Cold, then warm again?

TomN

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So I went dancing with some friends tonight. I just broke up with my old girlfriend this week, so I was hitting on a friend that I've had a good connection with in the past, , I'm pretty sure she had no idea I had a girlfriend as I've never taked about her around this girl, this girl and I have made out, but that's as far as we've gone. Anyway, they picked me up and went to the bar, but I left for a bit to go to a friend's house for a bit and she ended up calling me being all "omg you'd better come back or I'll kill you." I told her I was coming back in about 15, which I intended to, so I did. Everytime I was around her I kept doing some heavy kino, putting my arm around her, touching her back and shoulder, grabbing her hand, etc. She was really receptive, and gave a bit of kino back herself. Anyway, she gets drunk quick and ended up daning with this guy she's met before somewhere. During one beer run she came with me and said something about tonight being a really weird night. I danced with her too at some other songs, but she kept going to him. I don't know how well she knows him, but I was getting kind of jealous, I was just trying not to show it. During one song I met up with both of them dancing, so I started to grab her and try to dance with her, which she did for a bit, but then left both of us and went to the table. I went back to the table about five minutes later and she said something about not wanting to be around both of us at the same time because it's weird having us try to compete. Eventually she went with some friends and the guy came up and danced with her again for a little bit. When they came back I asked her to dance and she said no, then went off to find friends. She then came back and told me they were leaving, so I asked for a ride, she said something about someone else being able to give me a ride if I wanted to stay, but I went home with them. On the way to the car I did a lot more kino again, and was rubbing her leg and arm while in the car, which she was really receptive too again. She was resting her head against my shoulder and sitting really close to me and everything. I'm just having a hard time reading her. I know she likes me as she called me at the beginning of the night to come out anyway. I really just have no clue what the hell was up with the other guy. I'm not the best dancer at all, I did the white guy two step while standing behind her and grabbing her stomach, while the other guy was a good dancer from what I saw, grabbing her arms and putting them behind his neck and all that, which I tried to mimic but didn't do too well, heh. What do you guys think?
 
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It was more of a bar with music going, the dance floor is pretty small. Plus I always do kino with her, she always seems into it. I've only known the chick for a month or so. I've had a lot of really clear signs too, like her calling me at 2 in the morning even though she knew I was out of town, and she wasn't drunk or anything. I just don't know why she'd ignore me to actively seek out some guy to dance with.
 
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What, no one has any idea? I just don't know how she can switch from being close and flirty to being so cold and then back again. I really do hate bars, I'd rather just chill, talk, and drink somewhere with her instead of competing with some guy she knows on the dance floor. I don't even like dancing :down:
 

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Her IL is higher with the other dude. Telling you that she doesnt like to be with you both at the same time because its wierd is bullshyt. Thats translation for if i kiss this guy i dont want you to see because if things dont work I will come back to you (untill something better comes my way).

You need to ISOLATE her and stop the analysing and dillydallying. be a man and find out!
 

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first of all, if a gurl is dancing with somebody, why the fvck would you wan be a 3rd wheel. And im not even gona go into haw gay it looks on the dancefloor. When a guy does that to me I wana punch im in the face.

second of all. You said you didn't know haw she new the guy, maybe she likes him (as much as you) maybe she has some kind of history with him. do you know?
 

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Who did this girl f*** at the end of the night, you or him? Neither? Typical heterosexual female, at dance clubs. They are just out to "be with their friends and have fun" not to get laid, when are you guys gonna finally figure this out?
 

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Originally posted by JackPrescott
when are you guys gonna finally figure this out?
And then what, turn gay like you, to get laid.........

don't get me wrong I (somewhat) agree with you. Bars are no place to pick up chicks.
 

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That's what I say, I ****ing hate going to bars with chicks, I did last night because I thought it would be a nice way to get to talk to her some as I'm too ****ing busy with finals to do anything during the day with her. I know it looks retarded when two guys do that, but I was drunk and didn't really care, she was pretty drunk too, as she kept saying to me. I'll just not call her until next week, maybe ask her out monday night, as there is something we both enjoy going to on that night. I'll make the move on her again that night.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
And then what, turn gay like you, to get laid.........

don't get me wrong I (somewhat) agree with you. Bars are no place to pick up chicks.
I'm not gay by a longshot. BUT I will say this, women today LOOOVVEE the gay man. He is their favorite girlfriend, and with him, she can discuss things like sex, ****size and pick out thongs together at Victoria's Secret without worrying about him hitting on her for a piece of a$$.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
I wouldn't know.........



you got some curious interests, for a "straight guy"
****size exists, ask any woman about it! They LOOOVE to talk about Vienna Sausages vs. the black anaconda! I know about it, and dont see why that makes me gay.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
I wouldn't know.........



you got some curious interests, for a "straight guy"
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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Originally posted by SMOAK
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
Hey, how do you defeat an enemy? You think like he does, so you can determine their next move, and anticipate it, and counter it, right? I know how womens think, baby, thats all, I love puussy as much as the next guy here!
 

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This is sad... many guys here try to make new DJ philosophy... all this is in books, in bible, in forums and articles... If you want light... do u invent a bulb? No? Why? Becouse there was someone and did it.

Read the bible, read articles and books... and why even bother some guy? Take her out, try your charm:) and than think what to do next... not now:/ this is waste of time, it wont bring anything:/


BTW: Jack, this isnt straight interest:]. And as for being a gay guy... isnt this perfect example of nice guy?

Originally posted by JackPrescott
He is their favorite girlfriend, and with him, she can discuss things like sex, ****size and pick out thongs together at Victoria's Secret without worrying about him hitting on her for a piece of a$$.
Yeah... thay dont worry... cos youre in LBFL:) Covert tactics wont work here...
 

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You came across as been too needy.

Your behaviour is leading her in her mind that SHE is the catch and not you. You weren't aloof enough, when she said that she didn't like you guys competing that was good indication that you should BACKOFF.

You could've gone and talked to other people, danced with other girls, have a drink by yourself. Ambiguity is one of the best tools you can use, the more confused she is about whether you are interested or not, the more she will think you about.


This drives her interest in you higher.

So touch her etc then ignore her. Understand?


Anyway since she is so receptive to Kino, I recommend you isolate her in the future, take it to the next level and kiss her.

No mucking around.


Kaine
 

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Originally posted by Kaine
You came across as been too needy.

Your behaviour is leading her in her mind that SHE is the catch and not you. You weren't aloof enough, when she said that she didn't like you guys competing that was good indication that you should BACKOFF.

You could've gone and talked to other people, danced with other girls, have a drink by yourself. Ambiguity is one of the best tools you can use, the more confused she is about whether you are interested or not, the more she will think you about.


This drives her interest in you higher.

So touch her etc then ignore her. Understand?


Anyway since she is so receptive to Kino, I recommend you isolate her in the future, take it to the next level and kiss her.

No mucking around.


Kaine

Exactamundo! Why did it take so long for someone to bring this up?
 

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So appairently she was kind of weirded out by the trying to dance with her while she was dancing with her friend or whoever that guy was. She said something about how I was acting really weird that night when I was gone, according to a friend of mine. Now I know most here aren't going to agree with this, but I called earlier this evening, I kind of thought she wouldn't answer because of what my friend said, and I was right. I basically just left a message saying I was drunk and I know I did some freaky things and that I'll talk to her next week. I'm going to back off hardcore now, I ****ing hate drinking a lot around women I like. Next week is the last week of school, so I'll call her like next Thursday and try to set up something on Friday before we both head back home. We spoke about doing this before I acted like a dumbass in the bar.
 

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Originally posted by JackPrescott
Hey, how do you defeat an enemy?
ENEMY?:confused:

You must hate women bruh.:rolleyes: You dont know how women think->just rogueass dykes with a feminist agenda. Like attracts like I guess :D
 
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