Cold pickups

[InsidiousNstinct]

Ive decided that Ive been on this board for far to long without doing any action. So ive decided to do cold approaches at my school. Ive never done a cold approach in my life so its going to be weird but I know I can do it. The only problem is I only have 5 mins in between periods so I'd have to work really smoothly in a short time frame. Anyways I'm going to start today and see what happens.

My Plan: Approach atleast 7 girls this week that ive never had any sort of interaction with and try and get e-mail and phone number.

Untill then......

 

[Ares]

go dude go

 

[Sammo]

Nice work pimp, let us know how it go's.

 

[Julian]

Nice man, keep us posted.

 

[Silk]

Cool man. Keep us informed.

I'm doing Boot camp Week 2 right now, in nickell's thread, and also need to do cold approaches.

 

[seulaxplaya]

dont go for the email. thats gay. and takes way too long to write down. just go with the phone number and get all other forms of communication later on

 

[SuSHI]

My first cold pick up was from a classroom. It wasn't my class cause I had a spare, but still it was my first.

I got the email...But it didn't go well. But you know what? No one cared! your reputation will not shattered! It actually helped me cause people who knew me, then knew I had the guts to actually approach a strange girl at school. So f*ck ya go for it!

I'd advise you to do an approach at lunch time, find a girl reading alone or with 1 friend (good to use a wing man in that situation).

 

[Iv4]

Good for you man and I'm waiting t hear what hapens

I usually work with e-mails.Though ask for the phone or a voice convo then.Focus on the e-mail(she'll probably be suprised about not wanting the phone number bit).When you start e-mailing move it onto IM she may want to call you up(I'd say 60% chance).Hell even act diferent in e-mail,IM etc.

Have you got any range or just any girl you see?

 

[DirkPitt]

Originally posted by SuSHI
then knew I had the guts to actually approach a strange girl at school.

I don't really get attracted to strange girls. I prefer the cute ones who are physically and mentally "normal". Although philosophers and psychologists can debate forever the meaning of normal, I prefer it to think of a girl who isn't too far off from the status quo. But if you like strange girls, be my guest. Just not my cup of tea.

 

[SuSHI]

When I said "strange" I meant stranger. This girl was hott! not a weirdo, although some of those can be pretty cute as well

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

I failed...didn't even approach. It was a lot harder than I thought it would be. Not going to make any excuses or anything like that. I really got down on myself but I'm not really upset about it now. I see that I have a lot of improvement to do and make, so unstead of this being a negative post I want it to be positive.

How can it be positive?

I can't really say I encourage you to do it because then that would just be hypicritical (spelling)

What I will say though is don't look at things like I did.

I put to much emphasis (spelling) on it. Which made me overly think the situation which in turn is one of the reasons I failed.
Not only failed my goal but almost failed one of my classes at school.

Which I should've never put that past my studies anyways. I'm not an easy looser. One thing I learned was that I don't know everything I THOUGHT I knew. I also seen that theres always room for self improvement.

So I just have to suck it up and continue because its not the end of the world.

If you want you can flame me it doesn't really matter because Ill just take it in strive.

Because see I needed this to happen to me it kind've knocked me off my pedistal u could say

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

hahahahah i knew this was going to happen

it happened to me

next time dont write shyt about what your going to do, just do it

because of you fail ( thats what you were thinking ?) you have extra pressure because you make a promis to approach on here

just forgit about this web page and approach

 

[PiHiPlaya]

Originally posted by Iv4

I usually work with e-mails.Though ask for the phone or a voice convo then.Focus on the e-mail(she'll probably be suprised about not wanting the phone number bit).When you start e-mailing move it onto IM she may want to call you up(I'd say 60% chance).Hell even act diferent in e-mail,IM etc.

What? dude, that makes no sense whatsoever. How do you express emotion through email? How do you kino on aim. The phone number is the instrument to ring her up, talk to her for 10 minutes, set up a date, meet her in person. With E Mails and Instant Messaging you can't get anything across, you can't show sarcasm, you can't show that your kidding, you can't hear or see an interest level. Computers+Girls= IL killer!

Try switching up to asking for the phone number and see if your success level is raised.

Ahh And JBizzle,

Congratulations on your effort! Now you have all weekend to improve yourself, read some confidence posts, maybe get a new haircut and improve your clothes. I remember just a few days ago, I promised myself that I would talk to this one reallly hot sophomore, i see her and i FREEZE! I think to myself "Be A Man! Grab Your Balls!" and I went thru everything I learned on this site... by the time I got the confidence to go, a guy just showed up and she was flirting and walking away with him! Failure, right? Wrong! I turn around, see another girl i've seen around get her name and number after establishing rapport.

The Key was I didn't think about this second girl. What you have to do, is learn to love the fear when you approach. Think of that feeling you get in your stomach when you approach that girl, how your palms sweat. Learn to LOVE that feeling, learn to tap into that fear. If you end up liking that feeling you'll like the approach more. that's what I did.

GOOD LUCK ON MONDAY DUDE!

 

[Craig Reeves]

My reply....

Email is actually better than the phone, and let me tell you why...

Asking for a girl's email is easier than asking for her phone number, and gets the job done a lot better - ESPECIALLY in high school.

You see, the only time you should really do any communicating with your girl is in person. Any other means of communication (phone, email, IM, whatever) should only be used to PLAN OUT these personal meetings.

You see, too many guys focus too much on the phone. They act like it is the most important part of dating when it is not.

The phone is not always the best choice because when you first meet a girl and ask for her phone number, once you call her, too often she'll start acting very stand-offish, and a lot of times, even rude.

Second of all, you don't know her schedule. She could have been busy when you called and you'll end up getting a lot of run-around.

You see, with email, she can answer it ON HER OWN TIME WHEN SHE ISN'T BUSY. Plus, girls respond to emails much better and much more often than they respond to voice-mail messages.

Girls are about 2 times as stand-offish in high school than they are in later life, because they don't know themselves as well.

That being said - communication/flirting/whatever should ONLY be done in person, 10 minutes is WAY too long to talk to a girl you just met on the phone. 5 minutes is even pushing it.

What you need to do is talk to a girl, and get her email. The next day, email her with this message.

"Hey there, it was fun meeting you yesterday. However, before I can really call you a good friend, I'll have to get to know you a little better. Tommorow afternoon I'm gonna be at [some place], you're welcome to join me for something to eat and some good conversation. Write me back."

 

[PiHiPlaya]

Re: My reply....

Originally posted by Craig Reeves
Email is actually better than the phone, and let me tell you why...

Asking for a girl's email is easier than asking for her phone number, and gets the job done a lot better - ESPECIALLY in high school.

Never take the easy way out, go for the challenge.


You see, the only time you should really do any communicating with your girl is in person. Any other means of communication (phone, email, IM, whatever) should only be used to PLAN OUT these personal meetings.

You see, too many guys focus too much on the phone. They act like it is the most important part of dating when it is not.
You're Right on that one


The phone is not always the best choice because when you first meet a girl and ask for her phone number, once you call her, too often she'll start acting very stand-offish, and a lot of times, even rude.
Not if she likes you, she should want to be with you. If she seems stand offish YOU did something wrong


Second of all, you don't know her schedule. She could have been busy when you called and you'll end up getting a lot of run-around.

Should a Don Juan really care about 1 girls schedule? Nah, she should be going out of her mind waiting for you to call, thinking of all the girls you're probably with. If she's not home, her fault, her loss.


You see, with email, she can answer it ON HER OWN TIME WHEN SHE ISN'T BUSY. Plus, girls respond to emails much better and much more often than they respond to voice-mail messages.


O yes, please... let's put the ball in the girls court and let HER run the relationship. I'm sure that's attractive nothings better than having an AFC boyfriend who is always willing to fit her time schedule[/b]


Girls are about 2 times as stand-offish in high school than they are in later life, because they don't know themselves as well.


That's true, but they should know that they want your sexy ass.


That being said - communication/flirting/whatever should ONLY be done in person, 10 minutes is WAY too long to talk to a girl you just met on the phone. 5 minutes is even pushing it.

It really shouldn't take more than 5 minutes, you're right. But if you have read More ******** by pook, you know the girls HAVE to tell you something then give you every single detail. Ten Minutes is more of the AFC cutoff point.


What you need to do is talk to a girl, and get her email. The next day, email her with this message.

"Hey there, it was fun meeting you yesterday. However, before I can really call you a good friend, I'll have to get to know you a little better. Tommorow afternoon I'm gonna be at [some place], you're welcome to join me for something to eat and some good conversation. Write me back."

Or you can call this girl up on the phone, joke around with her and invite her to some bowling or something

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

Craig seems like to me you been lookin in David DeAngelo's mailbag. good things though Ill keep em in mind.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Ah yes! A debate! You're actually quite smart...

I can definatly see you know your stuff....but a few things...

You said to never take the easy way out, but not everyone is good enough with women yet to be able to go for the challenge. Not to mention, that if it's easier to do and you get better results then I definatly prefer the easiest way. I teach guys that they shouldn't have to do more work than they have to - and a lot of guys I teach feel like simply getting a phone number is a lot of work, even when DJs like you and I wouldn't necessarily see it that way.

Then you brought up the fact that if the woman likes you, she won't be stand-offish. But what if you have only talked to her for 5 minutes the day that you got her phone number? You have not talked to her long enough to really find out what her life is like, so it will be impossible for you to be able to if you are calling her at a bad time or not - and in my experience, most guys don't know how to create enough attraction in the woman in less than 6 minutes of talking to her for her not to get a little stand-offish if called at a bad time.

Should a Don Juan really care about 1 girls schedule? Nah, she should be going out of her mind waiting for you to call, thinking of all the girls you're probably with. If she's not home, her fault, her loss.

It's not necessarily caring about her schedule. Whether you care about her schedule or not - you still don't know it. If you call her and she isn't home, that's not her fault, so you shouldn't ditch her because you could be missing out on a good girl (good quality women are hard to find, so you shouldn't ditch a girl just because she doesn't happen to be at home when you call her). You're right - you shouldn't care about her schedule, but that wouldn't be fair to her if you ditched her because she missed your call.

O yes, please... let's put the ball in the girls court and let HER run the relationship. I'm sure that's attractive. Nothing's better than having an AFC boyfriend who is always willing to fit her time schedule[/b]

Good point. However, emailing her is not allowing her to have control, it's just being flexible. You see, being flexible and letting her have control are two very different things. Letting her have control is telling her that she can email you at any time and you will respond positvely. Letting her have control is something like asking her when SHE would like to see you, asking her what SHE wants to do. When you email her you are being flexible, because you are simply giving her the choice whether she wants to engage or not, because you could care less either way.

It really shouldn't take more than 5 minutes, you're right. But if you have read More ******** by pook, you know the girls HAVE to tell you something then give you every single detail. Ten Minutes is more of the AFC cutoff point.

OK, it doesn't matter what she has to say. You are a busy man, and you don't really have time. All you had time to do was to plan up something, so it shouldn't take more than 5 minutes.

 

[Craig Reeves]

Heh....

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Craig seems like to me you been lookin in David DeAngelo's mailbag. good things though Ill keep em in mind.

Yeah, David Deangelo is actually a good dating coach, although he's a little bit gimicky at times and is a bit happy about hyping his material. But yeah, I kind of used him as somebody to compare my own advice to because everybody says he's the best.

I've seen his book, it won't even compare to the one that I'm coming out with soon, though. Although I did hear his Advanced CD/DVD series was really good, though. I just didn't think his book was.

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

Tru, I wasnt knockin you for it cuz I like his material to.