and wait for her to reach out?

If she wants to she will. But from what you've stated, sounds like she won't. Being positive and realistic are two different things.

It's good you have other options. Forget about her and pursue them.
It's positive to move on. There's nothing positive about wasting your time on women that want to be "friends".
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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she wants you to make the moves for sex so afterwards she can say oh my this wasnt supposed to happen as she smiles and snuggled deeper in your arms afterwards.
 

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@TheGambino I've been reading on this forum for a while, and IIRC, you do this often.

You create a thread about a situation with a girl, acting somewhat butthurt, then about 10-15 replies later, you say something like, "ahh fvck it. I got other b!tches anyway."

Smh
 

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@TheGambino I've been reading on this forum for a while, and IIRC, you do this often.

You create a thread about a situation with a girl, acting somewhat butthurt, then about 10-15 replies later, you say something like, "ahh fvck it. I got other b!tches anyway."

Smh
I only post about women that give me a headache. The ones that are submissive, do what i want and fvck and cook and hang out. I dont post.
 

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I only post about women that give me a headache. The ones that are submissive, do what i want and fvck and cook and hang out. I dont post.
Youz a playa.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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