Coming to my senses (long post)

[SpartanWarrior77]

Honestly lately I've been feeling game to be distastful. I think OP is right in moving on. To some extent it is me but I really think that 2023 is a terrible time to be gaming in the US. However its an excellent time to get ur sh1t together, make money and be in an LTR (non government marriage, maybe just church). The SMP is trash and depressing. Maybe Columbia in the early 2000s would have been great for a young american guy, even now I guess but the US 2023, even for a top 10-20% guy, trashhhhhhhhhhh and dissapointing.

 

[BeExcellent]

For 2.5 plus years she's been hanging with you, knowing full well you were dating, screwing other chicks and spinning plates. Apparently she was cool with it, no hassle. It might have even turned her on on some level, it's what kept her attracted to you and her V tingling

You gotta know this isn't standard from quality chicks who seek relationship and commitment no matter how much she digs you. Good high quality women don't hang around accepting that for 2.5+ years. She would have dumped you and sought a man on her own commitment-oriented wave length.

For example @BeExcellent who I consider a quality chick from reading her posts, would you have been cool with that situation, the guy your dating/screwing f*cking other women and spinning plates, for 2 and a half years?

No. But I’ll say this: It’s a value equation. If I am seeing a man I know to be high value, I understand I’m not the only woman who has interest in him. Additionally I don’t try to lock a man down after 1-2 dates like many women do. I understand a desirable man has options. Likewise * I * also have options, and for both people you’re always figuring out who is best (based on whatever individual criteria you have).

It’s dating. It’s a selection process. Im confident enough and patient enough to let his actions show me he values me, which happens in time. But unless it’s a thing where we are exclusive? Im free to explore my options too. And I’ve cut more than one guy loose while somebody else wanted to be exclusive & I found him to be my most desirable option, and the dude who wants me as a plate looses out. Oh well. That guy didn’t appreciate my value in the end relative to another high value guy who did. Not my problem. You win some you loose some.

Every interaction between two people has this value equation. So timelines on someone’s willingness to tolerate certain situations varies widely.

What you don’t want to discover is that you’ve cut off all your options while the other person keeps theirs open. It’s never been with me a situation where Im exclusive & he’s playing the field. Nope. Good for goose, good for gander. To me that’s a laughable situation, but people do that all the time.

No way I’m going to be jumping up & down with my hand in the air going “Pick Me! Pick Me!” Thats just not in my nature & any guy who eventually chooses a “Pick Me” girl will always feel he settled and he will resent that.

 

[Murk]

Imma repost this just cus it's been a few days...

Just a couple quick questions cus I remember you replying to some of my threads asking for advice.

1. Is that your physique in your prof pic?
2. Where are you located that you're having all this success? I have a hard time finding ONE 8, let alone multiple.
3. What would be your advice for guys who still want to be "a menace" as you put it? I don't have the same disdainful outlook on women as it seems you started out with, but I have zero interest in settling down with anybody anytime soon.

He’s a fantasist, his original picture was some lumpy headed disabled looking dude. Posting his daily food intake which was frankly half garbage half microwave meals. I do question the intelligence of the many posters that entertain these random characters that appear on this site.

You have to remember most people are average IQ. That’s why scammers get rich. That’s why the world is in the state it’s in.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Imma repost this just cus it's been a few days...

Just a couple quick questions cus I remember you replying to some of my threads asking for advice.

1. Is that your physique in your prof pic?
2. Where are you located that you're having all this success? I have a hard time finding ONE 8, let alone multiple.
3. What would be your advice for guys who still want to be "a menace" as you put it? I don't have the same disdainful outlook on women as it seems you started out with, but I have zero interest in settling down with anybody anytime soon.

1) Yep and quite recent too. Probably May or June of this year

2) The location is not as important unless you live in some small town out in the country.. I do live in one of the 3 biggest cities in America but i'm also traveling alot so I'm not always at home. You just need to be the type of guy who can attract women/garner womens attention to begin with.. then the rest is just putting yourself in the right places, and cultivating a lifestyle throguh social media helps tremendously.. I wouldn't use your personal social media but make a secondary one and start recording cool sh.t you do.. Women love seeing a guy that's having fun, that has other beautiful women around, has alot of guy friends, does cool/manly sht.

3) I never really had a disdainful outlook on women. It was more or less I grew up in a culture/programming that really objectified women and made me believe women were inferior and plain ol dumb. It actually worked to my benefit growing up because I felt like I could make women do w.e I wanted easily because of those notions.. But then again I was a street dude and that archetype played right into attracting alot of women to begin with.

But if you want to be a menace with women, I would say you gotta really think about women alot, go out alot, learn the nightlife, become a regular at clubs, have a nice physique and become great at se.x ..My attitude and personality was kinda handed down to me based on what cultures I adhered to, which was hip hop culture, and i was influenced by gangbanging/drugdealing.. Growing up in Brooklyn I only wanted to be 3 things ,cool and tough and good with the ladies. Basically what workeed for me was being a badboy for a while.. Growing older its less of being a badboy in doing bad sh.t and more about how you do what you want and making bold moves, having confidence, having a devil may care attitude. Its not something i sat down and watched moviesand copied.. just was kinda how I am/how I became naturally based on environment and cultures I adhered to.

Lastly, its all about planting seeds. Whats planting seeds? just going out there, talking to women, capitalizing in some way, getting a number, snapchat, instagram, a small chat with a girl you see at some retailer, getting head from some girl at a party, a dance with some chick at a house party, a long conversation with a girl you met about some sht.. all these are seeds that can be cultivated. If you get like 10 diff numbers, at least a few of them will be responsive and you can make some sht happen out of them. The bigger the impression you left, the better. There's times where I spoke to a chick that worked at a store/mall on 3 diff occasions before 4th occasion pulling a number and taking her out and gettin it in. --When you love women, when you love the game, you just plant seeds everywhere.. next thing you know you got like 4-5 diff girls you sleep with.. and you just keep going..

 

[RazorRambo24]

Hey congrats man, I'm happy for ya and don't question YOUR devotion for even a second. BUT I DO however question hers and here's why.

For 2.5 plus years she's been hanging with you, knowing full well you were dating, screwing other chicks and spinning plates. Apparently she was cool with it, no hassle. It might have even turned her on on some level, it's what kept her attracted to you and her V tingling

You gotta know this isn't standard from quality chicks who seek relationship and commitment no matter how much she digs you. Good high quality women don't hang around accepting that for 2.5+ years. She would have dumped you and sought a man on her own commitment-oriented wave length.

For example @BeExcellent who I consider a quality chick from reading her posts, would you have been cool with that situation, the guy your dating/screwing f*cking other women and spinning plates, for 2 and a half years?

Again I don't question your devotion and commitment, you've reached a place where you're ready for it and want it.

The real question is how's it gonna be for HER now that the dynamic has changed and you're all devoted to her and ready to commit? How will SHE handle that transition? It's something I'd be concerned about. Have you thought at all about that?

It's really not much different than being friends with someone for nearly 3 years and then settling down with them.. at least in my eyes. Ofc it didnt start like that. But I think you need ot understand how confident people who can pull anyone/have unlimited options operate.. We don't think like that. I mean imagine me sitting there and thinking about her sleeping with other guys, or her thinking about me sleeping with other women. Or me even bringing up any other women or vice versa.. Doesn't make sense to me. I think for both of us we don't see life or things that way.. about how many people you're sleeping with.. we go based on the chemistry we have with each other.
Other women in my life time and time again make it very obvious they weren't able to handle the NSA (no strings attached).. and those women just didnt last in my life.. She did because she wanted it to remain open. I think for her it was comforting knowing that if we are not exclusive, there's not a fear of infidelity or distrust because we're not even THINKING about that kind of stuff.. We're just enjoying life..

Its not like i was just having my fun in the sun and shes cooped up in the house.. She was having her fun in the sun too. Infact, I Think having other people when dealing with a guy like myself is comforting to women.. it makes them not be so anxious/crazy.. Btu again, experience has shown me.. once a girl really starts liking you, those other guys almost don't exist anymore.. Its just how it is.

Quality isn't determined by a woman caring about whether you were sleeping with other women. Quality women dont think like that.. Quality women don't care wjht you got going on unless you're already commited to them.. But quality with her to me is more about her personality, her caring nature, selflessness, good family life, decent occupation, good friends, confidence, talented, beautiful, respectful, etc

Think about all the players/guy's dads who were players their whole life and-- think about how one woman decided to be with them and was the reason they settled down. I feel like everyone knows at least one of these relationships. All the ones I know about lasted the test of time. Will mine? Only God knows.. but idk i just dont operate on these type of simple ideas and worries most people have

 

[BeExcellent]

Yes makeup and tanning beds do wonders

That’s funny. I’ve never been in a tanning bed, do not do spray tans and I do not lay in the sun. I wear sunscreen if I’m going to be in the sun. And I don’t wear make up often or a lot.

This life habit has saved my skin, which contributes to my youthful look

Sun exposure & tanning ages people more rapidly than anything else.

 

[member162951]

But quality with her to me is more about her personality, her caring nature, selflessness, good family life, decent occupation, good friends, confidence, talented, beautiful, respectful, etc

Completely agree. And in my experience quality women as you've just defined don't typically settle for being just a plate for an extended period of time in your case years, again assuming commitment is their goal. They have higher standards for themselves

But it's not black and white and I get what you're saying too. She sounds like a keeper, hope it works out for yall.

 

[member162951]

That’s funny. I’ve never been in a tanning bed, do not do spray tans and I do not lay in the sun. I wear sunscreen if I’m going to be in the sun. And I don’t wear make up often or a lot.

This life habit has saved my skin, which contributes to my youthful look

Sun exposure & tanning ages people more rapidly than anything else.

I like you Be you've got great insight, but reading many of your posts, humility/humbleness isn't exactly your strong suit, is it.

Not a judgment just an observation.

 

[BeExcellent]

I like you Be you've got great insight, but reading many of your posts, humility/humbleness isn't exactly your strong suit, is it.

Not a judgment just an observation.

No worries. I’m confident in who I am & I’ve seen a mirror, lol

 

[member162951]

No worries. I’m confident in who I am & I’ve seen a mirror, lol

Haha, most attractive people have seen a mirror, unattractive people, too. Your choice to boast about it or remain humble, no wrong or right, like I said not a judgment.

It's all cool, didn't mean to put you on defensive and glad you were able to laugh about it.

Back to topic.

 

[Stanley]

@RazorRambo24 Do your thing man. Go with your gut. You've got the experience behind you to know what you want out of life and women. So do what feels right to you.

 

[RazorRambo24]

@RazorRambo24 Do your thing man. Go with your gut. You've got the experience behind you to know what you want out of life and women. So do what feels right to you.

Hey man I truly appreciate your words. Nice to see you post again. I think you've been MIA for a bit which im sure was a good thing for ya.