Co - worker who has a bf inviting me out

[thunder_god]

Thunder,

She is a flake. I've been in intimate situations with her prior to me knowing she had a bf. She didn't let things escalate.

She's inviting me to her hotel room and many would see that as indication of interest but she's saying stuff like I need your advice, warmth, company, etc. I get a friendship vibe. Wouldn't surprise me to go and for her to start crying and telling me about her problems. She said she needs to see something normal. Wtf does that mean?

She's not sending the right signals.

Then forget about her. She's either going to screw your brains out or tell her to gtfo.

 

[Peña]

Save yourself the trouble man. Things will not end well for you with this woman. She will give you more trouble than it is worth and you will see her at work and will not be able to get away if things go wrong.

Fcuk this *****. Cut her loose permanently.

You are giving bad advice to him. He can not cut her loose permanently because he works with her. He will still see her all the time. Any problems he has with her she can use against him at work. Having sex with her will blow up in his face and he will be in a bad spot dealing with her at work. She already has shown she is crazy. And you want him to have sex with her? How crazy you are.

Cut the sheet OP. Stop trying to make sense of what she's saying.

You're either fcuking or you're stepping. Escalate already!

You are giving bad advice to him too. He should escalate nothing with her and not start something that will cause him problems at work and in his life. Some people just do not know how to think. Then they wonder how they end up in trouble.

 

[Nu Vision]

Peña,

You are right. I will not mix business with pleasure and will stay firm on it. Will go NC. It's not worth it losing my job because of this. She looks like a drama queen. She's hot as hell though so it was definitely tempting.

 

[Peña]

Peña,

You are right. I will not mix business with pleasure and will stay firm on it. Will go NC. It's not worth it losing my job because of this. She looks like a drama queen. She's hot as hell though so it was definitely tempting.

It is very tempting but you can always get another hot girl who is not emotionally crazy, a co worker, a girl who is cheating on her boyfriend. Any trouble that comes of her will spill over to work. You will have to deal with her each day. Too much of a risk to take and it will make it miserable for you. She is not a girl you can just pump and dump. She will be there at all times at work. Not a good thing for you.

 

[thunder_god]

Save yourself the trouble man. Things will not end well for you with this woman. She will give you more trouble than it is worth and you will see her at work and will not be able to get away if things go wrong.







You are giving bad advice to him. He can not cut her loose permanently because he works with her. He will still see her all the time. Any problems he has with her she can use against him at work. Having sex with her will blow up in his face and he will be in a bad spot dealing with her at work. She already has shown she is crazy. And you want him to have sex with her? How crazy you are.





You are giving bad advice to him too. He should escalate nothing with her and not start something that will cause him problems at work and in his life. Some people just do not know how to think. Then they wonder how they end up in trouble.

Its not bad advice. When I said cut her loose, I meant don't contact her anymore and hang out with her. Don't even pick up her phone calls and reply back to her texts. She will get the hint. If its work related and she asks about work then just deal with it in a professional manner like an adult unless you don't know how to act like a professional at work Pena? If OP notices she starts getting bat $hit crazy, he should bring it up with HR first so that they have a record of it in case she decides to pull a fast one on him. The best thing OP can do is go out meet/date other women and cut contact with her unless its work related. The do nothing approach is even worse that you suggested. She will continue to harass him and he will pretend like nothings wrong and she will continue doing this as evidenced by the OP's post. You want the OP to endure a miserable and torturous life? Noob Fail

 

[Peña]

Its not bad advice.

It is very bad advice telling him to have sex with a unstable girl he works with. He agreed with and chose my advice and not yours.

Fcuk this *****. Cut her loose permanently.

When I said cut her loose, I meant don't contact her anymore and hang out with her. Don't even pick up her phone calls and reply back to her texts. She will get the hint.

Now you are lying. You said to cut her loose permanently. He can not cut her loose permanently when he sees her at work each day. That is not cutting her loose permanently. You do not know what you are saying. He should have no relations with her outside of work.

If its work related and she asks about work then just deal with it in a professional manner like an adult unless you don't know how to act like a professional at work Pena?

Work professionals do not fvck each other outside of work in hotel rooms helping a woman cheat on her boyfriend putting himself at risk. You advise him to do that so you are unprofessional.

If OP notices she starts getting bat $hit crazy, he should bring it up with HR first so that they have a record of it in case she decides to pull a fast one on him.

He noticed already she is crazy so there is no need to be involved with her outside of work. You want him to get involved. All uneccessary because he should not date her at all with her having a boyfriend.

The best thing OP can do is go out meet/date other women and cut contact with her unless its work related. The do nothing approach is even worse that you suggested. She will continue to harass him and he will pretend like nothings wrong and she will continue doing this as evidenced by the OP's post.

Now you are suggesting he does nothing with her unless it is work related. So you have no clue what you are saying and agree with me. She can not harass him when he has no contact with her outside of work.

You want the OP to endure a miserable and torturous life? Noob Fail

You are the noob with your fail bad advice. Having sex with a crazy co worker with a boyfriend like you want him to do will give him a miserable and torturous life. He will get a sexual harassment charge on his resume and will not be hired at other places while her record stays clean at her place of employment.

What happened with that letter you wrote to your school complaining about women in the school gym? :crackup:

 

[thunder_god]

It is very bad advice telling him to have sex with a unstable girl he works with. He agreed with and chose my advice and not yours.

I told him to cut her loose, or do you have a problem with reading comprehension?

Now you are lying. You said to cut her loose permanently. He can not cut her loose permanently when he sees her at work each day. That is not cutting her loose permanently. You do not know what you are saying. He should have no relations with her outside of work.

So is this your idea of a debate? Taking what everyone else says and taking it way out of context and exaggerating things? I said to cut her loose permanently which means since he already works with her, he can only do so within reason which means he cut off all contact with her outside of work, no phone calls/texts, no facebook, etc but in the office if absolutely necessary to perform his job he has to speak with her to perform his duties.
Your ideal of advice basically involved taking what I said and rewording it eh? Good job there noob.

Work professionals do not fvck each other outside of work in hotel rooms helping a woman cheat on her boyfriend putting himself at risk. You advise him to do that so you are unprofessional.

He said she said her bf moved out after having a fight. I take that as them having broken up. Besides plenty of people fcuk their coworkers, where have you been for the past few decades? Maybe its time to stop being a keyboard jockey troll and go outside like a normal person and live in reality.

He noticed already she is crazy so there is no need to be involved with her outside of work. You want him to get involved. All uneccessary because he should not date her at all with her having a boyfriend.

Where did you see me tell him to go date her? Your arguments all involve reiterating the same things or twisting words or exaggerating things. This what they teach in troll school nowadays? So tell me how many other troll accounts you got on here?

She can not harass him when he has no contact with her outside of work.

Hundreds of threads on sosuave here prove otherwise.

You are the noob with your fail bad advice. Having sex with a crazy co worker with a boyfriend like you want him to do will give him a miserable and torturous life. He will get a sexual harassment charge on his resume and will not be hired at other places while her record stays clean at her place of employment.

Says the person who seems to think every guy who disagrees with him is MGTOW I guess you never heard of an HR department at work which I advised him to go talk to ahead of time, perhaps its time to get off your ass and move out of your parents basement and get a job.
I guess there must be a reason why you chose to disable your rep on sosuave.

What happened with that letter you wrote to your school complaining about women in the school gym? :crackup:

Hey at least I did something and stood up for something I believed in, which is a lot more then I can about a lot of guys out there including you. BTW I'm still waiting for your list of marriage benefits for men Pena, or was that all just bull$hit you pulled out of your a$$ like the rest of your advice :crackup: ?

 

[Peña]

I gave this guy great advice and you did not. He took my advice and he did not take yours. I pointed out your bad advice and you got mad and decided to insult me and make up lies. Inexperienced men does that not knowing what they are saying.

I told him to cut her loose, or do you have a problem with reading comprehension?

No you have the problem with reading comprehension. He can not cut her loose permanently when he is in contact with her every day at work. That is impossible.

So is this your idea of a debate? Taking what everyone else says and taking it way out of context and exaggerating things? I said to cut her loose permanently which means since he already works with her, he can only do so within reason which means he cut off all contact with her outside of work, no phone calls/texts, no facebook, etc but in the office if absolutely necessary to perform his job he has to speak with her to perform his duties. Your ideal of advice basically involved taking what I said and rewording it eh? Good job there noob.

There is no debate from me. You are making a debate yourself. You gave him bad advice and you were wrong. He agreed with mine advice and not yours. I pointed out your bad advice to you. That made you angry. Then you started whining and insulting me trying to start a debate changing what you said.

He can not cut her loose permanently when he sees her still at work. She will still be there to cause him problems. A noob like yourself does not know that.

He said she said her bf moved out after having a fight. I take that as them having broken up. Besides plenty of people fcuk their coworkers, where have you been for the past few decades? Maybe its time to stop being a keyboard jockey troll and go outside like a normal person and live in reality.

All you can do is insult me eh? Do you believe everything a woman tells you? Do you just assume things without knowing the facts? That is why you are an inexperienced noob. You can still move out without breaking up.

People fvck their co-workers and still lose their jobs or get hit with a sexual harassment charge after they do it. That is not worth having that happen for sex. You are the keyboard jockey not to know that. I am trying to help this guy not get screwed in a bad way. You are giving him bad harmful keyboard jockey advice not knowing what you say. You are the keyboard jockey noob not to know that trying to insult me.

Where did you see me tell him to go date her? Your arguments all involve reiterating the same things or twisting words or exaggerating things. This what they teach in troll school nowadays? So tell me how many other troll accounts you got on here?

How do you she does not want to date him after she has sex with him? Crazy girls are capable of anything. Then she has that to hang over his head at work. You do not think about anything with your bad keyboard jockey advice calling me a troll when you have nothing useful to say.

I gave him good advice and he took my good advice. He ignored your bad advice. Calling me a troll for pointing out your bad advice is a joke. Weak men do that.

Hundreds of threads on sosuave here prove otherwise.

They prove nothing because he does not have to be in contact with her outside of work to be harassed.

Says the person who seems to think every guy who disagrees with him is MGTOW

The people who have disagreed with me have mentioned they are MGTOW.

I guess you never heard of an HR department at work which I advised him to go talk to ahead of time, perhaps its time to get off your ass and move out of your parents basement and get a job.

Instead of admitting your advice was bad, you choose to insult me making up lies. A weak person with no argument does that. That is what you are doing. He does not need to talk with HR when nothing has been done.

I guess there must be a reason why you chose to disable your rep on sosuave.

It is a function that a person can use of they want to. You give bad advice and do not deserve one green rep. This has nothing to do with giving him advice.

Hey at least I did something and stood up for something I believed in, which is a lot more then I can about a lot of guys out there including you. BTW I'm still waiting for your list of marriage benefits for men Pena,

Another guy hating on marriage. Typical MGTOW who argue of insults and attacks and not facts. You are wrong and gave bad advice. He chosed my advice and not yours. I am done wasting my time talking to you. You just want to insult argue for no reason.

or was that all just bull$hit you pulled out of your a$$ like the rest of your advice :crackup: ?

You did that with your bad advice because the OP is taking my advice and not yours. :moon:

 

[thunder_god]

:nono:

I gave this guy great advice and you did not. He took my advice and he did not take yours. I pointed out your bad advice and you got mad and decided to insult me and make up lies. Inexperienced men does that not knowing what they are saying.





No you have the problem with reading comprehension. He can not cut her loose permanently when he is in contact with her every day at work. That is impossible.




There is no debate from me. You are making a debate yourself. You gave him bad advice and you were wrong. He agreed with mine advice and not yours. I pointed out your bad advice to you. That made you angry. Then you started whining and insulting me trying to start a debate changing what you said.

He can not cut her loose permanently when he sees her still at work. She will still be there to cause him problems. A noob like yourself does not know that.





All you can do is insult me eh? Do you believe everything a woman tells you? Do you just assume things without knowing the facts? That is why you are an inexperienced noob. You can still move out without breaking up.

People fvck their co-workers and still lose their jobs or get hit with a sexual harassment charge after they do it. That is not worth having that happen for sex. You are the keyboard jockey not to know that. I am trying to help this guy not get screwed in a bad way. You are giving him bad harmful keyboard jockey advice not knowing what you say. You are the keyboard jockey noob not to know that trying to insult me.





How do you she does not want to date him after she has sex with him? Crazy girls are capable of anything. Then she has that to hang over his head at work. You do not think about anything with your bad keyboard jockey advice calling me a troll when you have nothing useful to say.

I gave him good advice and he took my good advice. He ignored your bad advice. Calling me a troll for pointing out your bad advice is a joke. Weak men do that.




They prove nothing because he does not have to be in contact with her outside of work to be harassed.





The people who have disagreed with me have mentioned they are MGTOW.



Instead of admitting your advice was bad, you choose to insult me making up lies. A weak person with no argument does that. That is what you are doing. He does not need to talk with HR when nothing has been done.





It is a function that a person can use of they want to. You give bad advice and do not deserve one green rep. This has nothing to do with giving him advice.




Another guy hating on marriage. Typical MGTOW who argue of insults and attacks and not facts. You are wrong and gave bad advice. He chosed my advice and not yours. I am done wasting my time talking to you. You just want to insult argue for no reason.




You did that with your bad advice because the OP is taking my advice and not yours. :moon:

Peña not only are you a troll but your hypocrite. You come in here and start insulting people like me and stevo and then act surprised when you get insulted back :crackup:. Go back to crying in your room like a little baby. Its pretty evident from reading your replies back that all you can do is just reuse the same $hit over and over again with your insults and now your resorting to copying my insults :nono: . Also calling me a MGTOW because I disagree with you, that's pretty pathetic :crackup: A lot of people including myself is still waiting for that so called evidence to back up your claims about marriages, which I'm sure is some made up fictitious lie. Answer this question, why haven't you posted evidence on your own thread to back up your claims yet?

Also just because the OP decided to listen to you doesn't mean its the correct advice. He's obviously inexperienced with women and never been through this before, he can't tell what's good advice vs bad advice. I would caution the OP to be very careful who he takes advice from online, especially when it comes from Noobs.

You jealous of my green dots? Only weak men with self esteem issues care about what others think and trivial things like the color of dots on an internet forum as evidenced by you disabling your rep :crackup: but I'm sure we both know what color dots you would be getting if it wasn't disabled now don't we ?

 

[bigneil]

Pena is right. Never go out with this woman. She WILL tell her boyfriend and it WILL spread around the office. She MUST make you look really bad (unless she is gushing over you and admits it to the world, in which case they will hate you even more). Let your resistance of her energize you. Every successful seducer has hot women he is avoiding. Tell other women she is stalking you and go out with them instead.

Regarding women at work. I dated several in the 2000's. I once had a girl gushing over me in the office and her other work boyfriend got so jealous he got himself fired. She was actually married and going through a divorce, and taking the other guy, a millionaire, for all he was worth. She spent a lot of that money entertaining me. Then her ex-boytoy was stalking my apartment, and her ex-husband hated me and it was really creepy. She had sex with me for the first time a month after we met, in her bathroom of the house she got, and her 11 year old daughter was right outside the door. I had no idea until she knocked. This woman was really selfish. Then later on, this girl found ANOTHER guy at work. It did make me jealous too, as intended. Hearing her giggling in his office made my skin crawl. It was so distracting and it made me look like a fool at work. I got her back in the end and then moved away. She and I are still friends, now 7 years later, but that taught me an important lesson about dating women at work: how much it hurts to be the guy who doesn't have her, especially when the office romance is so obvious. Especially when you have feelings for her. Don't put your coworkers in that position. Remember that half of them probably secretly love her.

 

[Peña]

I am trying to give the OP good advice that will help save him from problems at work. You are throwing insults, whining, making up lies. This is the last post I am making to you. You made up lies against me so I will refute them for this last time.

:nono:

Peña not only are you a troll but your hypocrite. You come in here and start insulting people like me and stevo and then act surprised when you get insulted back :crackup:.

Stop lying I insulted nobody. I said you and stevo gave bad advice and you did. That is not insulting. Sad that you can not take critical advice from your bad advice you gave.

Then you got upset and lost it by whining in this post insulting me more and making up lies. Not my fault.

Peña,

You are right. I will not mix business with pleasure and will stay firm on it.

You call me a troll for disagreeing with your harmful bad advice. The OP and other posters agrees with my good advice and took my advice and not yours. :moon:

Maybe its time to stop being a keyboard jockey troll and go outside like a normal person and live in reality.

perhaps its time to get off your ass and move out of your parents basement and get a job.

bull$hit you pulled out of your a$$

Go back to crying in your room like a little baby. Its pretty evident from reading your replies back that all you can do is just reuse the same $hit over and over again with your insults and now your resorting to copying my insults :nono:

You are the one whining over your bad advice. Let it go man. More insults from you with nothing of value. I posted your other insults on top. You are lying because I never insulted you. I said you gave bad advice and you did and then you cry over it. That is not insulting.

There at the end of your sentence in bold you admit to insulting me.

Also calling me a MGTOW because I disagree with you, that's pretty pathetic :crackup: A lot of people including myself is still waiting for that so called evidence to back up your claims about marriages, which I'm sure is some made up fictitious lie. Answer this question, why haven't you posted evidence on your own thread to back up your claims yet?

Only MGTOWS are obsessed with hating on and trying to discredit marriage. You are in the same camp using the same lines as MGTOWS do. All the evidence is provided in my thread by me and other posters that show the divorce rate to be low and the benefits of marriage. Go read it.

Also just because the OP decided to listen to you doesn't mean its the correct advice. He's obviously inexperienced with women and never been through this before, he can't tell what's good advice vs bad advice. I would caution the OP to be very careful who he takes advice from online, especially when it comes from Noobs.

I would caution the forum not to take any advice from you. You are the inexperienced noob if you want to have sex with a crazy co-worker who can destroy your credibility, your job, your life. Crazy women will stop at nothing to ruin a man's life and your advice gives women that power to do that. Instead of writing wasteful angry letters to your school president over women in the gym, go out and experience life and learn about what some women will do to ruin men.

I guess there must be a reason why you chose to disable your rep on sosuave.

You jealous of my green dots? Only weak men with self esteem issues care about what others think and trivial things like the color of dots on an internet forum as evidenced by you disabling your rep :crackup:but I'm sure we both know what color dots you would be getting if it wasn't disabled now don't we ?

You keep talking about reputation and dots. Not me. I never said nothing of the sort. Your other post before that talking about my disabled rep is on top. You are concerned over it.

You are the one who is making a big deal over green dots and my disabled rep. So you are the liar and hypocrite being a weak man with self esteem issues concerned over green dots and my rep. I do not care about green dots. That is why my rep is disabled. You are projecting lying being a hypocrite who made a fool of yourself.

Whine on man because I am done answering your wasteful posts that contributes nothing to what this guy is asking for. That is giving him the good advice he needs not to get ruined by a crazy woman who can ruin his job or his life with just one mistake. You made a fool of yourself.

 

[Nu Vision]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Big neil,

Our offices are in different buildings but if we were to be something people would surely figure it out. Actually another coworker who is married and confessed that she a loved me months ago has has said she knows I have a gf and that's she saw us leaving together from work. This other girl is so annoying and I have no respect of or her. She's in my office all the time for no reason and is now pregnant. I said to her I thought she didn't want to have babies and she said after I made it clear that we couldn't be together she decided to have a baby to see if the marriage could be saved. She's a mess.

My coworker is always paranoid of this girl seeing us talk or whatever because she says she has seen the way she looks at me and that she thinks she is in love with me. She was right. Women have a customized radar for these things.

Back to my coworker ... she is going through some deep Sh1t maybe even depression. She even asked if she could come to my house and hang out outside. I have my son this weekend and she knows I won't let him see any girl I'm seeing until we are serious.

It's definitely an ego boost to see that she wants me now. But I also don't know how much of that is actually attraction or her being desperate for attention after breaking up with the bf. She swears they are broken up and that she likes me. This same girl once told me it wouldn't work out with is because we are from different worlds meaning she hang out in expensive areas of the city while I stick to regular places I'm familiar with not $400+ a night places.

She says it's bizarre that I'm acting this way. That I wanted her before but not now. I told her a couple months ago that I was dating multiple girls my friend shocked me up with and was having a good time meeting new people. That I think surely increased her interest.

I even told her a few days ago that I'm also seeing a girl who I really like and we are into each other so I don't wanna mess that up. So it's not just her bf that is a problem. Her response? Who cares about that ... she has nothing with you and me I met your first.

She's a player. Lol

If not because we work together I would fvck and dump. She's very attractive. It's what's killing me inside. But I think she has some mental issues that can create drama for me.

If a girl says she's is not with the bf and doesn't want him and wants you at that point in normal situations a guy had to take care of business.

 

[thunder_god]

You are giving bad advice to him. He can not cut her loose permanently because he works with her. He will still see her all the time. Any problems he has with her she can use against him at work. Having sex with her will blow up in his face and he will be in a bad spot dealing with her at work. She already has shown she is crazy. And you want him to have sex with her? How crazy you are.

You are giving bad advice to him too. He should escalate nothing with her and not start something that will cause him problems at work and in his life. Some people just do not know how to think. Then they wonder how they end up in trouble.

So I guess in that delusional head of yours calling people crazy, and saying people don't know how to think is not considered insults eh :crackup: ? You can go nicpick about me telling him to cut her loose all you want, but at the end of the day, its the same advice your giving him, so that makes you a liar too then.

You keep talking about reputation and dots. Not me. I never said nothing of the sort. Your other post before that talking about my disabled rep is on top. You are concerned over it.

You are the one who is making a big deal over green dots and my disabled rep. So you are the liar and hypocrite being a weak man with self esteem issues concerned over green dots and my rep. I do not care about green dots. That is why my rep is disabled. You are projecting lying being a hypocrite who made a fool of yourself.

You claim this, but then what do we see here?

It is a function that a person can use of they want to. You give bad advice and do not deserve one green rep. This has nothing to do with giving him advice.

So who's the liar now? The more nonsense you keep on writing, the more credibility you lose . How about some original insults for a change instead of reusing my own insults against me, or is it too difficult for that pea brain of yours?

 

[Peña]

Thanks for the advice guys.

Big neil,

Our offices are in different buildings but if we were to be something people would surely figure it out. Actually another coworker who is married and confessed that she a loved me months ago has has said she knows I have a gf and that's she saw us leaving together from work. This other girl is so annoying and I have no respect of or her. She's in my office all the time for no reason and is now pregnant. I said to her I thought she didn't want to have babies and she said after I made it clear that we couldn't be together she decided to have a baby to see if the marriage could be saved. She's a mess.

My coworker is always paranoid of this girl seeing us talk or whatever because she says she has seen the way she looks at me and that she thinks she is in love with me. She was right. Women have a customized radar for these things.

Back to my coworker ... she is going through some deep Sh1t maybe even depression. She even asked if she could come to my house and hang out outside. I have my son this weekend and she knows I won't let him see any girl I'm seeing until we are serious.

It's definitely an ego boost to see that she wants me now. But I also don't know how much of that is actually attraction or her being desperate for attention after breaking up with the bf. She swears they are broken up and that she likes me. This same girl once told me it wouldn't work out with is because we are from different worlds meaning she hang out in expensive areas of the city while I stick to regular places I'm familiar with not $400+ a night places.

She says it's bizarre that I'm acting this way. That I wanted her before but not now. I told her a couple months ago that I was dating multiple girls my friend shocked me up with and was having a good time meeting new people. That I think surely increased her interest.

I even told her a few days ago that I'm also seeing a girl who I really like and we are into each other so I don't wanna mess that up. So it's not just her bf that is a problem. Her response? Who cares about that ... she has nothing with you and me I met your first.

She's a player. Lol

If not because we work together I would fvck and dump. She's very attractive. It's what's killing me inside. But I think she has some mental issues that can create drama for me.

If a girl says she's is not with the bf and doesn't want him and wants you at that point in normal situations a guy had to take care of business.

She is not a good woman to get involved with based on your description. She has depression and it can back fire on you if you start sexual relations with her. Depressed people are not in their right frame of mind.

She will saddle you with her problems and it will spill over to your work. If she gets angry at you she can turn co workers against you and cause work related problems. That will have a bad effect on your job. Best not to start with her and keep your friendship work related so she can have nothing to use against you.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

OP,
I have no idea what sort of hold this woman has on you but it's apparent that some kind of hold exists. I think you have some degree of one-itis and that's a result of either feeling some attraction for her or feeling guilt that you need to help "fix" her somehow.

This woman is nothing in your life. She isn't your wife, she isn't your girlfriend, she's not any kind of LTR...you two have messed around a bit and that's it.

You need to drop all contact outside of work with her immediately and find new pu$$y. Her personal problems are not your problems so stop concerning yourself with them. If she can't seem to get her life in order, that is her problem to fix. It is not yours. If her problems seem to go from one new problem to the next... which seems like it... and this spiral of problems just continues, yet somehow you're trying to figure out a way to get involved romantically?

Take a step back and get real for a minute.

 

[Nu Vision]

Peña,

Completely agree. She keeps saying what changed? You liked me before but not anymore. Truth is I still like her physically but the issues I've seen in her personality have been a major turn off for me. I'm keeping my distance.

Bettercallsaul,

It's the rescuer in me that was resisting not helping. I'm a nice guy naturally and have been burned because of it. I'm glad I didn't cave and held my ground. She is very attractive and I haven't been with a girl in a long while so it's tough to resist but I will.

I did text her this morning to ask how she's doing and she replied I'm a passive aggressive way saying she's fine and is always fine no matter what. Guess she didn't like tasting a bit of rejection.

 

[Alexandar]

This chicks is nuts.

Bro, listen Ive been in this situation more than once.

You said it yourself right there, and youre right. Chicks like this literally got mental issues, its not just a 'women are crazy' blanket statement.

The rescuer in you is what they feed on.
They create an illusion, there IS NO person inside them that needs rescuing. They ARE the abuser.

If you know whats good for you, go NC, and infinitely more importantly, STAY NC, cuz she will fall over herself and move universes to get at you.

Trust me

 

[christoff522]

Dude she's playing you. Like others have said here keep it professional. It wouldn't surprise me that if she said she had broken up with her bf she would get back with him once you had slept with her.

Just stay away from her, she's dangerous. All sorts of stuff could happen from rape allegations, to her going to HR, telling other co-workers - it's just too ugly to comprehend.

AVOID