This is my first post here... I just discovered this website and find it very cool and informative. I am a guy that has trouble talking with girls, approaching...and can be very shy and freeze up. Lately, I have been getting better after employing some of the techniques on the site. I have plenty of friends, I am in a fraternity, I am very well-liked so I do have good social skills, but for some reason I can't get it to translate over to girls.
Anyway, just a little intro, the problem I have is that I have met this gir over the past 3-4 monthsl who I very much like and I really can't figure out whether the feeling is mutual. She likes being around me, sends some signals, but I cant determine if she is like that with all guys or just guys she likes. We are in a business fraternity together so I come in contact with her all the time, and I still can't get a read on her. I know for a fact she does have an on-and-off boyfriend for a year and we have several common friends. I am just really hesitant to pull the trigger fully askin her out on a formal date or anything because I don't want it to be weird when I hang out with her if she like turns me down. Not really afraid of rejection I just don't want her to be weirded out.
This past weekend, we have this huge party where every guy in my frat invites every girl he knows and basically it works so the ration of girls to guys is like 10 to 1. So she shows up, wants to be with me, talk to me. We were both really drunk and she ask me to dance, but I suck at dancing, I freeze up, tell her I'll be right back. I don't what I do the time after that, but next thing I know she is gone and I guess I completely blew a good chance to try to make sort of move. That fact that she has a boyfriend that she has told me the name of and that she like "shacks" with (albeit when she was very drunk), but still I am just really confused on what to do.
There are like 2-3 weeks left this semester and I Really would like to find out one way or another whether I am wasting my time or if this is a girl that will become my girlfriend.
I appreciate any thoughts, I know I am being a *****, but but this is sort of a weird situation that I hopin' some of you experienced guys can tell me what to do.
I'm out...thanks...
Anyway, just a little intro, the problem I have is that I have met this gir over the past 3-4 monthsl who I very much like and I really can't figure out whether the feeling is mutual. She likes being around me, sends some signals, but I cant determine if she is like that with all guys or just guys she likes. We are in a business fraternity together so I come in contact with her all the time, and I still can't get a read on her. I know for a fact she does have an on-and-off boyfriend for a year and we have several common friends. I am just really hesitant to pull the trigger fully askin her out on a formal date or anything because I don't want it to be weird when I hang out with her if she like turns me down. Not really afraid of rejection I just don't want her to be weirded out.
This past weekend, we have this huge party where every guy in my frat invites every girl he knows and basically it works so the ration of girls to guys is like 10 to 1. So she shows up, wants to be with me, talk to me. We were both really drunk and she ask me to dance, but I suck at dancing, I freeze up, tell her I'll be right back. I don't what I do the time after that, but next thing I know she is gone and I guess I completely blew a good chance to try to make sort of move. That fact that she has a boyfriend that she has told me the name of and that she like "shacks" with (albeit when she was very drunk), but still I am just really confused on what to do.
There are like 2-3 weeks left this semester and I Really would like to find out one way or another whether I am wasting my time or if this is a girl that will become my girlfriend.
I appreciate any thoughts, I know I am being a *****, but but this is sort of a weird situation that I hopin' some of you experienced guys can tell me what to do.
I'm out...thanks...
