thechosenone2190
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Those types of bad approaches happen. I don't ever tell a girl she's cute or base anything on her looks. Rather, I have some opener related to what's going on to help me out. But just randomly saying "Hey" to any girl that looks attractive while walking down the hallway is a great thing to do also. I need to get back on my cold approaches to keep my skills up, especially on attractive women. I did one today on 2 athletic girls that play soccer at my college, but I had something that related to what they were doing that wasn't going to creep them out. I'm not sure what the PUA term for that is. I'll explain what happened.thechosenone2190 said:In the supermarket, a HB6.5 walks past me. I turn around and go in her direction. I'm not following her per se because she's out of sight by now. I find her browsing the aisle. Just as I walk up beside her, she picks an item off the shelf and begins to walk away. I turn halfway around just to catch her and say:
Me: Hi!
HB6.5: *taken by surprise* I'm sorry, what?
Me: Hi!
HB6.5: *confused* uh... what do you want?
Me: I thought you were really cute and I just wanted to say hi! *smile*
HB6.5: *looking side to side confused*
Me: No?
HB6.5: No
Me: Ok
Approaches: 6
Phone Nos: 3
BJ: 0 (does not include lays and BJs)
Lays: 0
Jeffst1980 said:You are doing a good job approaching- that's the hardest part. But, your geography-based conversational threads are killing any chance you have.
From now, make everything you say about HER. Your opener should just be you noticing something about her spontaneously (e.g. "I like that necklace!"). Then, follow it up with a cold read- anything- i personally like, "you seem like someone with a creative mind." If she agree and qualifies herself to you, that's a good sign. If she asks about you, that's a good sign. If you can get her to laugh while maintaining eye contact, go get the number right then by saying something like, "You're fun, I want to call you sometime." You need to get her to talk about why she's special before you can get the number- otherwise, you look needy.
Keep in mind that, when doing cold approaches, you WILL crash and burn most of the time. There's no way around that- don't lose motivation!! I get blown out on cold approaches all the time, and I'm a pretty good looking guy.
If you get a cold reaction right off the bat, I'd just walk away. It sounds like some of these girls were not keen on being bothered, and no amount of game will change that. Game only works when you have the full attention of the target.
HaHa , i love it that's genius , i will have to try itchiyeung said:I don't like most of the approaches here.
I am in college and I'm a freshmen.
I cut down on chit chat and reveal not much. I combat every personal question with humor.
a simple hi and nice to meet. where you're from is good. don't over do it. dont talk for more than 10 minutes.
She can tell you about her family and such, but you don't need too.
my approach especially towards girls with their phones.
"Excuse me i need to use your phone"
"Sure"
*takes phone and enters my number and saves it.
"So heres my #, my names _______. im free for dinner tonight at 7. you're paying, and maybe ill putout"
and leave. try this
Good job, you've improved so much and you're approaching a lot more too. Your opener is the same thing almost always(Hey, you're cute), but I'm having trouble coming up with good openers also. Did you do all those approaches in the same day or week? I'm feeling a lot more comfortable cold approaching than ever before, do you feel the same way, like it is much more natural? I noticed cold approaching in public isn't much different from cold approaching in college. Good luck, and hopefully you will start dating soon, that's another phase of this PU game. Getting numbers is just the first phase.thechosenone2190 said:Approach #16
Me: stop I thought you were really cute and I just wanted to say hi
HB7: aww
Me: What’s your name?
HB7: __
Me: nice to meet you. I’m __.
HB7: im on my way…
Me: Where are you from?
HB7: outer __
Me: oh cool. where in outer __?
HB7: __
Me: do you know _? she’s from __
HB7: No I don’t
Me: oh ok…
HB7: I’m on my way to the bookstore to buy books for class.
Me: oh ok… what’s your phone number? (with smile)
HB7: haha I can’t give out my number to random strangers.
Me: fine
Approach #17
HB6 in sunglasses sitting on bench
Me: Hi!
HB6: Hi
Me: What’s your name?
HB6: _
Me: Nice to meet you! Where are you from?
HB6: around the area
Me: where around the area?
HB6: __
Me: oh cool. do you know _?
HB6: yea!
Conversation went great for 5 minutes. we clicked REALLY well but then…
Me: I gotta get going but let me give you a call sometime. what’s your phone number?
HB6: sorry I have a boyfriend already!
Me: oh ok that’s cool
HB6: but I really appreciate you talking to me!
Me: yea, no problem! have a good day
Approach #18
HB7 with earphones on
Me: Hey. I thought you were really cute and I just wanted to say hi
HB7: oh ok
Me: What’s your name?
HB7: __
Me: Nice to meet you__ Where are you from?
HB7: Turkey
Me: Oh really!
HB7: yea
Me: so you’re just here for college?
HB7: yea I also lived in California for high school
Me: Oh cool. So you were in turkey until high school right?
HB7: yea
Me: so what do you like better? turkey or here?
HB7: I still like turkey better
Me: oh really
HB7: yea
Me: so youre going back to turkey after college?
HB7: um actually no im going to stay here after college
Me: so let me get this straight. you like turkey better but youre going to stay here? (looking at her in disbelief and confusion in sarcastic way)
HB7: hhaha yea
(then we talked about California, music, and jersey shore)
Me: I gotta get going but let me give you call sometime. whats your phone number?
HB7: ok it’s __
Me: got it. it was nice meeting you
HB7: give me a text sometime!
Me: will do
FINAL-****ing-LY
AFTER 9 MOTHER****ING REJECTIONS I FINALLY GET A HB7's DIGITS OMG that took a lot of persistence but it was well worth it im noticing major improvement in my confidence and social skills
Approaches 18
Ph nos: 4
BJ's: 0
Lays: 0
ps i forgot her name again f*****k lol *slaps head again* BIG AREA FOR IMPROVEMENT: remember her damn name
Haha, I tend to forget names all the time too!thechosenone2190 said:AFTER 9 MOTHER****ING REJECTIONS I FINALLY GET A HB7's DIGITS OMG that took a lot of persistence but it was well worth it im noticing major improvement in my confidence and social skills
Approaches 18
Ph nos: 4
BJ's: 0
Lays: 0
ps i forgot her name again f*****k lol *slaps head again* BIG AREA FOR IMPROVEMENT: remember her damn name