Here's one for around the camp fire
So I've been to two parties this weekend and one last weekend. I'll sum it up: great, good, bad.
Great-
I hosted the party, it was frikkin kickin! We got their and watched the movie Saw (very gross movie), and I had this chick sitting on my lap and I had a giant boner. Yeah. Thought I'd say that. Anyways, I could do almost anything that night because my confidence was just up their. It has been for awhile.
Confidence is the result of having good experiences or good outlook on life. If you REALLY want to have confidence you have to be TOTALLY comfortable with getting rejected and doing whatever the **** you want.
We also sat around a camp fire and chilled, told jokes and other things. Drank some too. Party ended with no makeout though.
Good-
This party was over at this guy's house whose on my football team. We got their and there wasn't many hot chicks though---he's not one of the more popular ones with the ladies. But Ah! I see this girl I know whos a hb9! I go up give her a hug and then I don't see her for the next two hours because she had to "go home." I literally don't know where the **** she went though.
During that time period...
Man I was smoking some **** with these guys and I made a new friend with this guy who party's a lot.
I get out and walk in the other room and a strobe light is on. Everyones laying on this bed talking, laughing and ****.
Some girls were like on top of me but still no "real" action...
Wow! I see the hb9 again and she has this guy with her whos like two years old than her. Apparently it was her boyfriend. I thought "****!"
The rest of the night I got wasted and just partied. no action though.
The Bad-
Yes you may be thinking why wasn't I getting any action? Well I had figured it out...I wasn't GOING for it. I wasn't being ASSERTIVE enough... My "Great" day I did pretty well being assertive but if I wanted action, I had to be super assertive!
So I was!
At the party there was this one chick I've known for awhile, and were always playing like a "hard to get game." I wanted to break down the fvcking barriers and just makeout with her...
So I tried!
I got her to sit with me on the couch as we were watching this movie so I get my arm around her, and she leans her head on me. My hand was on her boob for some reason (even I don't know how it got their when this happened, natural instinct maybe? haha)
So we sat their, fluff talked and then I remembered something I read so I said "Hey want to see the a really cool trick?"
she says "sure."
"I bet I can kiss you without using my lips!"
And as I was about to kiss her some fvcking guy walks in, and she gets really nervous and turns around with closed body language. (by the way their is no trick, you kiss her and say "aw i lost!" then makeout with her)
Or maybe she didn't want to then but whatever, we continue.
I say "hey lets go sit down their" pointing to this mattress like thing on the ground. She says "alright"
we sit down their and she sits a bit away from me (approximately a foot), so I'm thinking "WTF." Her body language wasn't even really directed my way!
So I try to get a bit closer...but then I think whatever fvck it. And get up to "find my friend."
So I walk around, do whatever, talk to other people but then I walk back in. My wingman and I discuss how I can get her to sit next to me. So, we get it to work.
I was talking to her and she was kind of in front of me so I just kind of "pulled" her in front of me and held her from behind.
It sounded like she said "Let's makeout" or something similar then I said "did you just ask me to makeout with you?" then she said *giggle* "no~.."
I look at her then ask "Do you want to?" (note: i wasn't laughing i was trying to be serious, but still fun, my voice tone wasn't joking though)
then she DOESN'T REPLY she just made some kind of sound, I had no idea what it was though... BUT SHE DIDN'T REPLY. so I got up and left her.
It felt SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO AWKWARD standing around her the rest of the party.
I tried to ignore her.
Moral of my Party Trilogy:
As uncomfortable as it may feel, no matter how bad after you feel getting rejected, you will ALWAYS feel better than when you don't try.
I had NOT tried to do makeout with this girl many times before, and believe me EVERYTIME I didn't try, I felt worse than I do now.
You should A L W A Y S try to get what you want, no matter what the circumstance is.
Anyways who wants to let their whole life pass right before them?
And maybe I'll get some BS response when I ask her why she didn't makeout with me!
Fun this will be!
But in all honesty, take what you want.
There's no chance of winning in not trying, but there will always be a chance you'll win if you try.