Cold Approaches

[dutchmaster]

So today I finally learned how to successfully cold approach! I am here to share this information with everyone else who has issues with this. Normally when I would see a good looking girl, although I am in a very confident state of mind all of the time, I wouldn't be able to come up to her and just talk her, or if I did I'd be a mess and not know what to say because of how much I would think about it before doing it..

So today at my college there was an event outside, perfect weather, free food, dancing, HBs and people everywhere! I figured wow this is the most perfect chance to practice, if I don't grasp this oppurtunity to practice at least some game then I am an AFC to the max, and guess what. As soon as I saw a girl. I would force my body there even if my mind was saying no, come up to her and just say something about our surrounding. While not thinking anything about what's going to happen before coming up to her. And WOW smooth sailing from there! Seriously everyone that's having the trouble, the secret is DON'T THINK ABOUT IT AT ALL, JUST DO IT. The more you think about it, the harder or weirder it seems. It may be easier said than done, but every girl I forced myself to come up to, I didn't have 1 thought run in my head before hand except for "yes her". No, what if's, no she's too god looking for me, no excuses, just come up and say something! You will be surprised how positively girls react to this! Especially in my age group. Ended up getting a few numbers, doubt I'll do much since the semesters over next week and I'm not coming back to this college in the fall, but it was great practice for the upcoming summer . With that, also comes the confidence to keep doing it!

I felt like sharing this information with all of you having trouble, seriously. Just do it! No thoughts at all! Until you get comfortable doing it that is. Might look like a mess reading that but I have trouble articulating my thoughts sometimes.

 

[r0cky]

You got it man. Your mind will usually not want to do it so you must force yourself into that state until your mind sees that its no big deal.

Its as simple as just pushing yourself.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Exactly! Like r0cky said, you got it! For a while after joining this site and reading some PUA stuff, I thought picking up girls was like a game of chess with negs, sh1t tests, kino and all that.. The college environment is a great place to learn, especially cause all the girls are just as horny as the guys haha.

It's all about just being plain confident with yourself and your interaction. Making eye contact is important too.. As long as you're confident with your interaction with the lady, everything's smooth sailing.

 

[dutchmaster]

Exactly! Like r0cky said, you got it! For a while after joining this site and reading some PUA stuff, I thought picking up girls was like a game of chess with negs, sh1t tests, kino and all that.. The college environment is a great place to learn, especially cause all the girls are just as horny as the guys haha.

It's all about just being plain confident with yourself and your interaction. Making eye contact is important too.. As long as you're confident with your interaction with the lady, everything's smooth sailing.

I was the same exact way, I thought pick ups and cold approach were this giant complicated process. When it's really all about confidence, and I'm naturally a ****y+funny type of guy so it flows well for me making them laugh. And yeah it helps girls in our age group wanna bang even more than we do!

You got it man. Your mind will usually not want to do it so you must force yourself into that state until your mind sees that its no big deal.

Its as simple as just pushing yourself.

exactly! My mind usually says do it, but I can'.t or something negative if I'm about to finally. But now I just force the words out and then I'm thanking myself after. I feel like a whole new man after today. Practiced it a little more around campus today, results were great. Even got a quick coffee date with one girl instead of # closing her.

If a girl mentions she has a BF do you keep gaming her in a cold approach? For example, one girl asked me what I was in school for and I talked about engineering and she mentioned that's her boyfriend's major as well in another school though.

 

[r0cky]

Yeah the bf excuse is no excuse. Just keep talking to her. She might be breaking up with her bf soon, heck she might not even have a real bf. When you ask for her phone# and she throws the bf excuse just say "thats cool i'll just text you" and they'll give it out.