From '08. "Current events" are different now, point is the same
I'm 33 years old and homeless!
...with two, soon to be three jobs.
But, I have one plate that is begging me to stay with her. Yet, I'm staying with another, rent free. The plate I'm staying with frequently tells me: "I don't want you to feel obligated because I'm letting you stay here, you're free to go at anytime."
Furthermore, the chick I am staying with KNOWS about the other chick, and has encouraged me to stay with her if I want.
When I've explained my situation to these women, it has been said to me, that, exactly what these guys are saying is true. I have been told flat-out that since I display ambition, confidence, goals, etc., these women are attracted to those qualities and have no doubt in their mind that I'm "FAR better than a lot of the losers" they've been with. What's more, they've even went so far as to point out that my humility is also attractive: is shows I'm not faking confidence.
When several women tell you that certain qualities are more attractive than a situation, I wouldn't doubt THEIR word. I mean, guys can say "this and that is attractive to women", but when women reinforce that same thing?
In my case, when I tell a woman "I'm homeless", their initial reaction is "OMG, you're crazy!" and are repulsed. But, after I explain WHY I'm homeless they very quickly do a 180º. During the explanation, I speak with conviction and confidence: I'm doing this
intentionally to achieve a goal.
My situation is much like Thoureau deliberately moving to the woods. It's not to be pitied.
Now, I do "have money", but, I squirrel it away into the bank such that I am broke. Yet, these plates pay for dates, buy me gifts, and otherwise shower me with affection.
So, what's the difference between your situation and mine? Nothing, really, except for the mindset. I don't give two sh¡ts what a woman thinks if she doesn't understand that I'm doing this for me and my future. And, if and when a woman wants look at my situation as a disqualification, then she wasn't a woman I'd want to be with anyway.
And, that's how you should play it: if my situation is a critical factor, then you are the one disqualified.
There is a thing I call "rocking it". It is where you take something ridiculous and pull it off. For example, the Pinto I had in high school. That car was awesome! I waxed it, put 2 12" Cerwin Vegas in the trunk, and I was downright anal about the maintenance. I drove that ƒucker around with pride. Of course, I would draw criticism, but I would simply respond: "I love my car. The next time you ask me for a ride, you'll suddenly wish you had one too." You have to "rock" whatever situation you are in.
Friends come and go, jobs come and go, money, women, homes... they all come and go. The only thing you have in life to depend on is yourself. If you are unhappy with yourself, you will be unhappy with life.
Once you are comfortable and happy with yourself, then everything else falls into place. You aren't REALLY unhappy with your financial situation, you're unhappy with the perceptions of others. Are you going to be broke forever? No? Then, what are you worried about? You can still be proud of yourself because you know that you are making positive changes.
Hell, tell women straight-up: I'm broke at the moment, let's do something cheap. When they fuss, point out how ridiculous it is: I don't even know you, and, I'd regret spending ANY money on someone who I felt didn't deserve it.
Then shut up and look them in the eye.
I've done it with several hundred dollars in my wallet.
Good luck, bro.
