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Communication between dates

Dreesy

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I've been seeing a few girls, and one of these particular girls I feel I really click with. We've been on only two dates so far, one week apart, but on each of these we ended up in bed. I guess you could say things have been going well.

My issue right now is I'm not really sure how to go about communicating after the second date. I haven't talked to her at all in about 2 days, and I feel like most women would have texted me at least by now. She seems to show high interest when we're together, but things like this throw me off.

Do I just keep on with the no contact for 3-4 days between dates, and then if I receive no contact from her, send her a message trying to set up the 3rd date?

Or should I just let it go and assume no attraction if I don't get a message from her by then?
 

wishyo

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Hell yea man things are going well, keep it simple, she has attraction no doubt (I mean let's use common sense, she had initial interest to meet you, you had sex (another point towards interest in you), then she went out with you again as well as had sex(2 more points towards interest score), she probably wants you to get in touch or appear to you not being that accessible... Just ask her out again whenever you have time/interest without obviously doing it too needy, everything you mentioned points out that she has big interest, no need to be a jerk or play in mind games. These are my 50 cents though, I am semi afc:)

Bumping this one as I am in similar case, the girl I date left for vacations, we had nice dates and it seems that everything is/was more than fine, but now since she left for vacations one week ago, we didnt communicate at all since our last date which is 8 days so far, 13 more to go:) Odds are that she is sitting somewhere on the beach and guessing whether she should text me or not. My problem is that I don't even know what to text. I dont really care about wtf is going on there with her... I don't feel texting some random AFC b/s like "how is the weather?" or just "what's up?" It is also way too early for me to text emotional stuff like "I miss you" or "Had nice weekend, wish you would have been here with me..." Besides that, I just dont like communicating with people thru social websites/texting or even by phone, I love watching people's eyes/body language when they talk to me.

Anyways, girls never make things easy too, they also don't want to look needy/desperate either (I am just judging from my personal LTR with one girl whom I dated for like 3 years). I mean she was in love with me, I was too, but she was doing some sick non sense sh1t sometimes. What is remarkable is that during early stages (first few dates) they are afraid to do their stupid mind games sh1t as one just might walk away from her, as soon as they get any sign of attraction from a male, they start pulling sh1t like flaking/no texting back and so on.
For example, my LTR GF would cancel our date and then go cry about it to her sister lol. (later on her older sister shared some of that stuff with me at somewhat controversial stage in our relationship). Even the girl I date right now was behaving perfectly during our first two dates, as soon as she noticed that she arised interest in me, she flaked (still not sure what it was exactly, will figure out later.. so far still leaning that she probably had something like PMS or some acne popped up lol). Then I didnt get in touch with her for like 5 days and she instanly agreed to everything I asked, cooked me a cake, invited to her house and so on...
Or for example, there have been few times with my LTR GF when she wanted to break up with me.. Reason was that she felt our dating was taking too much time/effort from me (I played pro sports at that time). Well, it was not, my "love" towards her was giving me inspiration and was helping me to keep on going.

Hell, when my mother was dating a guy with whom she was in love big time and wanted him to make her a proposal... She wouldn't get in touch with him by herself, she would flake his dates, wouldn't answer the phone because "he didn't call me yesterday." At the same time she was sitting at home being jealous that he might have had a date with someone else... She was demanding that only he would call her and stuff.. When I asked her something like "If you want to see him, why don't you just call him and make it easier and simple... I was suggesting that he was just probably very busy working and probably had 100 other problems in his life... I never got any reasonable/logical reply to that from my mon, she was just replying like a robot "he has to call me." I can assure that my mom was not dating anyone else, yet she would do sh1t like this. Needless to say, they are living together happily for about 7 years now, point is that girls are generally pretty fvcked up in their head and they are making things much more complicated by playing their mind games, but we still love them and there are no substitues for them:)
 

Rainman4707

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Cannot see a problem. Things seem to be going smooth. & yes setup the third date.
 

Harry Wilmington

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My motto is, unless she brings it up as a problem... it's not a problem. The only REAL problem is you're probably used to girls that contact you too much, only to find out later they're losing interest in you but can't figure out why. Hint: it's because of too much contact between dates. In my dating life I found that the less I contacted them between dates (except, of course, to ask them out on the next date), the higher rate of return I got on future dates and/or eventual hook-ups. So, there's definitely something to be said for the whole "less is more" approach.

Keep doing what you're doing, maaaaaaan!
 
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