forgive me this is a little long
I just turned 20 and i go to Arizona State university. I've learned alot in my first year of college life.
But the main thing that i struggle with is comfort building with girls.
Through out my younger life i never really did anything. i played a **** ton of video games, didnt go out and make friends and do things and simply didnt care. I was spoiled and while im not hating on my parents i learned and did absolutely nothing.
this reflects from myself not just when i talk to girls, but guys too. when guys talk about cars, i don't have anything to add because i never bothered to learn about them. same goes with other things like football, movies, card games, etc. any random stupid **** an average teenager went through i never did or experienced because i thought it was a waste of time or i was too lazy. this affected my social life throughout middle school- high school. i changed my last year of high school and started caring but it has been hard to recoup all the years i lost.
so while i think its important to be naturally yourself and not rely on canned material. ill talk to these girls and while the interactions and body language might be good. ill get 100% flakage because the convos i have are really shallow because I can't bring any life or experiences to connect with in them while some guys can go spouting off about hell knows what for hours.
out of not having anything to say i dont approach or talk to girls as much as i should even though its not because i feel im a low quality guy i just feel like im missing a major tool which is experiences and knowledge that an average guy has to incorporate into convos.
I'm not totally off social normalcy. i can talk to people. i talk to girls in my classes i just can't get past the "hey whats up how was your weekend" level. I've joined a frat and it has opened my social world up imensley. i got my first 2 makouts last weekend in california. i could have even lost my vcard at some points this year i just chose not to because hoodrats don't really fit into my standards for my first time.
so i have 3 months starting in may where i have absolutely NOTHING to do. then ill be living in the new frat house across all the sorority living quarters. I plan to spend atleast 3 more years in college and i could make them the best years of my life. but i need to work out somethings in my head.
This summer i plan to take myself out of the picture completely and focus on self improvement. I've read the game, watched the blue print, and other things so i have a good understanding of pua (although not good enough to where i remember canned material just the principles i remember). while i plan to soak in some more of that i'm going to make it a goal to learn everything i should have as a kid. learn about cars, football teams, card games, movies, random other **** so when topics and events come up i have things to add to them not just akward silence. I'll learn about all the little things i took for granted earlier in my life. And maybe through this way my natural game in comfort building will be strong enough to get me over this hump. i also plan to lose a couple pounds to boost my confidence.
so when i come back nothing will stop me. ill be fit, i wont have a fear of not knowing what to say, and ill be in the best situation a college guy could want.
thats how i think i can really help myself. if anyone has advice on how else i should spend these 3 months to help myself let me know..
I just turned 20 and i go to Arizona State university. I've learned alot in my first year of college life.
But the main thing that i struggle with is comfort building with girls.
Through out my younger life i never really did anything. i played a **** ton of video games, didnt go out and make friends and do things and simply didnt care. I was spoiled and while im not hating on my parents i learned and did absolutely nothing.
this reflects from myself not just when i talk to girls, but guys too. when guys talk about cars, i don't have anything to add because i never bothered to learn about them. same goes with other things like football, movies, card games, etc. any random stupid **** an average teenager went through i never did or experienced because i thought it was a waste of time or i was too lazy. this affected my social life throughout middle school- high school. i changed my last year of high school and started caring but it has been hard to recoup all the years i lost.
so while i think its important to be naturally yourself and not rely on canned material. ill talk to these girls and while the interactions and body language might be good. ill get 100% flakage because the convos i have are really shallow because I can't bring any life or experiences to connect with in them while some guys can go spouting off about hell knows what for hours.
out of not having anything to say i dont approach or talk to girls as much as i should even though its not because i feel im a low quality guy i just feel like im missing a major tool which is experiences and knowledge that an average guy has to incorporate into convos.
I'm not totally off social normalcy. i can talk to people. i talk to girls in my classes i just can't get past the "hey whats up how was your weekend" level. I've joined a frat and it has opened my social world up imensley. i got my first 2 makouts last weekend in california. i could have even lost my vcard at some points this year i just chose not to because hoodrats don't really fit into my standards for my first time.
so i have 3 months starting in may where i have absolutely NOTHING to do. then ill be living in the new frat house across all the sorority living quarters. I plan to spend atleast 3 more years in college and i could make them the best years of my life. but i need to work out somethings in my head.
This summer i plan to take myself out of the picture completely and focus on self improvement. I've read the game, watched the blue print, and other things so i have a good understanding of pua (although not good enough to where i remember canned material just the principles i remember). while i plan to soak in some more of that i'm going to make it a goal to learn everything i should have as a kid. learn about cars, football teams, card games, movies, random other **** so when topics and events come up i have things to add to them not just akward silence. I'll learn about all the little things i took for granted earlier in my life. And maybe through this way my natural game in comfort building will be strong enough to get me over this hump. i also plan to lose a couple pounds to boost my confidence.
so when i come back nothing will stop me. ill be fit, i wont have a fear of not knowing what to say, and ill be in the best situation a college guy could want.
thats how i think i can really help myself. if anyone has advice on how else i should spend these 3 months to help myself let me know..