Cold Approaches don't work.
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tigre
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Off course cold approaches work, just cause you can´t pull them off doesnt mean they don´t work. How the hell else do you think people meet new people and make friends? Its not like girls are always gonna bump into you first and start a convo with you. Why wait for that to happen if you can make it happen yourself.
pimpfromdayone
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Yep, Lifeforce is right. In order to be a true cold approach:
1.) the girl must be completely new to you, no friends knowing her, or knowing you, nothing.
2.) it can't be in a place where you might "accidentally" run into her, or that is meant for approaching, like a party or club.... come on, those are the easiest placest on earth to pick them up, with the easiest women too. You can't have already been sitting next to her like in a class or something either. Usually it is in an everyday setting where an approach is less common.
If you break either of these two "rules," it is not a cold approach, it is merely talking to someone you already had easy access to.
The college campus, the mall, a store, at sporting events, and well, I suppose a club too if you approached a girl there, would all qualify as cold approaches.
And as to the point about cold approaches having less success rate, that is absolutely true, mainly because most guys can't do it well, and then because some women are less receptive to them. If you do it right and build rapport so she doesn't think you're a weirdo, tease her so she doesn't think you're some niceguy AFC like everyone else, and then have the confidence to get the #, you should be fine, but like anything in the world of women, there is a fine balance.
And oh yeah, most people never really try to make new friends, they just build off people they already knew or meet new people with similar interests that they see quite often (like in sports or something). The social skills of the average person are overrated, esp. by this board, and leave MUCH to be desired. Stop acting like *most* guys in this world know what the hel-l they're doing or have balls of steel... they don't. Most guys DON'T meet girls doing cold approaches. Most guys meet women through their social circle somehow, through social settings, like parties/clubs, or meet women they have EASY access to in classes, sports, or some other interest they have in common.
1.) the girl must be completely new to you, no friends knowing her, or knowing you, nothing.
2.) it can't be in a place where you might "accidentally" run into her, or that is meant for approaching, like a party or club.... come on, those are the easiest placest on earth to pick them up, with the easiest women too. You can't have already been sitting next to her like in a class or something either. Usually it is in an everyday setting where an approach is less common.
If you break either of these two "rules," it is not a cold approach, it is merely talking to someone you already had easy access to.
The college campus, the mall, a store, at sporting events, and well, I suppose a club too if you approached a girl there, would all qualify as cold approaches.
And as to the point about cold approaches having less success rate, that is absolutely true, mainly because most guys can't do it well, and then because some women are less receptive to them. If you do it right and build rapport so she doesn't think you're a weirdo, tease her so she doesn't think you're some niceguy AFC like everyone else, and then have the confidence to get the #, you should be fine, but like anything in the world of women, there is a fine balance.
And oh yeah, most people never really try to make new friends, they just build off people they already knew or meet new people with similar interests that they see quite often (like in sports or something). The social skills of the average person are overrated, esp. by this board, and leave MUCH to be desired. Stop acting like *most* guys in this world know what the hel-l they're doing or have balls of steel... they don't. Most guys DON'T meet girls doing cold approaches. Most guys meet women through their social circle somehow, through social settings, like parties/clubs, or meet women they have EASY access to in classes, sports, or some other interest they have in common.
Marlimus
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I dont agree with glycerine2. My personal experience has been different.
Cold approaches work. I know because they work for me. I prefer to meet girls this way, because its a rush. There's no safety net.
You can chat with a girl for less than 3 minutes, but if you have GAME she will give you her phone number, or even ask for yours.
My advice, Glycerine2, is that you don't say something doesn't work simply because it doesn't work for you.
Cold approaches work. I know because they work for me. I prefer to meet girls this way, because its a rush. There's no safety net.
You can chat with a girl for less than 3 minutes, but if you have GAME she will give you her phone number, or even ask for yours.
My advice, Glycerine2, is that you don't say something doesn't work simply because it doesn't work for you.
diplomatic_lies
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Cold approaches aren't hard, you just need to make the girl comfortable. Not everyone might agree with me, but I like to find a "point of reference" that makes the girl comfortable.
As for the success rate...cold approaches, on average, will get you more numbers/dates than waiting 3 months for a "special event where you can make warm approaches".
Glycerine - If you still don't believe me, send me a plane ticket to your city and a "How to speak American" handbook and I'll prove otherwise
As for the success rate...cold approaches, on average, will get you more numbers/dates than waiting 3 months for a "special event where you can make warm approaches".
Glycerine - If you still don't believe me, send me a plane ticket to your city and a "How to speak American" handbook and I'll prove otherwise
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In those venues....
I'd never talked to anyone there before other than my wingman. I found out about the parties from dudes online who I'd never met. The bars, again, mostly froma dvice I got offline before I knew I'd be in a strange city. Trust me, those can all be cold approaches. See my field report I'm typing now.
I'd never talked to anyone there before other than my wingman. I found out about the parties from dudes online who I'd never met. The bars, again, mostly froma dvice I got offline before I knew I'd be in a strange city. Trust me, those can all be cold approaches. See my field report I'm typing now.
Agreed everywomanshero, A CA isn't venue dependent. You can go to a house party or a club either way and directly approach girls that you have no common aquantances. A CA is cold because you're a complete unvouched stranger to her...otherwise it'd just be social circle networking.