Confidence doesn't get you laid

[Heyjose25points]

Its true. Confidence doesn't get you laid. Maleness does. Just cause a guy looks confident, won't get him laid. Its the maleness you exude. You kno the lines, "chicks dig confidence."? Replace with maleness, and its true.

Cause, in life, there are many AFCs, some who don't have confidence out there, who get more than a confident guy. Its true.
But nothing is wrong with confidence at all either, I think its more of a bonus tho(You should be confident with everything you do).

Also, the the part about faking confidence in the DJ Bible, or in another thread, is wrong. U can't just fake confidence at all. It might make u feel better about yourself, but it won't help in the long run. Real confidence takes time. You gotta really believe in your self in real life, because if u try to fake it, the truth will always come out when dealing with women. So in conclusion, just remember, maleness=BINGO, confidence=BONUS.

Oh yea, looks>Personality when trying to approach. FACT. But Good Looking=average lookin with style in the long run.
Accept the truth.

Oh and David DeAngelo Sux.Lol. This site>>>>>>>>>>>>D.D. Anyday.

 

[PeeGee]

David D isn't *just* C&F -- he teaches other stuff. But believe whatever you want about him, doesn't change anything.

BTW what is this 'faking confidence' crap? It doesn't make any sense to me. To me, you are or you aren't confident. I can imagine a scared kid going 'uh....d-d-do you wan.ttt. to g-go out w-with me?' -- is that faking confidence? Or is faking confidence the piles of crotch-rocketting males I see in clubs? Because that seems to work to get a kiss-close and quite possibly numbers.

Hmm?

 

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Originally posted by PeeGee
David D isn't *just* C&F -- he teaches other stuff. But believe whatever you want about him, doesn't change anything.

BTW what is this 'faking confidence' crap? It doesn't make any sense to me. To me, you are or you aren't confident. I can imagine a scared kid going 'uh....d-d-do you wan.ttt. to g-go out w-with me?' -- is that faking confidence? Or is faking confidence the piles of crotch-rocketting males I see in clubs? Because that seems to work to get a kiss-close and quite possibly numbers.

Hmm?

imo faking confidence is like walking confident, looking confident, and talking confident except you're not. deep inside is still the afc.

if you do not understand this, perhaps you were born confident.

people with shyness and social anxiety like me can relate.

 

[slipstreamer83]

Originally posted by Heyjose25points
Its true. Confidence doesn't get you laid. Maleness does. Just cause a guy looks confident, won't get him laid. Its the maleness you exude. You kno the lines, "chicks dig confidence."? Replace with maleness, and its true.

This is true, but without confidence you won´t get maleness. So confidence and a good self-image are not an option, they are a must.

 

[squirrels]

Confidence < masculinity < confident masculinity.

 

[SealTeamSix]

I agree that confidence will not get you pu$$y. But pure masculine stuff does not either.

I like to use lock analogy. I like to think that girls are same as lock. You can get some girls with confidence alone, some girls like guys who are super macho, some girls like who are extremely sensitive and caring etc.. .. ..

It's up to you how fast you recognize the 'combination' and open the lock ..

This is what i am finding out in the last month or so ...

 

[Hurri]

well thank you very much Mr Jackass for telling us all your great visions about how confidence wont get you laid. Also thank you for telling us that instead, we need maleness. Too bad you did not tell us how u defined maleness? Fake confidence crap? you fake it till you make it buddy.

Here's a tip for ya. stop being a KJ and accutally do some field work rather than type the first thing that comes into your head. You know what else doesn't get you laid? Writing absolute bull**** and wasting other peoples time with it.

 

[Devestator]

Well, yeah, you need a d!ck. WTF are you talking about when you say "maleness"?

 

[Heyjose25points]

For one thing, chill out. Stop gettin so grumpy, it was just a point. And yes, I've done field work. Turns out that eventhough when i was faking confidence, girls still gave me more looks, it just didn't feel like real confidence. On how to improve maleness, the "be a man" post is exactly right on. Thats what being a man is. And the poster that said: "Confident Masculinity>Masculinity>Confidence" is completely true. But you guys do have a point tho, without confidence you don't have masculinity. Thats why u need to gain it overtime instead of saying "Wow...if i can fake it...then im defidently confident." Thats not how it works IMO.

 

[KiInCollege]

This post basically said confidence is not enough. There was some opinion given of looks and personality, and that we should read someone's opinion and "Accept the truth."

Laughable.

 

[homey72]

Check this out, one thing I have learned, especially in relation to the confidence part is this:

"If you don't feel it, fake it."

Let's face it, even if you have confidence sometimes you just have an off day, and it's during those off days you need to just fake it. You know how you feel on a good day, you know the attitude you have, well copy it on your bad days. Go through the mannerism, bust out some of the lines that work on a good day, some of the routines. Guess what happens, sometimes when you start faking it, bingo it comes back and you're no longer faking it. I would even go so far to say that confidence is a skill, you work at it, and it gets better, those off days become less frequent.

This is true with anything you want to accomplish in life, weather it is with women, or it is in a job. So like I said, "If you don't feel it, fake it."

 

[DJ_Dork]

Masculinity is important..during SEX.

Confidence is important..when handling PROBLEMS.

What's most important that some of you are missing out is:

LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.

 

[A-Unit]

What is confidence?

"Trust or Faith in a Person or Thing."

That's it. What in effect a person who lacks confidence is saying is...

"I can't handle this beautiful woman, or any woman. She doesn't deserve to be with me because I don't feel I can attract her, amuse her, or have fun with her. I can't please her in bed."

That's in a roundabout, some of the many BAD thoughts, men have on confidence.

Other things that come to mind are when people deem something tough. Well, EVERYTHING is tough until you learn it and master it. What's that take? Time.

Confidence, or faith in oneself, should be started day one. You can chat with a HB1 anytime of the day, and possibly up to a HB6 without quivering. You see them all the time around town working. From hb7 through hb10, they're more spontaneous. So what? Just because you HAVEN'T dated them before, doesn't mean you can't now. All you need are STEPS to being the type of man to attract a quality woman.

Looks. While important, are only bait. Once she talks to you, you're in, and if you're a guy of confidence, you're looks improve with time and age. So feel good being a guy.

Personality. Pursue interests that develop your inner self. All of us have a "T"- male in us yearning to get out. Master those activities you are good at and go after ones you've been dying to try.

Career/Job/Income. Money matters to no one but you. If you're always seeking a better standard of living, at the VERY LEAST, you'll live well. And the best, you'll be Bill Gates, selecting who desire as a woman, never tied down again. Not to mention, you're confidence will SOAR knowing you're productive and CAN FISH, rather than BEING GIVEN FISH. Big difference.

Life. Seek out what you believe of life. You'd be surprised how easy it is to meet women and new friends just becoming a more experienced "you". Often times I hear from women, cute ones, who have NOTHING to DO until the NEXT BEST CATCH comes around to relieve them of their boring lives. BORING.
A) Become a great man and they will see that and FLOCK to you.
B) You don't want these women anyway. They're great for developing confidence, but terrible in long-term relationships. So elevate yourself OUT of that category and get the good ones.

So what is confidence?

It's going after YOUR LIFE. Building that up. Knowing you're CAPABLE enough to do anything you set your mind to. And it only takes realization of WHAT YOU HAVE DONE TO ACCOMPLISH it. Because if you don't believe you can succeed doing what you're doing, why are you doing it? Yes, we're all a little nervous as we start in life various tasks. But as you broaden your CONFIDENCE CIRCLE ******dly, you handle pressures better.

Case in point. When I was younger, I hated Public Speaking. i couldn't STAND it in from of 20 people talking about some dumb topic in High School. But as time went on, I improve my self image, learned how intelligent I really was, and learned to love it! In college, it was my best class, and when the time came to give speeches in other classes, I was a WiZ. I moved into a field requiring LOTS of confidence and public speaking and always continue to hone my skills. I even had the honor, yet unfortunate duty, of delivering a Speech at my grandfather's funeral. While it wasn't something I was excited to do, someone had to do it and do it well, in front of a whole church load of people. So you can go from your greatest fear to greatest joy and asset.


.02 Courtesy of A-Unit

 

[comote]

I wouldn't call it confidence even, I say it is more about attitude. Try and be a great person, a really great person, don't be nice, don't be a jerk. Just really try and be the best person you think you can be. And do it because you want to not because it will get you laid, although it will.

 

[Heyjose25points]

Exactly

^^Ditto.