Cognitive Dissonance's power in it's life usage

[SimplyTheBest]

"COGNITIVE DISSONANCE is a theory of Leon Festinger’s stating that a state of dissonance (which is uncomfortable) is produced when there is an inconsistency between (A) two beliefs, or (B) between a belief and a behavior. For example, if I believe that cigarette smoking causes cancer, and I smoke cigarettes, then dissonance should occur. I am then motivated to reduce the dissonance by either stopping smoking or by changing my attitude about the smoking-cancer link (“The research is bad” “The super-light, low tar cigarettes I smoke couldn’t possibly cause cancer”). " excerpted from Leon Festinger's theory.

I read a book called "Get Anyone to do Anything" that if you get someone to do something for you, no matter how small the request is, chances are you will be able to get that person to like you. Because cognitive dissonance explains that if someone has done something for you he or she will then tell themselves "Why am I doing things for them? It must be because I like him or her"

It works in opposite as well. If someone turns down your request, chances are they will dislike you as well. It can also be used to gain forgiveness or used it as a tool for persuasion.

But, how can we utilize it for persuasion ? Hmm any idea how it might works cause it is helpful when it comes to dealing with women.

 

[stuartSan]

My 'friend' used to ask my gf (ex now) to do him favours and sooner or later she started to like him.

But that excludes the factor of things that have been going on behind my back that until now I'm still unaware of.

 

[squirrels]

If she's chewing gum, tell her to give you a piece. Get her to buy you a drink. ANY little thing...it works.

 

[Psycho`Sexual]

Yes Yes

Ever hear the quote "Those who do the least, accomplish the most."


This is also a gret way to test interest level, if you can judge attitudes with which girls do you "favors" you can easily tell how interested they are in you.


I actively* DJed in the library at school while we were supposed to be researching something or other and raised IL of about 6-7 girls (my groups and chicks from other groups were gathered around me ).

Either way, I raised the IL of this blonde HB prep, who later did my HW for me . She made an entire poster, when all that was needed were some notes. hehe. The funniest thing is that I didnt even come to school the day we had to present.

Im sorry I missed the funny scene of the teacher wondering how my work got to the class when I didnt.



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*- Active DJing is participating in the techniques/mindset of a DJ, Being a 'Man Of Action;' as opposed to Passive DJing which is idle knowledge/understanding of what it is to be a man.

 

[DJ_Dork]

YES, also use this as a test to see how flexible a person can be.

Instead of having to pick her up every single time.. ask her to MEET you some place that is in between the both of you or ask her to go to the movie theater and buy tickets ahead of time (with you paying back your share of course in whatever way) . Being the PROVIDER/GIVER and not taker really sucks.. she will see you as someone who only cares about themselves and not care how the other person can perform.

Don't be demanding.. or appear needy in making her do stuff for you.. she will see that as desperation of trying to control a relationship.

 

[SimplyTheBest]

How can cognitive dissonance be used in persuasion?

You see, psychologists come up with conclusion that cognitive dissonance can be used to change anyone's mind over anything.
But the catch is you must do it correctly in order to make sure it works.

Suppose if someone believes he or she is a kind person,caring, warm and friendly, it is completely impossible to be rude to anyone. In any circumstances, if they become rude to people, it will contradict their beliefs and therefore they will feel an uncomfortable tension.

In order to reduce this tension (dissonance), they can either change their belief, or give reasons to rationalize their actions.

Changing belief : From kind,caring,warm and friendly -------> unkind, uncaring, cold and unfriendly.

Reasons : I am rude to him or her because they're rude to me and blah blah blah.

But if a person hasn't done anything which could cause dissonance, he or she will even feel dissonance because they will not do whatever that contradicts their belief and therefore change their behavior. As a result, they wont be rude to anyone at the beginning.

Hope you guys see my point. I want to use cognitive dissonance as a tool for persuasion. Give me some examples will ya. Thank you so much.

 

[SimplyTheBest]

Awww come on, this forum has thousands of people but only few replies

Bump!