Confused, Confused, Confused - Please help Pro's

[squirrels]

Why did you give her flowers?

Were you hoping she'd feel like she'd owe you some girly affection?

When she said, "Yeah, I thought they were from Mike, but he only wants ass." What she MEANT was, "You're trying to get ass just like Mike, aren't you??"

And you feverently reassured her that you weren't interested in her that way.

You are in a bad situation.

 

[Realityburn]

Meh, I honestly don't think thats what she meant to me.

-shrug-

 

[The TallOne]

Originally posted by Realityburn
Meh, I honestly don't think thats what she meant to me.

-shrug-

Look between the lines.

She mentioned that Mike gives her flowers, in hope of sex.

You gave her flowers also.

See the connection?

 

[Kaine]

Priceless

Did you learn something from this experience?

Lets recap with our~ dum dum da dum!::

Interest level ometer!!!!
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Brad Pitt 99pts
Piece of chicken stuck between teeth 8pts
Reality Burns 4pts
Flatemate mike who wants ass -10pts
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The judges I'm afraid score you below the food stuck between her teeth but you come out on top over her flatmate who wants a piece of her ass!

You get to keep the receipt for the vase of flowers as a consolation prize and a download of the fabulous DJ Bible *CHEER*

Thank you for playing come again

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

She didn't even have the decency to thank you over the phone but instead contacted you through the internet - I wonder why??? No I don't!

You don'y have to give up hope of chasing other women because of this - just don't go after your "friends"!

She didn't burn you - you burned yourself by putting the cart before the horse - there is a proper way of doing things.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by Realityburn
Thanks,

your probably right, I'll probably just revert back to my normal schedule of hitting the gym and soaking my time up with work and hobbies for now.

I won't show any weakness

and by not showing any weakness, you should absolutely NOT treat her any different. Maybe don't hang out with her as much. But don't cut her off completely.

In fact, by acting totally normal and non chalant about it, you can turn this mistake around. In fact, you should have firmly stated that by giving her flowers, you were NOT doing it to try to hit on her.

Remain detached. Act like you just did it out of kindness. Aloof detachment. It can work if you are a good enough actor (and really works if you are in any way good looking).

Just don't cut her off completely or do anything in front of her that makes her think that you are upset because your advances weren't accepted by her.

Keep this up long enough and you WILL get her wondering.

I did the same mistake with a couple bottles of wine. Later, when the woman in question enquired about it, I said I wasn't trying to hit on her. (I, in fact, wasn't, it was because I had made an off the cuff C&F comment that really upset her, and I felt bad about it, plus, it had the potential for making me look like a real d*ckhead)

I never, ever, did anything after that, that would remotely look like I was interested in her. Then she started gravitating towards me after a couple months. I was just always polite, but remained ALOOF (not to the point of rudeness) and DETACHED.

Hook, line and sinker. It worked, but it took much work. (Keep in mind, I didn't know this girl in any context except seeing her at a place I frequent from time to time, unlike you, who befriended this chick for some silly reason) You can still do this WHILE maintaining a detached, polite relationship with this woman. But keep in mind, it should be a SIDE project while you go off in pursuit of other snatch, and pursue other snatch openly - make sure she knows about it.

Aloof detachment whilst being friendly and polite can work.

Then, to quote a very nice analogy of Player_Supreme's, you wait, like a vampire, cunningly looking for that opportunity to be invited in.......

 

[Desdinova]

I agree that she was sending you the message that you want her ass too by indirectly comparing you to Mike.

I would have loved to be in that online conversation. Here's what I would have done:

Her: I got your flowers, they were very sweet
Me: Were they dead?
Her: No
Me: Dammit, I told them to send dead ones.
Her: Why?
Me: Because dead ones are cheaper
Her: oh.

Not really any point to that, but at least I would have laughed.

Anyway, forget about this chick. You've already fvcked it up beyond belief. Go read the DJ bible and fix yourself up.

 

[saki]

This whole thread is fvcking hilarious! I really enjoyed it, Thank you RealityBurn for starting this one

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Realityburn
-UPDATE-

So late Saturday night she gets online and she messages me along the lines of

Her: Hey
Me: Whats up
Her: I got your flowers, they were very sweet
Me: Thats good, hope you liked em
Her: Heh, I thought they were from Mike at first [-note- her room-mate who she hates]
Me: lol, I figured you might think something like that at first
Her: Yah, wouldn't be anything new, he's given me flowers before, only in hopes of getting ass though
Me: lol, yah that sounds like Mike

Rest of the convo I can't remember, wasn't a long convo, she said BRB and signed off, never got back on. I didn't get heads of what her answer was.

I read the Bible, have no idea on how to proceed

its done, its over, cant be fixed,
instead of saying a conversation killer like , "lol yah that sounds like mike derr eh duurr"
U SHUDA SAID "why can't a man just respect a women these days, especially for international women's day.
and of course this is bull****, but she wont be sure and u can play off this.
etc...

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Desdinova
I agree that she was sending you the message that you want her ass too by indirectly comparing you to Mike.

I would have loved to be in that online conversation. Here's what I would have done:

Her: I got your flowers, they were very sweet
Me: Were they dead?
Her: No
Me: Dammit, I told them to send dead ones.
Her: Why?
Me: Because dead ones are cheaper
Her: oh.

Not really any point to that, but at least I would have laughed.

Anyway, forget about this chick. You've already fvcked it up beyond belief. Go read the DJ bible and fix yourself up.

and then continue with, the dead ones really do resemble what i want to see you like tommorow night
then stare and smile, while licking your lips every 10 seconds.