6-8 participants and nationwide. Safer than online dating great exercise. Can only gain in popularity with social media. Also very flexible with location and date. Cons very hard to pick sports and games both indoor and outdoor that appeal to both sexes. Another con not very popular in states like vermont and cold states where you just basically have to be inside. Has anyone tried it?
Coed sports leagues yay or nay?
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Most men who do co-ed sports league to try to avoid swiping or pure cold approach end up disappointed in the co-ed sports league from a mating perspective.
It’s pretty difficult to swoop into a co-ed kickball, softball, volleyball, or soccer league & directly arrange dates. First, there are more men than women in all these leagues. That's not good from a ratio point of view. Nearly every other guy in these leagues is an unattached guy who is trying to get his penis wet in league because he read some advice article online or in a printed copy of a magazine about doing this. The only exceptions are the men who join teams with their girlfriends or wives. You can make friends in these leagues but chances are that the other men need sex as much as you do. If you’re able to develop a social circle from a co-ed sports league, realize it will take multiple seasons of participation in the league. So you’d better actually like that sport because playing that sport is often the only benefit of it.
If a guy likes in a particular sport and does many league seasons of that sport (spanning multiple calendar years), he might be able to get either social circle-ish opportunities or a direct opportunity at the sponsor bar with a female playing on another team in the league. Same team random relationships also sometimes start, but are rare. Female teammates in a co-ed sports league might be able to give you introductions, which can be helpful.
Most co-ed sports league participants are under 35-40 and its more like under 36 for women.
Co-ed sports leagues can be considered a form of weak social circle game. They are not day game at all. It's not night game either although teams from a league will often congregate at a sponsor bar after that week's games.
It’s pretty difficult to swoop into a co-ed kickball, softball, volleyball, or soccer league & directly arrange dates. First, there are more men than women in all these leagues. That's not good from a ratio point of view. Nearly every other guy in these leagues is an unattached guy who is trying to get his penis wet in league because he read some advice article online or in a printed copy of a magazine about doing this. The only exceptions are the men who join teams with their girlfriends or wives. You can make friends in these leagues but chances are that the other men need sex as much as you do. If you’re able to develop a social circle from a co-ed sports league, realize it will take multiple seasons of participation in the league. So you’d better actually like that sport because playing that sport is often the only benefit of it.
If a guy likes in a particular sport and does many league seasons of that sport (spanning multiple calendar years), he might be able to get either social circle-ish opportunities or a direct opportunity at the sponsor bar with a female playing on another team in the league. Same team random relationships also sometimes start, but are rare. Female teammates in a co-ed sports league might be able to give you introductions, which can be helpful.
Most co-ed sports league participants are under 35-40 and its more like under 36 for women.
Co-ed sports leagues can be considered a form of weak social circle game. They are not day game at all. It's not night game either although teams from a league will often congregate at a sponsor bar after that week's games.
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And not only that, your relative level of performance in such sports is a key attribute in where the chicks there put you on the totem pole. Once you get SportsMogged, it's OVER before it has even BEGUN.
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I agree with this. Your level of skill in that co-ed sports league will matter and will affect your ability to seduce within the league. It will matter with your own female teammates in the co-ed sports league, especially if you're a random free agent being added to some team by the league organizers. It will matter to female team members of other teams, who will likely see you play that sport prior to seeing you at the sponsor bar after the games. The only time it might not matter in the short run is if you're able to approach a woman from another team in the league at a sponsor bar after the game before your team has played her team during the season. One she sees you play later in the season, it could be over if you're not that good in the sport.
The bottom line is that you want to be competent or better than average as compared to the other male players in that league in that league. You'll want to be in at least the Top 50%. The less good looking you are, the higher your skill in the sport should be.
There is a reason why most men who do co-ed sports leagues to try to avoid swiping or pure cold approach end up disappointed in the co-ed sports league from a mating perspective.