Cold-Approaching at Gym

[coyote_astro]

California guys in Los Angeles and San Diego can do beach approaches. Beach approaching is an upside but California is a mess.

I'm in a warmer state so I can do outdoor stuff now.

Good for you man, that's an advantage for sure.

And you are right, I forgot about beach approaching.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Approach her before she start working out or finishing and tell her excuse me I don't mean to interrupt. Next introduce yourself and vice versa then tell her the reason why you approach her. Its just that simple.

That's the worst possible advice, you sound so weak and effeminate. You don't have to justify why you approached her.

Just keep it friendly and casual, get to know the girls over a period of time and when you feel its right start escalating.

 

[Rocnavy]

That's the worst possible advice, you sound so weak and effeminate. You don't have to justify why you approached her.

Just keep it friendly and casual, get to know the girls over a period of time and when you feel its right start escalating.

Ok and while you waiting for a period of time getting to know the woman she knows within the first 5 seconds if she gonna fyck with u or not. Second women ain't stupid they can sense you wanna fyck them so you can keep it friendly and casual all you want and get placed in the friendzone while another guy with balls tell her what he wants and he take her back to his place n fyck her. So why not be a real man and let your intentions be known from the beginning.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Ok and while you waiting for a period of time getting to know the woman she knows within the first 5 seconds if she gonna fyck with u or not. Second women ain't stupid they can sense you wanna fyck them so you can keep it friendly and casual all you want and get placed in the friendzone while another guy with balls tell her what he wants and he take her back to his place n fyck her. So why not be a real man and let your intentions be known from the beginning.

Validating a woman isn't showing "balls". You clearly have terrible game.

Imagine feeling so insecure about falling into the "friendzone" that you have to explain to a woman why you approached them.

Please do us all a favour and stop giving out terrible advice.

 

[sangheilios]

That's the worst possible advice, you sound so weak and effeminate. You don't have to justify why you approached her.

Just keep it friendly and casual, get to know the girls over a period of time and when you feel its right start escalating.

With the approaches I had done, they went something like this.

- Approach, and say "I don't mean to interrupt your workout, what's your name?"
- Approached when girl was on a machine, waved and just asked what her name was.

All situations from there were followed by just basic small talk and trying to get to know her a bit.

 

[Rocnavy]

Validating a woman isn't showing "balls". You clearly have terrible game.

Imagine feeling so insecure about falling into the "friendzone" that you have to explain to a woman why you approached them.

Please do us all a favour and stop giving out terrible advice.

Validating means trying to prove something. What are you trying to prove by approaching a woman and telling her your intentions but hey keep doing what you doing buddy. When you see a woman you like just talk to her until you turn blue in the face that way she will think you would make a great boyfriend while some other guy ain't afraid to tell her why he approaching her and smashed that day

 

[Rocnavy]

With the approaches I had done, they went something like this.

- Approach, and say "I don't mean to interrupt your workout, what's your name?"
- Approached when girl was on a machine, waved and just asked what her name was.

All situations from there were followed by just basic small talk and trying to get to know her a bit.

So your approach was straight to the point sounds like?

 

[SW15]

With the approaches I had done, they went something like this.

- Approach, and say "I don't mean to interrupt your workout, what's your name?"
- Approached when girl was on a machine, waved and just asked what her name was.

All situations from there were followed by just basic small talk and trying to get to know her a bit.

You don't have to justify why you approached her.

I agree that a man shouldn't justify a reason for approaching. He should just approach and not acknowledge the interruption.

Opening by asking for her name isn't ideal. The better thing is to make an observation about her and ask her an open ended question and some follow up to get it going. You can ask about her Apple Watch model, the color combination of her outfit, or something else you observed about her that was interesting.

One time I saw a woman wearing an Oakland Raiders t-shirt in the gym. She was also not wearing earbuds, a rarity in the gym post 2007. This was before the team moved to Las Vegas. This also occurred far from Oakland or California. I asked her about why she chose to wear a Raiders t-shirt to the gym and if she was from Northern California.

 

[Rocnavy]

I agree that a man shouldn't justify a reason for approaching. He should just approach and not acknowledge the interruption.

Opening by asking for her name isn't ideal. The better thing is to make an observation about her and ask her an open ended question and some follow up to get it going. You can ask about her Apple Watch model, the color combination of her outfit, or something else you observed about her that was interesting.

One time I saw a woman wearing an Oakland Raiders t-shirt in the gym. She was also not wearing earbuds, a rarity in the gym post 2007. This was before the team moved to Las Vegas. This also occurred far from Oakland or California. I asked her about why she chose to wear a Raiders t-shirt to the gym and if she was from Northern California.

Lol you already justifying a reason to approach her to begin with just in a indirect way. Women ain't stupid they already know you wanna Holla so why not just let it be known to begin with so you can save yourself from going into the friendzone.

 

[SW15]

Lol you already justifying a reason to approach her to begin with just in a indirect way. Women ain't stupid they already know you wanna Holla so why not just let it be known to begin with so you can save yourself from going into the friendzone.

How do you suggest that one approaches a woman in the gym?

Do you suggest opening with... "Hi sexy, I noticed you've got nice muscle definition. How about you come over to my place and ride my cocck?"

There's a debate between going direct with something like I suggested (an extreme example) and going indirect. With indirect, you have plausible deniability if she complains to a manager about being approached or if a manager confronts you about the approach. A lot of those retail managers are going to white knight for a woman. That can also happen in the grocery store or mall.

Most women will get the point of why you are approaching, direct or indirect. After the initial words are spoken, there's usually a 5-10 min conversation if it goes well. In that conversation, you can flirt and you're definitely asking her out for a date that isn't dinner in a restaurant.

 

[Barrister]

Lol you already justifying a reason to approach her to begin with just in a indirect way. Women ain't stupid they already know you wanna Holla so why not just let it be known to begin with so you can save yourself from going into the friendzone.

Well, because whether at the gym or anywhere else most women enjoy some subtle conversation leading up to a request for a name, number, etc. I agree with being direct but you still need to have some finesse. You aren’t going to get friendzoned by that.

 

[Rocnavy]

How do you suggest that one approaches a woman in the gym?

Do you suggest opening with... "Hi sexy, I noticed you've got nice muscle definition. How about you come over to my place and ride my cocck?"

There's a debate between going direct with something like I suggested (an extreme example) and going indirect. With indirect, you have plausible deniability if she complains to a manager about being approached or if a manager confronts you about the approach. A lot of those retail managers are going to white knight for a woman. That can also happen in the grocery store or mall.

Most women will get the point of why you are approaching, direct or indirect. After the initial words are spoken, there's usually a 5-10 min conversation if it goes well. In that conversation, you can flirt and you're definitely asking her out for a date that isn't dinner in a restaurant.

Same way you would approach a woman anywhere else just go up to her introduced yourself and vice versa then tell her the reason why you there is cause you caught my eye and I wanna get to know you. Just that simple. All she can do is say yes r no and the only way she would complain if you keep trying push up on her after she told you no. Now the only way I would agree about approaching indirectly is on the job cause you gotta be careful since the managers seem to always work in women favor when it comes to her reporting a man for sexual harassment.

 

[Rocnavy]

Well, because whether at the gym or anywhere else most women enjoy some subtle conversation leading up to a request for a name, number, etc. I agree with being direct but you still need to have some finesse. You aren’t going to get friendzoned by that.

I agree with being a lil subtle but on the initial meeting you should come at the woman direct so she can know your intentions. That way the woman will know you trying to be more than just friends.

 

[Barrister]

I agree with being a lil subtle but on the initial meeting you should come at the woman direct so she can know your intentions. That way the woman will know you trying to be more than just friends.

I agree with letting your intentions be known on the first conversation. I just think it takes a little more than just walking up, telling her she looks sexy and asking for name and number. Now maybe some people have that down. I have had a lot of success in cold approaches with a pleasant 5-10 minute conversation and building some friendly rapport before asking name/number (not at gym admittedly - hence my reason for the OP).

 

[Rocnavy]

I agree with letting your intentions be known on the first conversation. I just think it takes a little more than just walking up, telling her she looks sexy and asking for name and number. Now maybe some people have that down. I have had a lot of success in cold approaches with a pleasant 5-10 minute conversation and building some friendly rapport before asking name/number (not at gym admittedly - hence my reason for the OP).

Well I use to tell a woman how beautiful she is when I approached her but now I just introduced myself and vice versa then tell her the reason why I approach her. If she responds in a positive way I will take it a step further. I agree it takes a lot to cold approach women

 

[sangheilios]

So your approach was straight to the point sounds like?

I don't believe in this "game" nonsense, where there is some sort of combination of words and steps you are supposed to take to guarantee success. In an environment like this, I think it comes down to her finding you reasonably attractive and from there just being able to hold a conversation and not being a weirdo.

One interaction I remember from years ago that I witnessed was a man who approached this woman at the gym, he didn't even ask for her name and barely tried to get to know her but yet asked for her number. I give him credit for trying, but most women are not going to be receptive to that, as it comes across as far too eager like you are just going for a booty call. Again, very few women are actually into that despite what some on here feel.

 

[Rocnavy]

I don't believe in this "game" nonsense, where there is some sort of combination of words and steps you are supposed to take to guarantee success. In an environment like this, I think it comes down to her finding you reasonably attractive and from there just being able to hold a conversation and not being a weirdo.

One interaction I remember from years ago that I witnessed was a man who approached this woman at the gym, he didn't even ask for her name and barely tried to get to know her but yet asked for her number. I give him credit for trying, but most women are not going to be receptive to that, as it comes across as far too eager like you are just going for a booty call. Again, very few women are actually into that despite what some on here feel.

Yep I agree it all boils down to her being attractive to you but dang I would never just asked for a woman number without introducing myself and vice versa first.

 

[sangheilios]

Yep I agree it all boils down to her being attractive to you but dang I would never just asked for a woman number without introducing myself and vice versa first.

He was some light skinned black guy and she rejected him really fast. I've actually noticed "game" like this with black men, where they show literally no social grace and more or less go straight for a push to sex like that. I feel a lot of women are not receptive to it but there is a certain type of woman who falls for stuff like that. Black women and certain demographics of hispanic women seem to respond to it, I've also seen some rough around the edges slutty white girl go for game like that. However, an asian woman or some white girl from a middle class or upper class upbringing would be uncomfortable with game like that from a man.

There is something that you can gain from this though. It's better for a man to be direct with his intentions and go for what he wants, though not to that extreme because most women are going to be putt off by it, regardless of whether or not she finds you attractive.