Coach-athlete relationship

[The Slight Edge]

This year, I am an assistant coach for a college sports team. There is a girl on the team that I feel I have a mutual attraction for. She is a senior and will graduate in May. I don’t want to do anything that would get me fired, so I will have to wait until May before anything physically could happen. However, I do want to keep the attraction growing so this is possible when she graduates.

Also, I do have a girlfriend currently and she knows this. Again, I do not intend to cheat and/or do something that would get me fired!

Some background information for things she has done so far:

• One day, I looked up and she was gazing into my eyes with the cutest smile on her face. She held this smile/gaze for a LONG time. In fact, I (probably wrong move!) broke eye contact first. She then asked how I was doing and we talked a bit.
• Before practice one day, she passed by me in the hallway and when I looked up, she was smiling with a huge smile, and asked how I was while walking by. She walked with this huge amount of energy, like she was super excited. It caught me off guard because it was so strange. Lol she doesn’t normally act like that.
• I’ve caught her looking at me several times. For example, when talking with a few other team members, I looked up and saw her looking at me.
• She NEVER breaks eye contact! Legit, I know most people say to never break eye contact first, but she will just continue to hold and hold the eye contact seemingly forever.
• After the last competition, out of the blue she asked if I had any big plans for the weekend. She then proceeded to ask me some personal type questions, such as if I have any siblings, other family questions, etc.
• She tends to ask me lots of questions in general.
• She legit ALWAYS smiles when we make eye contact. Even when I asked her about an injury she had, she was SMILING!
• There is a guy on the team who she hangs around with a lot, but they have been friends for awhile and still nothing, so I’m assiming she has friend zoned him.

My questions are:

1. Am I correct in assuming there could be interest on her part?
2. How can I go about building attraction with her without actually DOING anything, given the current situation?

Btw, I am 27 years old; 5-6 years older than her.

 

[skinnyguy]

What's the point of this post if you claim to be loyal to your gf

 

[Glassguy]

She may just be friendly. It happens. She may also just be curious.

You can drop casual hints about being excited for her to graduate. In all honesty, whatever this sport is, she is open game when the season is over because you wont be her coach anymore.

Just keep it light and friendly. Trust me, if she wants you to fvck her brains out, she will let you know.

 

[The Slight Edge]

I am loyal to my girlfriend. As I said, I would never cheat. However, I can’t help it if feelings develop for someone else.

Also, I forgot to mention, after asking about my weekend, she asked if my girlfriend was also going to be doing what I was doing. She also calls me by my first name when the head coach isn’t around.

The thing that makes me think she is interested is how she just can’t stop smiling when looking at me. I watch her with others and this is definitely not the case. (Example: Head Coach)

 

[Glassguy]

The next time she is around you (alone) and strikes up a convo, smile at her and say "You're looking at me like your going to eat me" or "You look really happy to see me.......what exactly is on your mind"

If she is interested she will let the cat out of the bag

 

[AJ84]

I am loyal to my girlfriend. As I said, I would never cheat. However, I can’t help it if feelings develop for someone else.

Also, I forgot to mention, after asking about my weekend, she asked if my girlfriend was also going to be doing what I was doing. She also calls me by my first name when the head coach isn’t around.

The thing that makes me think she is interested is how she just can’t stop smiling when looking at me. I watch her with others and this is definitely not the case. (Example: Head Coach)

The problem is you are angling to do things that would create feelings, even if your intention is to remain loyal to your girlfriend. People don't just fall into feelings with someone, they develop, mainly by spending time getting to know that person, which you seem to want to do. So again it's not like feelings develop out of thin air, and I'm sure if that your girlfriend said to you, about another guy, " I can't help it if feelings developed", you wouldn't accept that as ok with you.

I mean you are talking about having to wait until May to do something? What something? Sounds like a plan.

I'm not trying to criticize, it always feels good to have someone who is attractive be attracted to you, even if you are in a relationship. We are human and we don't turn off and cease to see someone other than our partners as attractive, but you are entertaining something that will increase your chances of cheating. It's one thing to notice her checking you out, being flattered, and leaving it at that, but you are crossing a line by considering your next move with her, to keep the attraction going.

It's a dangerous game, and unless you have super self control the chances of cheating will be high if she offers herself to you.

I'm just saying be aware of where this is potentially going, at your initiative, and what the consequences could be.