tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
Went on a coffee date this afternoon, overall I'd say it went pretty well.
Anyway, here's a list of what I noticed. I was hoping you Don Juan experts (I fade in and out of the community) could let me know "A-Level IOIs" vs. "Probably just a coincidence"
1. Crossing/ uncrossing her legs. She did this OFTEN. At least 3-4 times and then I lost count. Every time she uncrossed them, she immediately crossed them in the opposite direction. I also noticed her foot distinctly pointed right/ left each time (i.e. not straight). Also noticed, for lack of a better description, her hand on her crotch before and after each crossing/ uncrossing.
2. Hair playing. Not excessive, but enough to make a statement. I've seen some girls do it like their hair was on fire, but this was much more subtle. Little "flips" and pull-backs, but almost always in conjunction with eye contact/ her smiling.
3. She kept eye contact when ever I did. I looked her in the eyes, she looked right back. Self-explanatory I guess, but the amount eye contact was above average. I've gotten eye contact from some girls like it was going out of style... this was more subtle, but definitely there. I also noticed a little face/lip/nose touching as well. I did this intentionally, and she mirrored it.
4. The conversation kept going and going. Length of a coffee date is probably the best way to gauge interest and we ended up at 55 minutes on the nose. Honestly, the first 5 minutes were a major dud (I was visibly nervous/ not in DJ mode), but we ended on highly positive note with tons of IOIs sprinkled in. Our conversations were lengthy, interesting and there was very little dead spots/ awkward pauses. We kept asking each other questions and continuing the conversation. In fact, I was the one to suggest going our separate ways as we approached the 1 hour mark. Who knows how long she might have kept the date going for.
5. Setting up part 2. She clearly said she'd want to hang out again and gave me the exact day of when her winter break starts next month (she's a college student). She also let me know the duration of next winter break, (i.e "I'll be home all of January") and told me she would be around the whole time. We even threw some ideas around for next time we chill. Whether or not she flakes remains to be seen, but she made her intentions clear, in a good way. On the other hand, I've seen girls talk in code and ignore the subject of hanging out again if they aren't interested. This is a big IOI in my humble opinion.
6. She insisted in getting the last word in. It was a coffee date, no kiss (wasn't expecting one), but it ended quite nicely. I told her how great of a time I had and she said the same. I mentiooned driving back safely/the next time I'll see her/etc. Our "final goodbye" kept lingering, and she insisted on prolonging it/ getting the last word in every time. Based on how interested women tend to behave, I took this as an IOI as well.
So those are the 6 main IOIs I noticed. Other normal stuff, sometimes considered IOIs, like laughing/compliments I took as politeness or just proper date etiquette.
So my Dr. Don Juan's how did I do? Pro's/cons? You're better at this than I am.
Based on these IOIs is Date 2 in the cards? I'm thinking it is, but I'd like the community's opinion...
Anyway, here's a list of what I noticed. I was hoping you Don Juan experts (I fade in and out of the community) could let me know "A-Level IOIs" vs. "Probably just a coincidence"
1. Crossing/ uncrossing her legs. She did this OFTEN. At least 3-4 times and then I lost count. Every time she uncrossed them, she immediately crossed them in the opposite direction. I also noticed her foot distinctly pointed right/ left each time (i.e. not straight). Also noticed, for lack of a better description, her hand on her crotch before and after each crossing/ uncrossing.
2. Hair playing. Not excessive, but enough to make a statement. I've seen some girls do it like their hair was on fire, but this was much more subtle. Little "flips" and pull-backs, but almost always in conjunction with eye contact/ her smiling.
3. She kept eye contact when ever I did. I looked her in the eyes, she looked right back. Self-explanatory I guess, but the amount eye contact was above average. I've gotten eye contact from some girls like it was going out of style... this was more subtle, but definitely there. I also noticed a little face/lip/nose touching as well. I did this intentionally, and she mirrored it.
4. The conversation kept going and going. Length of a coffee date is probably the best way to gauge interest and we ended up at 55 minutes on the nose. Honestly, the first 5 minutes were a major dud (I was visibly nervous/ not in DJ mode), but we ended on highly positive note with tons of IOIs sprinkled in. Our conversations were lengthy, interesting and there was very little dead spots/ awkward pauses. We kept asking each other questions and continuing the conversation. In fact, I was the one to suggest going our separate ways as we approached the 1 hour mark. Who knows how long she might have kept the date going for.
5. Setting up part 2. She clearly said she'd want to hang out again and gave me the exact day of when her winter break starts next month (she's a college student). She also let me know the duration of next winter break, (i.e "I'll be home all of January") and told me she would be around the whole time. We even threw some ideas around for next time we chill. Whether or not she flakes remains to be seen, but she made her intentions clear, in a good way. On the other hand, I've seen girls talk in code and ignore the subject of hanging out again if they aren't interested. This is a big IOI in my humble opinion.
6. She insisted in getting the last word in. It was a coffee date, no kiss (wasn't expecting one), but it ended quite nicely. I told her how great of a time I had and she said the same. I mentiooned driving back safely/the next time I'll see her/etc. Our "final goodbye" kept lingering, and she insisted on prolonging it/ getting the last word in every time. Based on how interested women tend to behave, I took this as an IOI as well.
So those are the 6 main IOIs I noticed. Other normal stuff, sometimes considered IOIs, like laughing/compliments I took as politeness or just proper date etiquette.
So my Dr. Don Juan's how did I do? Pro's/cons? You're better at this than I am.
Based on these IOIs is Date 2 in the cards? I'm thinking it is, but I'd like the community's opinion...
