Cold Approaching fails badly in my society, so how do I go about meeting girls?

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Ok so basically I have a problem meeting new people and expandin my social circle. How do I go about it? I'm asking this because I see that my society is basically fvcked up and striking up a conversation with a stranger is deemed to be 'weird' and more often than not I get blown off or bert stared, by dudes as well. So any suggestions?
 

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dude shot happens. Unless your society will kill you or beat your a$$ for cold approaches continue doing them. Failure and the feeling of humiliation is no biggie. The people that stare and laugh are the ones that have no clue about self improvement. You're a man and men are supposed to talk to women.

Personally i don't like sh1tting where i eat so i don't like to talk to people connected directly with my social circle as it would be a lot of drama.
 

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Where do you live? I've done a few cold approaches to no success, but the girls were usually super b1tchy anyways. But you have to understand that girls may not be like that all the time. They could be having a bad day, bad week, whatever..

Like Danzy says, be genuine and friendly.. Just keep doing it. It's better to keep going than to stop and be bitter.
 

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Worthless unless OP tells us about his "society." OP is 18 too, which makes things a little different. Women are more used to older guys hitting on them; a teenager walking up to random women and striking up a conversation would be weird in my "society" as well. They might think he wants them to sponsor him on a high-school jog-a-thon.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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Zarky, I sense a tinge of sarcasm. Correct me if I'm wrong. So if its weird for a dude that looks younger than he really is to approach older women, how do i go about expanding my social circle to include women more of my age?

Alex, I live in Singapore. Alot of people say the night life is vibrant but this is only so in some places. I've been getting lots of negative responses from people when I'm doing DJ bootcamp week 2, even dudes. They either stare, look down or coninue facebooking on their goddamn phone. It's really frustrating sometimes to the point I want to give up.
 

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You buy pheromones and spray them on. Sometimes, there just isn't any rational solution.
 

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I think it depends on where you live, and how you view yourself, and how confidently i.e. leisurely and without Stress (ala Marlon Brando) you speak to a woman (cashier, shopper, etc etc) anywhere you go. Being leisurely is the first step to her thinking, "I'd fvck this guy in a bathroom stall, the sooner the better." Women intuitively know the score, when you ooze being a winner. They can't help but to seek You out and talk to you, and stare at you after you've made your acquaintance.
 

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Konada said:
So if its weird for a dude that looks younger than he really is to approach older women, how do i go about expanding my social circle to include women more of my age?
How about talking to women your age? It's really not hard. If people aren't receptive to you consistently, you're doing something wrong
 

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Konada said:
Alex, I live in Singapore. Alot of people say the night life is vibrant but this is only so in some places. I've been getting lots of negative responses from people when I'm doing DJ bootcamp week 2, even dudes. They either stare, look down or coninue facebooking on their goddamn phone. It's really frustrating sometimes to the point I want to give up.
I live in Indonesia and strangers see you as weird or act awkwardly too if you smile at them without any reason. Maybe it's a south east asian thing?
 

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Fela Kuti said:
I live in Indonesia and strangers see you as weird or act awkwardly too if you smile at them without any reason. Maybe it's a south east asian thing?
Well, this is the first major debunk I've heard of the "grass is greener" on the other side, and I thought North American culture was "cold". This is good information for people who think travelling to third world countries means everyone is nicer. Singapore and Indonesia, SEA countries...wow.
 

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your content might not be bad. its the presentation is what comes to mind.
 
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