comparing to your ex.

[NewMan]

Well - just out of a relationship 4.5 yrs.

I've been going out with this chick for the past 3 weeks - we've been banging every time we've been out.

Now, she's asking the - "I want to see you on the weekend" - bullSh#t.

She's getting clingy..... needy... this morning I woke up and I just wanted her to get the hell out of my place. She hung around, played with my hair - and generally was very clingy.

It's also her B'day next Tuesday....

Some of my buddies have told me to just play along and hit it.... But after hitting it on 3 seperate occations - I really don't want to make the effort.

After getting out of my relationship - I can't but help compare chicks to my ex... and it's messing me up. Most of the girls I
ve meet are not even in the same league as her.... her sh#t was just perfect. S#x with her was just really effortless - and unbelievable - we just fit so well together.

Any advice on this? how long does soemthing liek this take to get over? Anything I can do to speed it up?

 

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Yea, heres the edit. **** the ex, she missed out not you. Any half way intelligent girl would have realized she had a guy who knew how to handle his women, and the only way you can truly feel good is to drop the baggage and ****ing take charge of life. Attachments that deep are not healthy to your well being anyway unless the girl isnt a selfish ***** who puts her own happiness way higher up the chart then yours. Sure you don't like the new girl cause shes not the old one, but lemme tell you that sthe quickest way to feel better and bro i went through this too youll go through a wide variety of emtions from happiness one moment to sadness the next then anger then you couldnt give to ****s for a couple weeks then on and on untill you realize once your happiness is dependant on someone else your taking a huge risk. too huge in my oppinion.

U sound like your doing fine with chicks and im sure you'll find a higher quality girl. sorry for the last depressing post i was in a ****ty mood then, 10 shots of aristocrat later and im thinking clearly.

 

[NewMan]

Thanks....

That gives me hope

 

[Healer]

There are things you can do to speed up the process of getting over your One_itis.


1. Stop thinking about her, Lock up everything that reminds you of her, and throw it out. Pictures, Keychains, T-shirts, any gifts, unless VERY expensive.

2. You need to physically get over it, so go out to a few places that reminds you of your one-itis, and pick up completely new chicks.

3. GFTOW = Go Fcuck Ten Other Women

4. Next the current girl you are with.

 

[Slickster]

Newman it takes a long time for this to stop happening but it will.

Just remember that your ex didn't always seem so perfect to you. Maybe she seemed pretty damn great when you met her but as time went on you built her up in your mind even more.

This will happen with any woman you get attached to.

As far as this new chick goes whats wrong with her? She too clingy and needy. Or is it that you're comparing her to your ex too much.

I told you in your first post on this forum. Your dream girl could walk thru the door tomorrow and you're not going to recognize her cuz you're carrying around all this baggage from your ex.

Your ex left you! She's gone! Doesn't want you in her life! Why do you want to concern yourself with someone who doesn't want you around? She gave you the ultimate insult. "Get out of my life." Why would you give a F*CK about someone who doesn't give a Sh*T about you? And now you're going to let her mess with your head and your future with a chick who actually likes you and wants you!

Sorry for the tone of that last paragraph. Just a pep talk I used to give myself when I was feeling down about my ex.

Anytime you even think about your ex I want you to immediately start thinking about something else important in your life. Condition yourself to do this. Do it a 1000 times a day if need be.
She doesn't deserve to even be in your thoughts. She never deserved you in the first place! For one simple reason....she left.

 

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i edited my depressing ass post above ^ thats what i meant it came out wrong..