Cold approach in fitness class

[TheNewStyle123]

Do you DJs go for awhile before asking out on the date? Went for first time to a yoga class tonight and it was small. Myself and 4 chicks. One chick was a HB 8.5 and the other was a HB 7.5. Would love to approach either but they both bolted like immediately right when the class ended.

I didn’t want to approach necessarily on class 1 since I think they are regulars and it was my first one tonight. I assume building some rapport before asking out in this setting is best or does it make sense to go straight for the kill and ask them out in the first good conversation you get with them?

I did speak to the instructor for awhile tonight after class. She’s a bit older but figured it would help for social proof if she and I are friendly and the others see that.

That was a really good idea. Others will see that you have really good social rapport, are genuinely interested in yoga, and you're there for more than just picking up chicks.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

This reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where the gang was telling George about this great masseuse, so he signed up for a message, but instead got a Chad-tier MASSEUR.

hahahaha dude, I'm a PT and I've never seen this Seinfeld scene. I'm dying

 

[f(x)]

Pavel’s books are great if you want flexibility but don’t want to do yoga. It’s where I started.

Didn't Costanza ask Seinfeld if he was gay because he thought it moved? Too funny..

(ALSO) Clearly there are some pro's here. Can someone suggest a good beginners handbook or site? All I have
Is a new big thick folding matt. Not so much to workout and sweat, but to get limber.

https://teamruntowin.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/pavel-tsatsouline-relax-into-stretching.pdf

 

[Barrister]

How's your face? Are you gymcel-tier?

I’m not sure what “gymcel-tier” actually is. But I would consider myself very attractive to most women. I have a good face and I stay in very good shape (lean and muscular — I’m a runner and lift regularly), 6 foot, etc.

 

[Barrister]

That was a really good idea. Others will see that you have really good social rapport, are genuinely interested in yoga, and you're there for more than just picking up chicks.

What I figured. I’m going to take this very slow as others have suggested and see where it goes. I think the instructors knowing me and knowing my name and striking up conversations with them each week is a good start though.

 

[TheNewStyle123]

What I figured. I’m going to take this very slow as others have suggested and see where it goes. I think the instructors knowing me and knowing my name and striking up conversations with them each week is a good start though.

Good luck man, let us know! You're going to meet a lot of flexible women in that class.. hahaha

 

[MatureDJ]

I’m not sure what “gymcel-tier” actually is. But I would consider myself very attractive to most women. I have a good face and I stay in very good shape (lean and muscular — I’m a runner and lift regularly), 6 foot, etc.

Gymcel

A gymcel is an incel who works out, believing that a muscular body will compensate for an unattractive face. Gymcels will often spend countless hours in the gym...

incels.wiki

If you have a good face, then you are not gymcel. And of course, if you are 6 foot, you are barely not a shortcel.

 

[MatureDJ]

Good luck man, let us know! You're going to meet a lot of flexible women in that class.. hahaha

Like this?

 

[MatureDJ]

Didn't Costanza ask Seinfeld if he was gay because he thought it moved? Too funny..

(ALSO) Clearly there are some pro's here. Can someone suggest a good beginners handbook or site? All I have
Is a new big thick folding matt. Not so much to workout and sweat, but to get limber.

I think this was the same episode, and after the message, George went to Jerry's and said that he thought it moved.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Do you DJs go for awhile before asking out on the date? Went for first time to a yoga class tonight and it was small. Myself and 4 chicks. One chick was a HB 8.5 and the other was a HB 7.5. Would love to approach either but they both bolted like immediately right when the class ended.

I didn’t want to approach necessarily on class 1 since I think they are regulars and it was my first one tonight. I assume building some rapport before asking out in this setting is best or does it make sense to go straight for the kill and ask them out in the first good conversation you get with them?

I did speak to the instructor for awhile tonight after class. She’s a bit older but figured it would help for social proof if she and I are friendly and the others see that.

That's not cold approach. Cold approach is random. Not approaching a girl in your high school class. it's a warm approach. it's also high risk like social circle. Potential high risk for fallout meaning unless it's a legit stunner and high interest , better alternative exists.

Chat up everyone in the class. Guage interest. drop invites. In the 2021 Era women get off on on fake IOIS for free attention.

 

[SW15]

Do you DJs go for awhile before asking out on the date?

No. Approaching in fitness class is considered cold approaching. It is approaching strangers in a non-bar setting. I don't think it's worth playing the long game because you don't know whether you'll cross paths with her again. Gyms and fitness studios experience a fair amount of member turnover. I'm in favor of striking in the moment.

I do think it is best to choose fitness classes that you're interested in rather than solely on ratios. The great thing about fitness classes is that almost all types of fitness classes have favorable male-female ratios. Even with fitness classes having favorable ratios, getting dates from attending them isn't as easy as you might think. There are very narrow windows to approach. You have 5 mins before class and 5 mins after class. That's not much for quantity. Additionally, a lot of women are not very sociable before/after classes. That's true both for men and with other women in terms of female friendships. I have arranged dates at fitness classes but relative to the number of fitness classes that I attended over time, it was an inefficient time sink. The primary reason to go to fitness classes is if you enjoy the exercise style of the class. If you get any dates out of it, consider it a bonus. You can't build a pipeline around fitness classes. You'll likely have to supplement with other approaching venues.

 

[2Rocky]

Cold approach: You don't know each other's name and never met before.
Warm approach : You know each other's name but may never have met officially. You recognize them as someone you have seen before.
Social circle: You know each other's names, and have met in person before. You have friends in common.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I am certified as a yoga instructor and I teach classes weekly at a few different yoga studios. 95%+ of clients are female.

Do not start taking classes with the intention of picking up girls. Go because you actually want to do yoga. After you’ve become a familiar face over an extended period of time and have built rapport, then things can change.

Many women do take their yoga studio as a safe place and it really is a ladies social hour as @Espi put it.

Trust me when I say that girls taking classes, and the instructor teaching it, can figure out pretty quickly what a guy’s intentions are. Even if you do actually like yoga, but simultaneously have secondary ambitions to pick up chicks, we will know. Energy and vibes really affect the atmosphere at a studio, and regulars & instructors can tell when somethings off.

Even as an instructor, I had to build comfort and rapport. That took time. Girls eventually saw that I was there to teach yoga because I love yoga and I take my own practice seriously. My classes are the most booked now, but it took awhile to develop that positive reputation after consistently conveying good intentions.

And also trust me, any girl who goes to yoga and takes it seriously isn’t going to be genuinely receptive to a new guy hitting on her, even if she comes off that way in the moment. She may be act nice and might even give you her number, but you can bet she’ll tell other girls and the instructor about you in an unflattering light. And on the off chance you do successfully pull as a new member, the quality of the chick is questionable at best, and she is likely very emotionally damaged.

My opinion would be to just regularly attend classes for awhile and don’t try to strike up a conversation (beyond “hi” / “bye”) before or after class unless they initiate. Demonstrate that you’re there for yoga and not chicks. Over time, as the regulars and instructors grow comfortable with your presence, you can gradually interact more with others and begin to build rapport and even develop a social circle. As a new member, don’t bite too fast on any chick who seems interested, it could potentially ruin your reputation and hurt your chances of creating comfort at the studio, and thus, developing a social circle down the line. Ultimately, that would be an ideal situation — a social circle of hot women that gives you instant social proof. Play the long-term game.

Hope my insider perspective provides you with some useful insight.

Why else would a heterosexual male join a yoga class, if not to pick up chicks??

 

[2Rocky]

Why else would a heterosexual male join a yoga class, if not to pick up chicks??

To improve flexibility and recovery from your other intense exercise regimen like Crossfit or other HIIT.
To work on mindfulness and reduce stress.
To be more balanced in your muscle strengths

At least this is what you SAY....don't be surprised if it helps in those areas as well.

 

[SW15]

Why else would a heterosexual male join a yoga class, if not to pick up chicks??

That's a great point. I didn't enjoy yoga on the few occasions I attended. When I attended, it was only to pick up chicks as I was in a moment of a severe lack of prospects. I prefer other fitness classes, many of which have similar male-female ratios as yoga.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is a yoga studio not the gym -- and I actually enjoy doing yoga in general. I know a couple of people though that have met and begun dating from going to yoga. I do take your point though. I actually have a gym in my apartment complex where I generally go to lift.

While there certainly is a differing ratio when it comes to men vs. women at the yoga studio I have struck up friendly convos with a number of the women there. I will say the really hot ones I am interested in have bolted quickly out before I could strike up the conversation though.

Yoga is way harder than it looks...my trainer had me doing yoga and pilates on off days to help with flexibility...and made me go to a Pilates studio with reformer machines 2 times a month...that should be called a torture machine...the regular women there found it hilarious how inflexible I was at first even tho I was in great shape and jacked...

The instructor made me uncomfortable after a while because she would be blatantly hitting on me during class in front of the other women...saying stuff like "I can't believe someone with abs showing through their shirt is having this much trouble...maybe you need to take your shirt off because it might be holding you back..." and give me a sexy smile like she wanted to pull me in a side room and fvck my brains out...

I mean one on one that's one thing but doing it front of 3 or 4 other women with me being the only guy there was a little much for me...

But back to my original statement on yoga, Pilates and flexibility, I got to the point after about 4 or 5 months that I was able to nearly put my palms on the ground...not quite, got like 3/4 of the way up my fingers on the ground but couldn't quite get the whole hand...that was huge progress for me tho since when I started I was barely able to touch down past my knees...my hamstrings and legs were super tight but super muscular...and that is what my trainer told me that I was both inviting a lot of injury potential and limiting my growth since the muscles were becoming extremely short and not able to contract and extend in their full range of motion.

 

[Bokanovsky]

To improve flexibility and recovery from your other intense exercise regimen like Crossfit or other HIIT.
To work on mindfulness and reduce stress.
To be more balanced in your muscle strengths

At least this is what you SAY....don't be surprised if it helps in those areas as well.

You can do yoga at home. Real Indian yogi do not go to a “studio” to exercise. Yoga studios are basically private clubs for pretentious western women. The Prospect says that 95% of his clients are female. You can bet your yoga mat that the other 5% are gays or dudes who joined aiming to pick up chicks.

 

[SW15]

Yoga studios are basically private clubs for pretentious western women. The Prospect says that 95% of his clients are female. You can bet your yoga mat that the other 5% are gays or dudes who joined aiming to pick up chicks.

Certain yoga studios/classes have pretentious western women. Other yoga studios are more kooky women than pretentious women.

A lot of fitness brands/classes/studios attract the pretentious element. I see more pretentious White women than other races/ethnicities.

 

[TheProspect]

Why else would a heterosexual male join a yoga class, if not to pick up chicks??

Not every hobby has to be done with the intention of picking up chicks, although it can be an eventual by-product of a hobby. Doing yoga in a class-based setting keeps you accountable to actually performing the poses and dedicating an hour to the practice, compared to half-azzing it at home on your own and quitting half way through.

Before I myself got into yoga, multiple girls have asked me to attend a yoga class with them, but I always refused, in my ignorance citing it as "gay" or too easy.

However, five years ago a physiotherapist recommend I try heated vinyasa yoga classes to help improve mobility and flexibility. That is how I got started...

I ended up really enjoying the classes as an alternative method of exercise to complement my lifting routine. Over time, I developed a social circle with both instructors and clients. I was repeatedly encouraged to take my yoga teacher training, and eventually did.

Yoga studios are basically private clubs for pretentious western women.

You're right for the most part. Yoga has evolved greatly from its original roots and has become a very, very broad term. Modern Westernized yoga is typically associated with holding and flowing between poses, and has a large exercise component to it. Even though I am a certified yoga instructor I do not refer to myself as a "yogi", nor do I ever use the term in general.

The Prospect says that 95% of his clients are female. You can bet your yoga mat that the other 5% are gays or dudes who joined aiming to pick up chicks.

False.
The vast majority of men (80%+) who come to class are initially either coerced by a wife, girlfriend, or family member, or have been referred by medical or paramedical professional to rehab an injury. Many of them end up liking it and become regulars, with it becoming the primary form of exercise for some of them.

A smaller minority of the men who attend classes use it to complement some form of sport, such as long-distance running, hockey, jiu-jitsu, etc. to increase mobility & flexibility in order to perform better at their sport.

And an even smaller minority are men who live, die, and bleed yoga.

Now that doesn't mean any of the men in the aforementioned groups dislike being around women or that they're above wanting to pick up chicks... My overarching point being that picking up chicks isn't the sole purpose of attending a yoga class, nor is it even the top intention.

As to your ignorant comment on gays going to yoga... Look up the percentage of the male population that is gay in North America, numbers range from 3 to 10%. In my 4 years as an instructor, I would estimate the percentage of men who took my class that were gay to be about the same...
Yoga classes don't magically attract gays lol.

 

[Barrister]

You guys are killing me with these old necro threads of mine.

So I did end up attending this yoga class for 3 months last year. Never actually banged any chicks from it but I did become friendly with 2-3 of them who were about HB 7-7.5's (not the greatest faces but very sexy, in shape, toned bodies). I began stretching myself too thin with dating and life and I actually stopped going. Had I kept going, I definitely could have made a play for one of them. However, I actually was enjoying the exercises themselves and began to rethink approaching at all. Didn't want to sh1t where I was eating.

I still attend the yoga classes now, in fact. I actually enjoy the exercise. Now, in my mid-30s, I find that the extra stretching (which I never do on my own and I should) greatly helps both my back and my shoulders where I have a lot of tightness and soreness. Highly recommend.