Complicated girl, Complicated Situation..pook?

Saffs

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I’ve been seeing this girl for about 2 weeks now. Anyway, I met her on Myspace.com by coincidence, because she is going to the school I’m transferring to, we started talking about how the school is, etc. She’s a HB9.5 so naturally we started gaming each other. Anyway, I played it really cool in the beginning, I acted like I was never going to see her, because internet chicks you meet on Myspace.com tend to have a high level of flakiness. She starts bombarding me with instant messages, and calling me while she’s drunk before I even meet her (for the whole weekend).

Anyway, so she tells me she wants to hang out on Wednesday, and I am free, so I agree to meet up with her at my house. We have some wine and head out to Georgetown where we take a walk the streets holding hands and eat some French fries, she insists on paying for half (good b/c I was going to make her anyway). We go back to my house and we start to get it on, but of course ASD/LMR, I’m rubbing her ***** over her jeans multiple times, but she always gets up and says she needs a break. Lol. I persisted, and more LMR, this didn’t worry me, as I knew she would bombard me with telephone calls and I’d probably **** her the next day.

So on Friday, we pick up a bottle of vodka and go to her apartment, I try and ****, and she says she wants my **** and tells me to put it in for a second, so we **** without a rubber for like 1 minute, however we both stopped because she isn’t on any kind of birth control and we needed to pick up condoms. So, we go out to a club, end up not even going in, I tell her we should just go back and drink at the apartment. She stops at CVS for ‘food and gum’ and pretends to forget that we decided to get condoms, so I tell her ‘we still need to get the condoms’ and she says ‘oh I forgot about that.’ So we go back to her place and I **** her, she comes while riding me, and is sore for the rest of the night and the next day. I sleep there because she drove us there; We wake up, shower…I needed to get shoes at the mall so she drives me to the mall near my house. (I don’t drive, so ever time we hang out, she drives over to my house). So I didn’t see anything I liked, we walked around the mall and she got a few things. She took me home later. We spent about 2 whole days together, too much of my time invested too early. Of course she keeps IMing me the second I sign online, and calls me 4-5 times a day. I decide to sign on my other SN b/c I don’t feel like talking to her all the time.

I told her I was busy on Tuesday because of a meeting and then I went out to the bars. She called me at 2am wondering what I was doing, I had ignored her calls all day long, because she had PNP’d me with no sex on Monday. I answer and we talk, she says that I was probably out ****ing other girls, jokingly, and I told her I sent her a dozen roses and am going to buy her a lobster dinner. lol. She laughs hysterically. Back on top.

Ok, so the next day she calls me 4 times a day again, I **** her again this night (Wednesday). She gets upset after it’s over, as I am trying to go round 2, she tells me that ‘she wants to be my lover and not my ****er’ and gets up and puts her jeans on. WTF?

Let’s just fast forward to when we start having problems, lol. So this weekend we do not have college on Friday, Monday and Tuesday, we have a 5 day weekend. So on Friday, she comes over during the day at around 6 and leaves at 8. She says she’s bored and wants to go home to change into warmer clothes, lol, however she was on the phone talking about party’s to go to. I don’t really know why she doesn’t offer to invite me out with her to these party’s, it’s like I’m totally secret society. Anyway, she goes home at 8 and she calls me at 10 and agrees to come over for Wine, so I went and bought wine and txt messaged her that I got the wine. She never shows up, and she txt’s me throughout the night saying she wants my **** and she can’t come because she is too drunk. Turns out she invited two dude friends over to her house to drink or something? She calls me at 2 am saying she lost her wallet wanting me to drive over there, I go to sleep, she calls me at 5am I don’t pick up.

Anyway the next day I laid down the law firmly, and told her that it was disrespectful and to not let it happen again. She went crazy and told me to **** her right now, she thinks I’m a total Alpha now. Anyway, she calls me an hour after that and she wants to come over with a dvd and I tell her to bring the condoms that I Bought and left at her house because I’m out, big mistake. She says “what makes you think we are having sex tonight.” And “Do you need them because you’re ****ing other girls?” I’m ****ed now. She comes over later with the DVD. We make out a little, but of course no sex. The situation is kind of awkward, and I figured we needed to get the sex arrangement out in the open so I made the mistake of bringing it up. She tells me that she thinks she made a mistake, and usually doesn’t sleep with guy’s and her last BF and her waited 3 months before doing it. Bull**** ASD. She tells me she doesn’t want to have sex again for a ‘while’. Then she tells me that she doesn’t care if I don’t want to talk to her again, and that she WANTS me to go out and **** other chicks if that’s what I want to do. WTF? She used to get really jealous if I was out at bars and called me all the time to check up on me! What changed? Total curveball. She leaves and IM’s me when she gets home wondering if I’m upset. I tell her that relationships are made of exchanges and I don’t know if I’m getting as much as I’m giving, then I say nevermind, you drive me around all the time and chauffer me around town. She calls me and we end up having an awkward conversation about how neither of us want a relationship, we explain that we like each other, blah blah. This mourning she IM’s me and we continue our usual conversations of teasing each other and small talk.

She seems like she has lost some interest as she doesn’t call me all the time anymore, and she used to call me STUD or SEXY boy ever other second. Anyway, this chick is very complicated to me, she calls me all the time, not so much anymore, like she used to, and I want to put myself back in that position, of total dominance. Things are getting awkward and I don’t know if she is serious about this no sex **** or if I’ll just have to re-game her over and over again. I thought we were past that point. It seems like she is always trying to PnP me with this no sex deal, and It’s a constant power struggle. She is constantly testing me it seems. Anyway, input would be appreciated.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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She is testing you, 100%

Call her b.s. becasue that is pretty much what this is. She can't expect to sleep with you then suddenly decide to revoke the encounters as if it is a priviledge that she can decide.

Tell her that you aren't sleeping with other girls (she won't believe you, but that's cool), but if she thinks she can pull this stuff on you, you're gonna move on, because you've done nothing wrong.... and if you are to have a healthy relationship then sex has to be part of the equation.

You're only making this seem more complicated then it is... do like you did the first time and put your foot down.
 

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She tells me she doesn’t want to have sex again for a ‘while’.
She's feeling like a wh0re for fvcking you too quickly. That's when you give her what she "asked for", but not what she wants. That's when you suggest seeing other people, and you'll avoid this:

Then she tells me that she doesn’t care if I don’t want to talk to her again, and that she WANTS me to go out and **** other chicks if that’s what I want to do.
This is what you should have told her. Instead, she used it on you. It sounds like she's trying to force you into a semi-serious relationship so she doesn't feel like a wh0re.

However, those are only words. Don't take her words seriously. Next time this happens, simply agree that the two of you should part ways and kick her out. She'll either cave right on the spot or call you an hour later telling you that she didn't mean it.

Not sure if you can fix this though. I'd take it as a learning experience and move on.
 

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UPDATE

Update, after having no contact with her since she IM'd me in the mourning yesterday, she called me at 3AM last night, which I missed b/c I was drinking with my friend. Probably wouldn't have answered anyway.

No contact today either, and I get a call an hour ago from her. We talk for 5-10min, I am about to go to the gym. We have a good funny, convo with CF and laughs. Great, back to where I started from, being the indifferent Alpha. She asks me what I'm doing tonight besides the gym, and what im doing tommorrow night. lol. I am truly busy with exams so I told her I am studying and I have a lab tommorrow night..so she tells me to call her tommorrow, if I want. Sounds like I am back in the game. Any feedback would be great as to how I approach everything from here.

Also, next time I hang out with her, what if she reinitiates the "I thought we weren't going to have sex for a while.'' If she does that, how am I going to handle it. Not Sure.
 

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She wants you to be her BOYFRIEND not f*ck buddy.

I had a f*ck buddy once, I lost interest because I was no longer interested in being his f*ck buddy, he wasn't looking for a girlfriend. I COMPLETELY lost interest so I stopped calling, emailling etc... and off to a new guy that wants to be my bf.

Sorry to break it to you but she is no longer interested in you.

If you want the girl back, PRETEND that you want to be her boyfriend.

Good luck!

Meg
 

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Here's your problem; you want sex (duh not faulting you for that) but your making it TOO OBIVIOUS and she feels like a w-hore and nothing else to you. If that's the way you want it, there's nothing wrong with that, but you can't keep on talking about the sex thing. Just let it flow, dood you've got the lay the foundation down before you rock the house!!! Meaning when you get a fuvk buddy unless its mutally agreed to by the both you that all both you want is sex, you need to act like you care and like her. Then you'll get to fuvk her brains out everytime you guys hang out.

Soooo, next time you guys hang out, don't bring up the sex situation and actually go out and DOOOO something. That will make her feel like you care and I assure you when you get to her place or yours she'll want to fuvk. But as the others have said realize you'll probably lose this girl pretty soon because its obivious that she wants something a bit more and you don't really give a fuvk.

Remember girls are emotional beings, make her feel like you care and she'll reward you with the pu$$y.



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Originally posted by Saffs
She went crazy and told me to **** her right now, she thinks I’m a total Alpha now. Anyway, she calls me an hour after that and she wants to come over with a dvd and I tell her to bring the condoms that I Bought and left at her house because I’m out, big mistake. She says “what makes you think we are having sex tonight.” And “Do you need them because you’re ****ing other girls?”
Okay, lesson learned her dude, allways have condoms at your place.

Apart from this, I would have instantly told her that you have got headache now and you could neither watch a dvd nor have sex with her today. I am serious here, never let a girl talk to you like this, that was disrespect.

BTW, seems you were doing something wrong here. Did you tell her to bring the condoms along like a fact or was it like you were expacting something and asking her for approval that you later can do something?
 

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we were hinting about sexual things playingly, and I said to bring the condoms over here, that i left at her house. I thought it would be ok, because the first time i ****ed her she was right there when i bought the condoms. Anyway, thanks for the Replies.
 

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I don't know what you guys mean, how she wants more out of this. I actually would date this girl b/c I like her. She is the one that told me that she didn't want a serious relationship and told me to go **** other girls if i wanted. I guess I shouldn't listen to what she says, just what she does, which was call me all the time with a high interest level. Meaning, that really is what she wants.
 

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RE:

Originally posted by Saffs
I don't know what you guys mean, how she wants more out of this. I actually would date this girl b/c I like her. She is the one that told me that she didn't want a serious relationship and told me to go **** other girls if i wanted. I guess I shouldn't listen to what she says, just what she does, which was call me all the time with a high interest level. Meaning, that really is what she wants.

never listen to what a woman says. You'll fail many times if you do go by what they say.
 
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