"Competing" For a Girl

[Majestick]

First of all, let me introduce myself to the DJ guys. Majestick, residing in the Bay, born and raised in California. I've been a long time lurker here, and have been reading up on DJ and other PUA type articles for quite some time (maybe 2.5 years), and have successfully applied them for the most part!

So, that is why I finally decided to join! Cheers everyone.



Now, my question is this. Yes, we all know that you should not compete for a girl, and that she ideally should be chasing you. I came across a girl who I had approached, successfully it had seemed, and got her number. After chatting with her a couple days after that, she sent me a friend request on Myspace, and I checked her page out. Turns out, she seems to be flirty with a few other guys, some whom have seemed to have asked for her number to no avail. (This isn't oneitis but I would like to fuvk her ;])

So, when there are obvious Betamales around who are competing for this girl's attention, what is the appropriate course of action? Ignore? Let her initiate contact? Curious on what you guys think!

All the best, MJ

 

[horaholic]

Dont worry about the betamales. All chicks have them. They're like her pets. Watch how they act, and do the opposite. There is a line between competing, and demonstrating that you are the prize. She may very well just be an attention wh0re, I cant say. Just call her, throw some c+f and ask her if she'd like to join you for a drink or whatever. If you've read Pook's 15 lessons, you should know what to do.

 

[Noobie]

It's best not to think about what other people are doing with the girl, it happened to me. You just end up thinking about why she would choose you and not others.

From experience & not textbook, there's a time for you to do your thing with the girl after meeting her, regardless of how many other guys are going for her. This is your prime time to hookup because afterwards, say you didn't make a move or smth, the betas will be the ones that take her away whether it be befriending them or ultimately spending more time with her. Meaning less time for you.

I hope that made sense, essentially ignore.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Other guys are a non-issue. Any woman who's a 8 or higher is gonna have at least one chump in the background. As long as you stick to your guns these guys will be out of the picture in no time.

 

[everywomanshero]

Your goal is to isolate anf **** her. What othe people are doing isn't important. If she says something like, well my friend wants to meet us or can I bring my friend just tell the ***** no, lol, isolate and ****, that's it.

 

[TheAnswer_]

same **** is happening to me man. It's me and this other guy competing for the girl. I just focus on my game and try not to think about her with the other guy

 

[marinetti]

If you are going out approaching multiple girls every day, isn't it only fair that she flirt with multiple guys every day? This is a little bit of a double standard, wouldn't you say.

And how great would you feel if she had her choice of 10 guys and picked YOU? Instead, you're looking for a desperate girl who can't even find a single guy to talk to...

And as for myspace, it's really easy to flirt with girls over myspace. Send her messages telling her about the cool thing you're going to be doing in a few days, and invite her along. THAT will make you stand out.

 

[JDA70]

I came across a girl who I had approached, successfully it had seemed, and got her number. After chatting with her a couple days...

You talked to her for a couple of days and what?
Nothing? you didn't say if you went out on a date with her.

 

[Majestick]

We did, kclosed. Thing is, my standards don't delve into the realm of girls who are fuvking every guy they come across.

It's really a question of whether or not I should've kept full court pressing this girl. However, given a day, the situation has been resolved.

Her IL has been raised significantly and I have judged it enough to keep going. I'll be calling her tomorrow to set up a late date, going for a close at my place.