Computer Addiction

[ItsOnNow]

I think may have it,seeing as how I spend copious amounts of time on it,and not investing in personal self growth. This has been quite a problem for me. Anyone else have it?

 

[Skel]

If it's a problem, do something about it. Get out of the house and go out with friends, get a hobby, go to the gym etc etc. The first step is admitting it, the next step is to do something about it.

 

[ItsOnNow]

Thats just it,I can't bring myself to do something about it. I want to go out,make freinds,meet chicks,yet I can't. I always feel like something is wrong with me. I mean,time has gone bye...

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Wtf your saying ?

Where is your confidence ? Why do you think you cant ?

Everyone can make friends and meet chicks . Even real AFC-s .

Since you found this forum and you have been here for a while i dont think your a total AFC .

So use ur computer 2 hours a day at most . You have to :

1.Get a hobby . Go on guitar course , get a ball and go shoot on basket , go to gym . Go to a sport curse ( i dont know how to say this in english - Place where a coach help you about one sport )

2.Study ( very important for future )

3.Be social , Go make friends , i mean good friends at school , at office or wherever you are . ( thread on my signature may help maybe )

4.Get your a s s outta house and sarge .



Try techniques , experiment .

 

[ItsOnNow]

Perhaps I think I can't cause I am so used to feeling this way that it's hard for me to snap out of it. Plus a feeling of inexperience and not getting over that hump. Possibile inferiority complex. Plus lazyness and lack of motivation,or at least aiming my energy in the right directions. Plus this feeling of I should have taken care of things sooner. In some ways,it feels easier said than done.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

I know what your saying . But you gotta do these goals that i said earlier to complete your life . Pickup should never be first priority .

I know that it feels easier to say . But ive done that .

I dont spend all the time doing things that dont give me any profit . Spending time here it gives a profit . And i have lot of hobbies .

Im really social . Im the guy that laugh all the time , that have fun all the time and try to get the best side of everything . I never give negative energy . Im always positive . I talk to everyone , make everyone laugh . This is great . Now everyone wanna be around me .

Fridays and Saturdays i never stay at home watching TV and blaming myself that noone is calling me out .
I always go out with my friends (sometimes with just 1 friend) , have fun , dance , laugh , sarge , meet new people .

Its not that hard to do these . And its not that easy .
But you gotta do them otherwise youll feel empty .

Respect

Daddy the pimp

 

[ItsOnNow]

The thing is too,I work full time,so that helps. I would say I am a different person when I am there,yet I don't want to be this band-aid I just put over my problems. I want to have more hobbies,more of a social life,etc. Its what I have always wanted,yet I convinced myself not to,like I didn't deserve it or something. I try to be the positive person,but sometimes I am zoned out alot as well.

Thing is,I don't have many freinds. Or I just never really put in the effort. I have always had social problems,whether it be me or other people. Plus something happened to me last year that put me into a real tailspin.

That's it,I'm always trying to fill the emptyness,but never satisfied.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

This is what you gotta do . You gotta push yourself out of comfort zone . Maybe this will help . Make yourself do things that you wouldnt normally do .

Saying yourself that YOU CANT is the worst thing .

So you know that you want HOBBIES and more SOCIAL LIFE ?
So whats stoppin you ? Yourself . Your stopping yourself .

Let yourself do things that are in your mind without worrying about consequences . You are afraid of rejections of society . But rejection is NOTHING . To reach your goal you gonna pass through lot of rejections , haters whatever goal you have .

Go out there and make friends . Its very easy .

You seem a depressed .

Go out have fun make friends. Love your family . Thats all i can say .

Im sure that having friends that care for you and great family its gonna fill your emptiness .

Ps : by the time i was writing this i went kissed my mother and my sister and told them i love them . Love fills emptiness .

 

[ItsOnNow]

I do have a family,but sometimes they can't help me. I have been listening to that negative voice for too long. Thats why I am in this slump. Or I haven't been focusing on the right things. Plus,I still feel like this 16 year old kid,so maybe it's a maturity thing. Or I listen to the wrong people.

I don't know,perhaps its something more spirtually fullfilling i need ro fill it?

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Yea . Love can fill everything . Trust me man while im writing this im feeling very positive energy . You have to feel the same . Please try to fill yourself with positive energy , with love , with beautiful things . Go kiss your mother your sister your father and tell them you love them and your happy that they are your parents . Youll feel great . I just did it .

Now im gonna run on my floor and smile , dance , whistle and listen to music loud for 2-3 minutes . I know it seems silly/childish but it helps me to release negative energy .

Try to get the good side of everything .

Cheers .

 

[ItsOnNow]

Ok.

 

[handsomehunk]

it will go away

Dude, I've been in the exact same situation for some time. So I know exactly what u saying. You need to kick start ur brain and ur motivation.
Good thing is I'm about 70% out of it now, so there's hope.

Basically, you'll just have to understand that it's gonna take time to get over all the stuff that you've created in ur head ie insecurity etc. Best I can say is know that it's not that bad, AND the time you 'wasted' is in the past, so now just a 'sunk' cost. Just get away from these thoughts for some time.

Do what you like and what will recharge you...ie take a vacation if you can afford it, go with ur family if u r close enuff and can't think of any friends that can/will join you. Or if you like learning, take a new course that could help you out personally/professionally. Take things at ur own pace, until you feel that motivation coming back. And then go out and start living, making mistakes along the way.

Hopefully that helps, I know it's a bit abstract. I'm not the best writer, but there's def a lot more in my head as far as concrete stuff to do..and will def post it up if it comes back to me...

Best of luck!

 

[Quiksilver]

You could attack it from the other direction...

Force yourself to spend 72 hours straight, on the computer. No getting up, no getting food/water, no nothing.

You have to attach negative feelings to the computer, for your subconscious mind to want to avoid it. Right now your subconscious mind is in a state of homeostasis, in that it's COMFORTABLE with the computer.

Don't try to use willpower, it really really doesn't work... from first hand experience

You need to 'trick' your mind out of using the computer. Do some google research on Addictions.

cheers!

 

[handsomehunk]

Quiksilver, that's a great tip. I wonder if it would have more than a temp effect tho...

But to the OP, once u get some motivation back, try to be social and put urself out there a little..but rem to take it slow...

 

[saber]

i had the same problem so i threw my tv and computer in the closet

my progress soared from free time/motivation/lack of porn

as soon as i got my new computer and ex gf everything stopped again

last week after a few months of barely anything I stopped computer use and hooked up with girls both nights this weekend...so yah get that **** outta ur life