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Fruitbat

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Occasionally I have a little voice or internal dialogue of fear. Fear I might lose everything, fear I will fail at job (despite doing it for 20 years and never being fired).

I find that sleep and diet play a huge role. All the self-help stuff I’ve read is aimed at retards and low confidence women. Things like “try to speak to 2 people at a party”. That’s easy. I want to be bulletproof.

occasionally I get into a mode where every fear evaporates. What if, what if….and I’ll think ‘whatever happens I will ace it’. This is the exception.

Has anyone been successful in quieting the internal worrier/critic? Bear in mind I am naturally a worrier and always was since a small boy.

I feel if I could get that confidence, I could be a LOT happier and successful. I guess this comes under DNGAF?

any thoughts?
 

AmsterdamAssassin

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"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
 

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Occasionally I have a little voice or internal dialogue of fear. Fear I might lose everything, fear I will fail at job (despite doing it for 20 years and never being fired).

I find that sleep and diet play a huge role. All the self-help stuff I’ve read is aimed at retards and low confidence women. Things like “try to speak to 2 people at a party”. That’s easy. I want to be bulletproof.

occasionally I get into a mode where every fear evaporates. What if, what if….and I’ll think ‘whatever happens I will ace it’. This is the exception.

Has anyone been successful in quieting the internal worrier/critic? Bear in mind I am naturally a worrier and always was since a small boy.

I feel if I could get that confidence, I could be a LOT happier and successful. I guess this comes under DNGAF?

any thoughts?
That little voice is simply the ego doing its evolutionary job. Thank it and dismiss its warning. You've been successful up til now, right? So it stands to reason you will continue to work hard and enjoy success. The ego is just working out scenarios because 10,000+ years ago survival was a lot less certain.

Here's a tip: Worry about good stuff happening. What if you get a promotion? A huge raise? What if you invest in something and it pays out big time? Your brain doesn't know the difference and will accept what you tell it. Worry is just self punishment.
 

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"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."
The Sleeper must awaken... in the belly of a worm... drinking the juice of Sapho.


All the self-help stuff I’ve read is aimed at retards and low confidence women.
Amazon's category "Personal Transformation Self-Help" includes:
#52 : No More Mr Nice Guy
#348 : The Rational Male

I'm disagree those self-help books are "aimed at retards and low confidence women".
 
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