MindOverMatter
Master Don Juan
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The knowledge you read on this website, while it will help you a lot towards changing your attitude & success rates with women, represents 10% of your overall game.
The other 90% comes from applying it. It comes from walking up to that girl that catches you eye, and trying to hook up with her. If you succeed, you gain knowledge of what works. If you fail, you gain knowledge of what not to do. Either way, you gain in some way. The more knowledge you get, the better you get at this.
However that's not what this tip is about (as this has been said a million times, but people don't listen). There is a mistake being made by lots of people on this website, that is counterproductive to their game.
Say a new member comes to this website, lets call him Louie. Louie comes to SoSuave in a state of mind where he really does not understand women that well. Whether it's trying to get an ex girlfriend back, or trying to get a date or lose his v-card, Louie is here because he can't understand how girls think. So Louie explores the website. He reads the DJ Bible. He reads the tips forum, the Pook, the Fingers, the Gunwitch, the tips by Allen Thompson on the main website. He reads Doc Love, Bryan Redfield, Louis & Copeland, etc.
He completly educates himself. He learns what mistakes he's been making all his life, and where he went wrong. He learns his basics, his 10%. He now has the right attitude & basics to go out and seduce women.
However, just as Louie is heading off into the sunset to pick up a girl to sleep with, he glances at the Don Juan Discussion Forum, and out of the corner of his mind, he sees threads made by AFCs with titles like:
Girlfriend dumped me, what kind of present should I buy her to want me back
Girl wont return my calls, how do I make her like me
My girlfriend cheated on me, help me write her a poem"
The AFC cluelessness in these threads assaults the Louie's mind. Maybe it's because he sees his old self in those threads. Maybe it's because he sees an even worse version of himself in them.
Either way, he feels disgusted by them, and instead of going out into the world, and learning the 90% of his game through experiance, the guy stays and starts giving the AFCs advice. Not the advice that he himself has learned through life (his 90%), but rather the advice that's already in the bible.
So instead of going out into the real world, learning his 90% and laying girls, Louie becomes Captain Save-an-AFC.
What Louie (and a lot of guys here) do not understand is that you cannot help AFCs with their game until your own game is secure. What is your goal here? To be successful with women, or to play a pretend-therapist?
Go out, practice this sh!t, get laid, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST, BEFORE YOU WORRY ABOUT OTHERS. Once you learn your 90%, you can help others out, and give them advice that comes from your personal successes and failures, advice that you WONT find in the bible.
DON'T BE LOUIE!!!!
Peace.
The other 90% comes from applying it. It comes from walking up to that girl that catches you eye, and trying to hook up with her. If you succeed, you gain knowledge of what works. If you fail, you gain knowledge of what not to do. Either way, you gain in some way. The more knowledge you get, the better you get at this.
However that's not what this tip is about (as this has been said a million times, but people don't listen). There is a mistake being made by lots of people on this website, that is counterproductive to their game.
Say a new member comes to this website, lets call him Louie. Louie comes to SoSuave in a state of mind where he really does not understand women that well. Whether it's trying to get an ex girlfriend back, or trying to get a date or lose his v-card, Louie is here because he can't understand how girls think. So Louie explores the website. He reads the DJ Bible. He reads the tips forum, the Pook, the Fingers, the Gunwitch, the tips by Allen Thompson on the main website. He reads Doc Love, Bryan Redfield, Louis & Copeland, etc.
He completly educates himself. He learns what mistakes he's been making all his life, and where he went wrong. He learns his basics, his 10%. He now has the right attitude & basics to go out and seduce women.
However, just as Louie is heading off into the sunset to pick up a girl to sleep with, he glances at the Don Juan Discussion Forum, and out of the corner of his mind, he sees threads made by AFCs with titles like:
Girlfriend dumped me, what kind of present should I buy her to want me back
Girl wont return my calls, how do I make her like me
My girlfriend cheated on me, help me write her a poem"
The AFC cluelessness in these threads assaults the Louie's mind. Maybe it's because he sees his old self in those threads. Maybe it's because he sees an even worse version of himself in them.
Either way, he feels disgusted by them, and instead of going out into the world, and learning the 90% of his game through experiance, the guy stays and starts giving the AFCs advice. Not the advice that he himself has learned through life (his 90%), but rather the advice that's already in the bible.
So instead of going out into the real world, learning his 90% and laying girls, Louie becomes Captain Save-an-AFC.
What Louie (and a lot of guys here) do not understand is that you cannot help AFCs with their game until your own game is secure. What is your goal here? To be successful with women, or to play a pretend-therapist?
Go out, practice this sh!t, get laid, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST, BEFORE YOU WORRY ABOUT OTHERS. Once you learn your 90%, you can help others out, and give them advice that comes from your personal successes and failures, advice that you WONT find in the bible.
DON'T BE LOUIE!!!!
Peace.
