College/Day Game (approaching girls in a college setting)

[ffm86]

I read an interesting article that states that picking up girls in a school/college setting is a lot different from meeting girls in a club or a bar, and that whole new problems arise from it.

Basically, in college, you're likely to run into the same faces often. If you go to a small school (which I do) people are bound to know you. So the problem is that if you've failed to attract a few girls early on, you've failed to establish and present yourself as a desirable male.

Also, that if you attempt to ask out a girl and it doesn't go smoothly, you disqualify yourself not only from her, but from every other nearby girl who saw you flunk out with her and from all her friends whome she'll talk about you to.

Like if you ask the girl sitting to the right of you out and she says no, is the girl infront of you or to the left going to be open to you asking her out afterwards? Even after a couple of days/weeks?

I remember I asked this one girl out once. She said, "wait, you seem familiar? Didn't you ask my friend Becky out?" I said "Huh? Oh yeah, well, that was a long while ago." She said "It was only a month ago." I just said. "Alright. Have a nice day."

I know this one guy who spent all his time so far in college asking out every girl in his dorms and classes to go out. Now, no girls will even go near him because he has that reputation as the guy who tries (key word TRIES) to hook up with every girl.

I recently lost my job (my main venue for meeting girls) so I really want to learn how to approach and meet girls on campus or in classes, but knowing this fact makes it a lot more intimidating. What can one do to hone their "campus/day game?"

 

[daygameguy]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXZ8de19vAg

 

[ffm86]

Sorry, but my sound jack for my speakers is broken. Is there anything I can read?

 

[ElStud]

I read an interesting article that states that picking up girls in a school/college setting is a lot different from meeting girls in a club or a bar, and that whole new problems arise from it.

Basically, in college, you're likely to run into the same faces often. If you go to a small school (which I do) people are bound to know you. So the problem is that if you've failed to attract a few girls early on, you've failed to establish and present yourself as a desirable male.

Also, that if you attempt to ask out a girl and it doesn't go smoothly, you disqualify yourself not only from her, but from every other nearby girl who saw you flunk out with her and from all her friends whome she'll talk about you to.

Like if you ask the girl sitting to the right of you out and she says no, is the girl infront of you or to the left going to be open to you asking her out afterwards? Even after a couple of days/weeks?

I remember I asked this one girl out once. She said, "wait, you seem familiar? Didn't you ask my friend Becky out?" I said "Huh? Oh yeah, well, that was a long while ago." She said "It was only a month ago." I just said. "Alright. Have a nice day."

I know this one guy who spent all his time so far in college asking out every girl in his dorms and classes to go out. Now, no girls will even go near him because he has that reputation as the guy who tries (key word TRIES) to hook up with every girl.

I recently lost my job (my main venue for meeting girls) so I really want to learn how to approach and meet girls on campus or in classes, but knowing this fact makes it a lot more intimidating. What can one do to hone their "campus/day game?"

You're worrying about to much irrelavent sh*t here buddy. Who cares about being the "desirable male" blah blah blah, if your game is good enough, that shouldn't even matter. I can pick up already that you've got inner game problems, for instance, you care too much what others think. Who cares if a girl sees you get rejected? So what.

Besides are you just going up to girls and saying "Blah blah blah, do you want to have lunch sometime?" cause that could be a big problem. You actually have to attempt to talk to the girl and get to know a little about her before you ask to hang out.

For me to be able to help you, I need to know more about the situation. Like, how does the average interaction go? Like how do you open a set? What do you talk about in set?

 

[daygameguy]

Sorry, but my sound jack for my speakers is broken. Is there anything I can read?

The guy talks about how you should create a BUZZ in college. Be a part of popular frats and flirt with the easy to approach girls, and work your way up to the hottest ones.

If you are popular in your own way, and have girls talk about you when you are not around, that's buzz, and that will help you get laid without using any "game".

Just be a cool collected guy, and flirt a lot, but do not ACT soon, take your time, build your value/buzz to a tipping point before pulling the trigger on any one girl. This goes for any college party, or social circle game in general.

That's basically what he talks about. You need to be SEEN and be HEARD cuz many people will get lost in a huge university crowd. Make your presence in popular parties, and be surrounded by cool people.

 

[ffm86]

Like, how does the average interaction go? Like how do you open a set? What do you talk about in set?

Me : "Hey, I missed last class. What'd the professor talk about?"
Her : "Yadda yadda yadda"
Me : "Alright. Thanks."

 

[daygameguy]

Me : "Hey, I missed last class. What'd the professor talk about?"
Her : "Yadda yadda yadda"
Me : "Alright. Thanks."

You seem like you need some coaching from level zero. I would advise you to read the DJ bible, and also some posts in the archive. See how they go about their interaction, how they pump in sexual chemistry, and interact with an abundance mindset.

Here's a small tip just to carry on a conversation longer, and keep it interesting:
Every response has tons of hooks, certain pieces of information you can use to extend your main topic. It's how we naturally build rapport with friends. We start one topic, and end up at a completely unrelated different topic. I hope this helps you start off.

Good luck.

 

[ffm86]

I've read the DJ Bible, Manhood 101 and Mystery Method extensively.

It's getting myself to apply and practice the material that's the hardest.

Like I said, I'm petrified that if I screw up, I not only blow my chances with the girl I'm talking to but every girl close by and all her friends.

If a guy tries to chat up a girl sitting to the right of him and she shoots him down, is the girl to the left of him going to be open to him trying to hit her up?

 

[daygameguy]

Having a negative mindset will get you no where.

A lot of things can go wrong. But you need to be an optimist and assume a positive outcome to your efforts.

 

[ffm86]

I guess, but one of the problems I've encountered with most seduction material is that it's based on the assumption that you live in a big city and you can just go to the clubs whenever and always meet new people.

I live in a pretty small city. I'm still in college and only work part time, so I don't have that much money to go to the bars, and even when I do, I run into familiar faces.

Eitherway, I'm a commuter. I live far from campus, so I can't invite girls back to my place. When I do hookup, I always have to blow a ton of money on a hotel room for the night. Living in the suburbs of a small city and going to school, my location doesn't have a constantly high turnover of attractive girls. I would have no fear of rejection if I lived in NYC or LA or Chicago or anything, where I'm never going to run into the same person twice, but around here, I feel like any ****up I make is going to have a lot of collateral damage.

That being said, what can I do? What material is going to be best for me?

 

[daygameguy]

Mad respect bro. I really respect people who have all these technical limitations (location, money, transport etc) and still have a drive to change their life.

Forget about Mystery. He is great and everything is derived from his classic method. But his method is very badly communicated, its complex, and needs immense trial and error to figure out what exactly is implied in his method.

I would suggest looking up Mehow or Adam Lyons who have all learned from different sources and have a style which is kinda mystery method but much more fast, efficient, simple, and less gimmicky.

Small town has its own advantages which big city does not have. You can easily form a social circle and have everyone know you and be the most popular guy around, and basically OWN the town. That might not happen in a big city. In a big city, every new set needs a start from scratch.

There are only 2 things that are considered attractive:
Your personality (this may include your looks as well)
Your lifestyle (this may include money, job, social circle etc)
So you need to work on both aspects.

Check out everything by Adam Lyons on YouTube. Check out all his interviews. His profile name is AFCAdamLondon. His website is attractionexlplained.com and it has some free info.

His style is insanely simple and natural and yet incorporates the MM technology. It completely changed my perspective on game.

In short, you need to be really friendly and well spoken and create a huge circle of female friends, just by building rapport with every girl you meet. And once you have that rapport with all the females, you will be a guy who is incredibly social proofed with all these females that know you, and basically use this social proof to meet new chicks.

His method is cool. You start with a natural friendly rapport, and once the other person opens up and feels comfortable talking, you can break rapport and have them working for your approval and qualify themselves and chase you.

So check his stuff out.

If you are non threatening on approach and simply build good rapport at start, they have no reason to think you are hitting on them, which should eliminate the fear of rejection that you have, and once that initial rapport is going well, then you can bring out negs and teasing and break rapport, and have THEM hit on you, instead of the other way round..

 

[Sesar]

I just started @ College.. at the moment all i'm doing is making friends with girls building a social circle.. not really trying anything just being a friend..

There will b plenty more oppurtunities to try n hook up possibly.. but i just love talking to girls.. n when they open up it can b a lot of Fun..

I guess I am patient.. but there so many Hotties.. I"m wondering if the only friends i make a r Girls.. specially in my course..
I heard College is the best place to Hook up.. cuz Girls here have Brains n r HOT..

 

[ffm86]

The guy talks about how you should create a BUZZ in college. Be a part of popular frats and flirt with the easy to approach girls, and work your way up to the hottest ones.

If you are popular in your own way, and have girls talk about you when you are not around, that's buzz, and that will help you get laid without using any "game".

Just be a cool collected guy, and flirt a lot, but do not ACT soon, take your time, build your value/buzz to a tipping point before pulling the trigger on any one girl. This goes for any college party, or social circle game in general.

That's basically what he talks about. You need to be SEEN and be HEARD cuz many people will get lost in a huge university crowd. Make your presence in popular parties, and be surrounded by cool people.

I really don't have the money for frat fees at the moment. But even if I did, which I am, lots of guys are in a frat. And I don't get invited to parties often. What more can I do to stand out?

 

[Maxtro]

I need to learn more about this Mehow guy. I did a free mini-seminar with a guy named DJ Fuji who apparently works for Mehow. The material was good but I couldn't stay for the whole thing.

Anyways, college game is odd. Social circle and friends are very important. Without them you won't do anything in college. Trust me on that. This is currently my second month of my second semester. So far I've made about 4 friends (only girls though) and I haven't been to a single party or event. I'm an introverted guy so it's pretty hard for me to make friends.

Another thing that is difficult is conversation. I can only talk about the basic stuff and both me and the girl get bored. It's actually pretty easy to get phone numbers of girls, easier if they are in a class with you. What to do with the number is the hard part.

 

[xdreamz]

i dunno i was studying abroad so the situation might be different since ur a foreigner...but if u just pose yourself as an outsider and make urself completely clueless...asking for directions is what worked best for me. u can have her show u the way or sometimes they will just stand still and point there fingers. i go straight into interest and then ask for her number.

 

[ffm86]

i dunno i was studying abroad so the situation might be different since ur a foreigner...but if u just pose yourself as an outsider and make urself completely clueless...asking for directions is what worked best for me. u can have her show u the way or sometimes they will just stand still and point there fingers. i go straight into interest and then ask for her number.

I've been here for 3 years, so I see quite a few familiar faces. I don't think I can get away with the clueless-approach.