Concentrating so much on getting laid has affected my ability to make regular friends

[GropeDope]

I've been chilling with friends of mine that I've known for years and years...and I noticed that I'm really getting f*ckin bored of these people man. Sometimes I feel like I'm just chilling with these punks just because I have no other choice really. Like I think to myself, "it's either I go chill with them tonight or I stay home and wack."

I can't even tell you the last time I actively started trying to instigate conversation with other dudes I didn't know. My ex used to mention sh*t like that to me too...how I never try to make new friends and meet new people I would just tell her "I like having small tight group of friends I can trust" but that's the wrong attitude now.

I know my problem doesn't have much to do with DJing and I'm not sure if I should be posting it here, but I've noticed that I haven't made a new MALE friend ..just someone new to chill with...in years.

I'm in college now too. It was much easier back in high school for some reason...but now I'm just struggling man. I commute to college...don't live on campus. I've had a couple jobs with people my age...but most of the coworkers I chilled with were more like acquaintances than friends...most smoked mad amounts of weed and rolled and sh*t and I just wasn't into that so I never chilled with them outside of work.

I'm unemployed now and back in another semester of college. I've been chilling with the same old friends again than and just recently broke up with a gf...haven't met a new HB ever since my ex...and it's just like...f*ck man I need to meet some more people already. It's gotten to the point where I'm not only bored of the friends I have..but sometimes I'm thinking to myself "wtf am I doing with these losers man?" Any of you guys out there having this problem too?

Being with the same old groups of friends for years...and having a gf...has made me uncomfortable as f*ck around people I do not know.

I don't remember having a sh*tty outlook like this before I got into my "just try to get laid" attitude. I feel like all this time I've been concentrating on trying to meet HBs and get some puss has taken away from just talking to regular people too. And after I met the HB...I got lazy and got involved with her so that ended the whole meet new HB concept. In fact it feels like it's probably easier for me at this point to go hit on a chick I don't know..than it is to find a new bro to do sh*t with.

I'm sure I'm not the only one having this issue here. I also know that this forum is intended for helping dudes get some...but right now I feel like if you don't have a good foundation for making new friends that don't have two breasts and a puss, you're going to be pretty limited in your options at some point. I didn't realize this until my ex pointed it out to me and I actually experienced it. What have you guys done to overcome problems like this?

 

[brucevangeorge]

Yeah, I'm having kind of the same problem. I seem to be able to make female friends very easily but I have problems with the guys. I know alot of guys around here but anytime I try to talk to any of my dorm buddies or ask questions... they're just very boring.

Maybe its because I've hung around with the same group of people in High School for the past 2 years. Anybody have any tips?

 

[GropeDope]

I'm guessing by the lack of replies that people here either don't know what to tell us, or don't give a sh*t.

 

[SlaterT]

Making friends is easy, it just takes effort. Its something you must work at. Social networking often occurs in connection with shared activities, eg playing football music etc.

You have changed and improved. Make new friends who match you better.

Besides if you met your existing friends at this stage you would probably not have become friends at all.

 

[Inc. ©]

This site is about picking up girls not guys

J/K, I have some of the same problems. This site can become obsessive. I don't know what to tell ya.

 

[Mjfan12]

Same here man. I'm hanging with the same losers for a few years now and we do the same old crap all the time. They never so to clubs, parties, chill at malls, or sarge for chicks.

So thats why I decided to change and do something about it.

I decided to join a fraternity.

Now I know some people say its buying friends, and other stuff, but its really not.

Anyway I just started pledging and so far all the brothers like 30 of them have been real cool, nice, and helpful.

These are the kinds of friends that I was envisioning.

Normal guys doing normal guy stuff.

These guys study, party, hang out, go eat, work on cars and bikes, and other stuff that I like to do or want to do.

They are well rounded guys who have excellent social skills.

Now Im a real shy guy, and Im sure that a fraternity is a great way for me to gain the skills I really need to suceed in life. It will help me gain leadership skills which will help in the future.

Normally I would go to school and then come home. Maybe go out once in a while.

But now, I am going to go to a sorority/fraternity mixer tonight.

I would not have even known about this if I had not gone out of my comfort zone and attempted to join.

Could I have learned social skills on my own? maybe, but I havent learned good ones in 19years, I doubt I would learn some anytime soon on my own.

Fraternity will just accelerate the process.

Anyway I cant wait to see what happens tonight.

Sorority girls are pretty dumb, but they are also very hot.

Not GF material, but great for hooking up.

 

[pimpfromdayone]

Personally, I stay away from sorority girls, because they are ALL slu-ts, and I have never met one who did anything other than drink. Fraternity guys don't bother me, but no matter how hard you try, everyone else is always going to think you "pay for friends." And really, it is kinda true. If you wanted, you could have just been a regular guy and made friends with everyone, including fraternity guys. That way you would be like everyone else.

I am with you 100% on the friends thing. Most people I have met are boring as FU-CK. I am from a rather well-to-do family, so I was never that bored at home or with family, but that is no excuse. While I enjoy going fourwheeling, boating, jetskiing, macking on girls, driving places and cruising, etc., you'd think some people would KILL to do these things, to have some fun, but no, it is a challenge finding anyone who wants to do these things, or similar things. In highschool I remember nobody wanted to do anything but smoke pot, and since I didn't play sports, so much for friends through either of those sources. In college it is basically the same thing. I don't mind drinking, but DAMN, there are other things to do in life. I am probably the only person in college who doesn't enjoy partying. Is there supposed to be something exciting about sitting around, drinking, and passing out by 4 AM? Even with some slut-ty girls mixed in there, drunk and willing, I don't want something that banged a whole party. What is the answer to all this?? People are BORING AND HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO DO. Alcohol is all they have. People are generally also very dumb. What is the point in me being friends with them when we have nothing in common? There isn't one. All the friends I have all keep to themselves and never hit on girls like I do... I wonder why then I don't like to hang out with them? hmmm Hanging out with people just for the sake of hanging out and being social is great, but it is hard to do if
a.) the people offer you nothing, meaning, you think you are basically better than everyone there because you probably are
b.) they are also incredibly boring and you have more fun just talking to girls
c.) the guys don't even seem to have an interest in getting girls!!!

Being social and making friends is great, but I have found, with a limited number of friends, I can do all the cold approaches I want and talk to all the girls I want without having to mess with guys who I DON'T NEED. I said it before, and I'll say it again, you don't have to know half the campus to get girls. It might help, but it isn't necessary.

 

[SlaterT]

I think its important to accept everyone has different goals and understandings in life and impose different limitations on themselves.

You are perhaps more able because of your knowledge but who are we to judge? We should accept these guys despite their limitations because everyone has something interesting about them. The more people i meet the more i see this as true. Also it is always good to build up a strong social network! Who knows one of them might have a hot sister.