Cold approach experts, can you answer some questions?

[Jesse Pinkman]

I just had a couple of questions based on my recent approaches, they are relevant to both nightgame and daygame.

1. Say you have an approach that goes really well as in the vibe is good, she talks to you, is somewhat compliant, and you get the number close. However, it doesn't end in a same day or same night pull back to your place or any lay. The girl is still around in the area, how do you handle wanting to approach other hot girls in the area and talking to them? Do you just go for it and do it and pretend like she is not there?

2. Do you all ever re-approach a girl during the night or the day? If so, under what circumstances?

 

[IKO69]

1) Majority of the time it is not going to end in a lay on the first day/night. You just go for it (as far as talking to other women). You're not tied to anyone or owe anyone anything at this point. If a woman you barely talked to for 10 minutes gets offended because you went and talked to someone else, that says quite a lot about her.

2) Depends where. For instance when I went to clubs I would reconnect with girls I talked to prior in the night when I would bump into them again. If we crossed paths I would say something. This happened quite a bit when I was waiting in line to go to some place- if there was a nice looking woman either behind or infront of me I would chat her up. Then later at the venue i'd be like hey remember me

 

[Dr.Suave]

When in doubt, pull it out and try to stick it in, comply or bye. try escalating

I dont think its a once size fits all. If she´s perceives herself as a "high value quality woman" or something like that, probably not a good idea to hit on other girls in front of her face.

On re approaching the same night, why would you do that unless your gut is telling you there´s a good reason?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

1. Say you have an approach that goes really well as in the vibe is good, she talks to you, is somewhat compliant, and you get the number close. However, it doesn't end in a same day or same night pull back to your place or any lay.

What doesn't end?

The girl is still around in the area, how do you handle wanting to approach other hot girls in the area and talking to them? Do you just go for it and do it and pretend like she is not there?

If this is a cold approach, then what is the likelihood of the same woman that you approached hours ago, will be at the same place at the same time where you are at a later time?

2. Do you all ever re-approach a girl during the night or the day? If so, under what circumstances?

Again, if we are talking cold approach, what are the chances of you running into the same girl again?

Is the town that small?

I can understand if this is a nightgame thing and you both frequent the same club or bar, but that would be more of a warm approach thing.

But a daygame cold approach? Nah.

To answer the question, no, I wouldn't reapproach.

I'd rather ask a new woman once before I ask the same woman twice.

Too many women out there.

 

[corrector]

I just had a couple of questions based on my recent approaches, they are relevant to both nightgame and daygame.

1. Say you have an approach that goes really well as in the vibe is good, she talks to you, is somewhat compliant, and you get the number close. However, it doesn't end in a same day or same night pull back to your place or any lay. The girl is still around in the area, how do you handle wanting to approach other hot girls in the area and talking to them? Do you just go for it and do it and pretend like she is not there?

2. Do you all ever re-approach a girl during the night or the day? If so, under what circumstances?

If the other girls reject you then you may lose social proof points.

 

[SW15]

Say you have an approach that goes really well as in the vibe is good, she talks to you, is somewhat compliant, and you get the number close. However, it doesn't end in a same day or same night pull back to your place or any lay. The girl is still around in the area, how do you handle wanting to approach other hot girls in the area and talking to them? Do you just go for it and do it and pretend like she is not there?

This would be more common in a nightlife venue than in a non-bar approach setting. It is possible to arrange a date/get a number and then stay in that venue and talk to other women. She might stay in the venue and have other men approach her after you arrange the date/collect the number. It's fair game. All you and her have agreed to do is have some future interaction.

2. Do you all ever re-approach a girl during the night or the day? If so, under what circumstances?

No, I don't believe in re-approaching, even within the same night at a nightlife venue. You see the interaction through to a conclusion, whether it is same night sex, a future date planned with a number exchange, a rejection of future interaction, or a conversation that goes nowhere and you eject from it without offering a date.

There's a good thread about re-approaching below.

Re-approaching / Holding grudges ?

Guys who approach regularly, or who spin multiple plates, do you guys ever approach those girls again who have rejected you once? or who were initially rude to you and blew you off? Personally I am unable to as I feel the girls who can't even bother being polite don't even deserve my attention...

www.sosuave.net

 

[Ricky]

If the other girls reject you then you may lose social proof points.

while that is true, i think her seeing him talk to other women in general is a good thing for the social proof and also even slight between women jealousy that can develop. Its also better than hanging in to long post close and risking boring her

 

[kavi]

If you talk to other girls it can be good or bad. A high value guy shouldnt talk to too many women, if she knows your high value already, then if you had a good interaction with her you shouldnt hit on other girls in her presence otherwise she wont value your interaction, she wont feel special. But if you havent shown high value then it can help if the girl sees you interacting with other women.

A low value woman or a low value relationship ie a hookup it doesnt matter of she sees you talking to others, but for a more meaningfulr or impactful interaction she has to feel special and she wants to feel that a high value guy was interested in her specifically not just hitting on women randomly.