hey guys.
I just found this site and thought that you guys could help me with this.
I started a job as a waiter a couple of months ago as a waiter in a restaurant .There is a girl there that I thought was kind of cute, only problem she didnt pay much attention to me. She didnt even look at me. My phylosophy is: ignore anybody who ignores you. A fter two weeks of me working there she started talking to me and we were having a lot of fun together. I would always surprise her checking me out and smiling at me. One day, while doing sidework in the back of the restaurant, out of nowhere, here is what she told me.
" You know my sister who is now in scottland came here the other day and she saw you and she started asking me a lot of questions about you,and I told her, oh this is carter and he is awesome" I just smiled and she kept going saying " she thinks you are really cute and I dont usually pay much attention to the people I work with but since that day I have noticed that you really are cute."
I didnt make much of that at that time, so I didnt try anything, she took a couple of weeks off and when she came back I called her to see if she wanted to pick up one of my shifts, but it turned out she was working that day too. The next day at work, she mentioned a movie that I thought I might like to see. I called her the next day, left her a message and told her to call me back and give me the title of the movie. She didnt call back but came to the restaurant and told me the name of the movie. The next day I went to blockbuster and got the movie, I called her and told her that I had gotten the movie and I asked her what she was doing the next day, she told me a very busy schedule(she does have 4 part time jobs) .She wanted to know why I wanted to know her schedule, so I said
" I am just wondering if you would wanna have lunch with me"
heR " i am was very busy and I really cant"
me :"no bad ideas, I am not hitting on you or anything"
her:"ok, but we can do it some other time you know and thanks for the invite"
Few days later I see her at work and she started acting extremely uncomfortable around me. When she finally lightened up, I went up to her and said:
" you know what, the other day I said I was not hitting on you, but I was lying, I was hitting on you" and she just laughed.
Yesterday, at work she kind of avoided me the whole time and when I would talk to her she would be extremely uncomfortable.
Same thing happened today until she lightened up again, to the point where she punched me in the stomach playfully, I told her she had just punched me on my surgery wound and she apologized. I said:
"dont be sorry now you will pay me later"
After I made the comment, she started avoiding me again and I would feel that same extreme disconfort again form her.
A fellow coworker came up to me later and told me that she had told him that story about me hitting on her and stuff.
her: " carter called me and said he wanted to hang out with me and when I declined he said he said he was not hitting on me, the next day he told me that he was actually hitting on me"
him:"but its just lunch as freinds nothing else"
her: but that would be very hurtful to lead him you know"
After my freind told me that she got even more uncomfortable around me. So I called her and said
"do you feel uncomfortable around me because of what I told you the other day?"
her;"no, but I just dont wanna give you the wrong idea because I have a boyfriend"
I told her that I understood and she didnt have to be uncomfortable for that."
A couple of hours later as I was talking on the phone with my cousin ( we were speaking french which is my first language) she sat right in front of me with big dreamy eyes and started starring at me and smiling"
When I gof off the phone she said:
"I think its awesome that you speak french, I really like it"
Then we talked a while with some other coworkers and I made everybody laugh as I always do.
She left today without me knowing.
What do you think about all this?
what should I do?
I just found this site and thought that you guys could help me with this.
I started a job as a waiter a couple of months ago as a waiter in a restaurant .There is a girl there that I thought was kind of cute, only problem she didnt pay much attention to me. She didnt even look at me. My phylosophy is: ignore anybody who ignores you. A fter two weeks of me working there she started talking to me and we were having a lot of fun together. I would always surprise her checking me out and smiling at me. One day, while doing sidework in the back of the restaurant, out of nowhere, here is what she told me.
" You know my sister who is now in scottland came here the other day and she saw you and she started asking me a lot of questions about you,and I told her, oh this is carter and he is awesome" I just smiled and she kept going saying " she thinks you are really cute and I dont usually pay much attention to the people I work with but since that day I have noticed that you really are cute."
I didnt make much of that at that time, so I didnt try anything, she took a couple of weeks off and when she came back I called her to see if she wanted to pick up one of my shifts, but it turned out she was working that day too. The next day at work, she mentioned a movie that I thought I might like to see. I called her the next day, left her a message and told her to call me back and give me the title of the movie. She didnt call back but came to the restaurant and told me the name of the movie. The next day I went to blockbuster and got the movie, I called her and told her that I had gotten the movie and I asked her what she was doing the next day, she told me a very busy schedule(she does have 4 part time jobs) .She wanted to know why I wanted to know her schedule, so I said
" I am just wondering if you would wanna have lunch with me"
heR " i am was very busy and I really cant"
me :"no bad ideas, I am not hitting on you or anything"
her:"ok, but we can do it some other time you know and thanks for the invite"
Few days later I see her at work and she started acting extremely uncomfortable around me. When she finally lightened up, I went up to her and said:
" you know what, the other day I said I was not hitting on you, but I was lying, I was hitting on you" and she just laughed.
Yesterday, at work she kind of avoided me the whole time and when I would talk to her she would be extremely uncomfortable.
Same thing happened today until she lightened up again, to the point where she punched me in the stomach playfully, I told her she had just punched me on my surgery wound and she apologized. I said:
"dont be sorry now you will pay me later"
After I made the comment, she started avoiding me again and I would feel that same extreme disconfort again form her.
A fellow coworker came up to me later and told me that she had told him that story about me hitting on her and stuff.
her: " carter called me and said he wanted to hang out with me and when I declined he said he said he was not hitting on me, the next day he told me that he was actually hitting on me"
him:"but its just lunch as freinds nothing else"
her: but that would be very hurtful to lead him you know"
After my freind told me that she got even more uncomfortable around me. So I called her and said
"do you feel uncomfortable around me because of what I told you the other day?"
her;"no, but I just dont wanna give you the wrong idea because I have a boyfriend"
I told her that I understood and she didnt have to be uncomfortable for that."
A couple of hours later as I was talking on the phone with my cousin ( we were speaking french which is my first language) she sat right in front of me with big dreamy eyes and started starring at me and smiling"
When I gof off the phone she said:
"I think its awesome that you speak french, I really like it"
Then we talked a while with some other coworkers and I made everybody laugh as I always do.
She left today without me knowing.
What do you think about all this?
what should I do?
