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golf299

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here's the deal...

yeah, being obserative, inquiring, interested, nouning...they're all great ideas.

my problem is that when i'm in a one-on-one convo, it just seems to die...and rather quickly. i use all those strategies, but they just seem to fall short. i don't really know what i can do to increase my chances for success.

maybe i'm just not that interesting of a person, or just come across that way. i don't know.

does anyone have an suggestions for my problem (besides seeking out people who naturally dominate conversations) ...maybe you've been there before and can help me out. thanks guys!
 

evolvingnerd

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i find myself in the same situation a lot
however i have begun to improve
the first thing to do is think about what happens when ur with ur close friends and mimic that
for me, we always talk about our common interests, and if it lulls out, something ridiculously random

do whatever u do with ur friends (when ur comfortable) and it'll make the conversation seem more natural for you

hope it helps
 

Thraxeh

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learn some storys really well, and just start telling her, and then she hopefuly will give an example of a similar story.

a good idea is embarrasing moments, or just stuff that is funny

btw, i have trouble also, all my friends dominate the convo, so i never get a chance to practise, this one friend i can just listen to for hrs, and just nod, and say yeh, yep, sure, nice, gotta love that. lol
 

Dukester

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just be the way you are around your friends, just not as personal, since you just met this chick

i have this one friend that i can talk to for hours at a time. in fact, we've bs'd in his garage for almost 3 hrs before. most of it was just random stupid stuff, but it helps ya convo skills

i usually dont have a problem finding things to talk about when i meet new people. you just do the intros, then find common interests. if there are none that you can see right away, just talk about easy stuff
if you're in school, talk about the class, or the prof. talk about a new movie that just came out, the olympics, something you saw on tv. talk about things like that

that stuff gets a girl in her comfort zone, and once she's there, she'lll open up a lil better,a nd thus convo flows easier

best of luck to ya
 

felix692

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im prob not exactly a great authority on this but i'll try, lol!
basically what "Dukester" said is spot on i reckon, pretend that the girl is your best friend and that u've known her your whole life. Make a few jokes to get u both more relaxed and break the tension, but go easy lol!
Talk to her like she is just one of ur mates, but keep in mind she is a girl, so u gotta act kinda different lol (but u knew that).
 
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