If someone asked me what is the most important quality when it comes to approaching women, I'd say confidence. Confidence is the one thing that separates the needy, desperate guy and the guy that is totally indifferent about whether "this one girl" will fall for him and his attempts at winning her. The other guy knows that other girls are bound to come, and he doesn't place all his hopes on the one girl.
Every girl out there likes a confident guy. Approaching a girl confidently makes you better in their eyes. I've seen many fairly good looking guys fidget and be all nervous around a girl they were supposed to hook up with. The relationships that came out of the whole thing were either short-lasting or didn't form in the first place.
The problem is, not everyone is confident. You see, confidence comes from doing something successfully in the past, and then being sure of your success about doing the same thing in the future. This can be applied to anything, from sports to video games, and even dating. If you hooked up with a hot girl once, who's to say another one with similar attributes won't like you? The thing is, it's hard to start from scratch. If you never had a relationship before, or EVEN WORSE, you had relationships in which you were the abused one, the one that always had to work harder to keep the girl, it's hard to have that sense of "I did it before, and I can do it again.".
So here's the deal.
1. Make female friends. You know, just go down the friend lane on purpose. You WANT to be friends with them. Any girl will do, but it's better if you can find one that you went to school with or something like that. This is for building better conversationalist skills with women. You can learn many things, even experiment. See what jokes and teases work on girls, how you can keep the conversation going, learn to be comfortable when talking to a girl.
2. Start going to the gym. Confidence comes with better looks also, and going to the gym will boost your self-esteem one way or the other. Get your ass out of that chair and build muscle/lose fat. You'll feel a lot better.
3. Have a circle of male friends you can hang out with at any time. No girl likes a guy that doesn't have friends. You'll be a lot better off going with 2-3 friends to the bar or club than going alone looking around for someone to talk to.
When you feel like you really don't have anything to be proud and confident of, notice the flaws other people have. Flaws that, say, a girlfriend and boyfriend that are walking together have. Are they fat? Ugly? Are their clothes dirty? I know I'm sounding dumb here, but it's all about making yourself feel better, by noticing that YOU ARE better. Would you really want a girlfriend that's dumb? Ugly? Fat? These days you'll see many people that hooked up with someone, and you know what? Some of them are butt-ugly. And some of them are just dumb. Idiots. And when I see couples like this, I just get pissed off, I feel that they don't deserve the "slice of paradise" I'm having as well, because they're just... not worthy of it! Why would they ever hook up with one-another if not for desperation? And then just think to yourself "You're not that desperate, are you? I mean, look at this. Is this what you strive for? If you will not conform with this, then wait for your chance for a better prey. It will come once you go down the path of self-improvement and become confident." It probably came before, only you didn't have the nerve to see it. But that probably changed now that you found this site, right?
Every girl out there likes a confident guy. Approaching a girl confidently makes you better in their eyes. I've seen many fairly good looking guys fidget and be all nervous around a girl they were supposed to hook up with. The relationships that came out of the whole thing were either short-lasting or didn't form in the first place.
The problem is, not everyone is confident. You see, confidence comes from doing something successfully in the past, and then being sure of your success about doing the same thing in the future. This can be applied to anything, from sports to video games, and even dating. If you hooked up with a hot girl once, who's to say another one with similar attributes won't like you? The thing is, it's hard to start from scratch. If you never had a relationship before, or EVEN WORSE, you had relationships in which you were the abused one, the one that always had to work harder to keep the girl, it's hard to have that sense of "I did it before, and I can do it again.".
So here's the deal.
1. Make female friends. You know, just go down the friend lane on purpose. You WANT to be friends with them. Any girl will do, but it's better if you can find one that you went to school with or something like that. This is for building better conversationalist skills with women. You can learn many things, even experiment. See what jokes and teases work on girls, how you can keep the conversation going, learn to be comfortable when talking to a girl.
2. Start going to the gym. Confidence comes with better looks also, and going to the gym will boost your self-esteem one way or the other. Get your ass out of that chair and build muscle/lose fat. You'll feel a lot better.
3. Have a circle of male friends you can hang out with at any time. No girl likes a guy that doesn't have friends. You'll be a lot better off going with 2-3 friends to the bar or club than going alone looking around for someone to talk to.
When you feel like you really don't have anything to be proud and confident of, notice the flaws other people have. Flaws that, say, a girlfriend and boyfriend that are walking together have. Are they fat? Ugly? Are their clothes dirty? I know I'm sounding dumb here, but it's all about making yourself feel better, by noticing that YOU ARE better. Would you really want a girlfriend that's dumb? Ugly? Fat? These days you'll see many people that hooked up with someone, and you know what? Some of them are butt-ugly. And some of them are just dumb. Idiots. And when I see couples like this, I just get pissed off, I feel that they don't deserve the "slice of paradise" I'm having as well, because they're just... not worthy of it! Why would they ever hook up with one-another if not for desperation? And then just think to yourself "You're not that desperate, are you? I mean, look at this. Is this what you strive for? If you will not conform with this, then wait for your chance for a better prey. It will come once you go down the path of self-improvement and become confident." It probably came before, only you didn't have the nerve to see it. But that probably changed now that you found this site, right?
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