krasnyiLion
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A friend and I decided to get together and try as many cold approaches as we could; On as many girls as we could.
we went to different places and tried different approaches here is what i found to be true so far:
Cold Approaches are obviously the most difficult to pull of because the time constraint, the trust issue and the fact that it is very hard to follow up anyopeners in a way were flirting could begin.
The most difficult to pull off is the walking approach. This is were girls are either walking towards you, away from you or with you. people seem to have something to do and places to go. Stoping a girl in the middle of walking somewhere seems to be the most difficult approaches there are.
after approaching many girls i found that simply having the balls to do it, and looking confident, cracking a joke or looking relax won't get you anywhere.
our approaches seemed to lack something. a simple "hi" would either get us ignored or a "hi" back but to start a convo from there seemed very difficult. girls seemed to reply with short answers or simple polite conversation but the misstrust was still there.
seems like we needed to:
1 stablished trust
2 keep interest
3 follow up the opener with flirty sh*t ( i wonder if very direct hitting on them would have made the trick, compliment on them, (beuty is obvious) or just honestly telling them we were checking them out and we had to go talk to them)
The line that really worked to keep interest going in malls and stores where " i am looking to buy something for my sister, what do you think?" but we failed to really capitalize these openers.
all in all we were focusing on approaching and conversation starters, we must have had conversations going with like 30 different girls but getting past the openers and the friendly convos was really hard
a cute canadian came up to us and we turned it nicely, i told her she could tag a long with us and she did but we failed to build any sexual tension and she ended up losing interest.
i did number close to russian girls
one was maybe an 8 and the other one at most a 7, but here i was really intersted because they were russians, and i automatically started flirting with them and being c*cky it really helped that i was a mexican speaking russian, and i we had conection because we had something in common.
from those two approaches i got that
1 keep convo going (duh)
2 stablish trust
3 kino
4 have something in common
5 just number close
6 once you got the number, leave
i think so far stablishing trust and making the girl interested in Me for something that stands out about me, is the hard part. the approach and the conversation starter are easy. (for me at least) i think i need to be honest and start just flat out telling her that i approached her because she is cute, or because she looks like an interesting person or something to stablish right of the bat that i am there to pick her up.
input IS ENCOURAGED, any tips or things that works for you more experienced Don Juans on Cold Aproaches
i need to master these cold approaches seriously (when i am in my environment and girls are around, like at work or school I do really good)
but cold approaches are the ones i need work on.
i need advices or sugestions.
we went to different places and tried different approaches here is what i found to be true so far:
Cold Approaches are obviously the most difficult to pull of because the time constraint, the trust issue and the fact that it is very hard to follow up anyopeners in a way were flirting could begin.
The most difficult to pull off is the walking approach. This is were girls are either walking towards you, away from you or with you. people seem to have something to do and places to go. Stoping a girl in the middle of walking somewhere seems to be the most difficult approaches there are.
after approaching many girls i found that simply having the balls to do it, and looking confident, cracking a joke or looking relax won't get you anywhere.
our approaches seemed to lack something. a simple "hi" would either get us ignored or a "hi" back but to start a convo from there seemed very difficult. girls seemed to reply with short answers or simple polite conversation but the misstrust was still there.
seems like we needed to:
1 stablished trust
2 keep interest
3 follow up the opener with flirty sh*t ( i wonder if very direct hitting on them would have made the trick, compliment on them, (beuty is obvious) or just honestly telling them we were checking them out and we had to go talk to them)
The line that really worked to keep interest going in malls and stores where " i am looking to buy something for my sister, what do you think?" but we failed to really capitalize these openers.
all in all we were focusing on approaching and conversation starters, we must have had conversations going with like 30 different girls but getting past the openers and the friendly convos was really hard
a cute canadian came up to us and we turned it nicely, i told her she could tag a long with us and she did but we failed to build any sexual tension and she ended up losing interest.
i did number close to russian girls
one was maybe an 8 and the other one at most a 7, but here i was really intersted because they were russians, and i automatically started flirting with them and being c*cky it really helped that i was a mexican speaking russian, and i we had conection because we had something in common.
from those two approaches i got that
1 keep convo going (duh)
2 stablish trust
3 kino
4 have something in common
5 just number close
6 once you got the number, leave
i think so far stablishing trust and making the girl interested in Me for something that stands out about me, is the hard part. the approach and the conversation starter are easy. (for me at least) i think i need to be honest and start just flat out telling her that i approached her because she is cute, or because she looks like an interesting person or something to stablish right of the bat that i am there to pick her up.
input IS ENCOURAGED, any tips or things that works for you more experienced Don Juans on Cold Aproaches
i need to master these cold approaches seriously (when i am in my environment and girls are around, like at work or school I do really good)
but cold approaches are the ones i need work on.
i need advices or sugestions.