Co worker explains why girls smash the "loser"

[MatureDJ]

That statement doesn’t pass the logic test.

If she is making him wait to ensure he is invested in a proper relationship, that itself makes the man beta. Suppose it was rich / tall / handsome / famous guy, that if she didn’t put out, she would lose him. Would she make him wait? I don’t think so.

So chicks will make a short man wait?

 

[Skyline]

A female co worker explained why women dont smash the "good guy" quickly but let the " bum guy" smash quickly. She said that if the "bum guy" leaves you it does not hurt as much as if the "good guy" leaves. She said you actually are emotionally connected to the "good guy". Interesting thought. There maybe a little bit of truth in this.

I just think that they are not sexually aroused by the good guy. They are however attracted. Big difference between arousal and attraction.

The issue is that you’re listening to a likely low quality woman give her perspective about dating. Throw it away, it’s clearly trash.

 

[Pandora]

The issue is that you’re listening to a likely low quality woman give her perspective about dating. Throw it away, it’s clearly trash.

Yeh im married and out of the game. I think her view has some validity. Keyword...some.

With women most of what they say about their motives is trash. They really are not that self aware.

 

[SW15]

So chicks will make a short man wait?

Doubtful. He will likely get ignored. It's not waiting when he doesn't ever get attention.

 

[Skyline]

Yeh im married and out of the game. I think her view has some validity. Keyword...some.

With women most of what they say about their motives is trash. They really are not that self aware.

The majority of them can’t link actions/behaviors to a personality regardless if it’s men or not. I don’t know if this is just Western women but it seems like they genuinely can’t understand that if someone frequently does something then it’s a reflection of their personality.

Meanwhile men in general are lost hyenas waiting for the chance to get laid.

So we have women who can’t figure out someone’s personality unless they tell them directly and then you have men making women the center of their lives through the red pill or just being an idiot low value person.

 

[Serenity]

A female co worker explained why women dont smash the "good guy" quickly but let the " bum guy" smash quickly. She said that if the "bum guy" leaves you it does not hurt as much as if the "good guy" leaves. She said you actually are emotionally connected to the "good guy". Interesting thought. There maybe a little bit of truth in this.

I just think that they are not sexually aroused by the good guy. They are however attracted. Big difference between arousal and attraction.

That's kinda true, but there's a bit more to it than that.

It's the case for women with low self-esteem and a need for control. She feels the good guy is too good for her, so she'll basically sabotage herself. The good guy will be somewhat intimidating to her, she can't control him or the dynamic in the relationship. She will have to let go of some control, but she fears doing so. The bum guy has weaknesses, which she can use to manipulate him when necessary.

I have seen this up close not too long ago about my female cousin. I know her pretty well and she trusts me enough to tell me a lot of things she's not sharing with everyone.

She doesn't pick good men. She'll have them available, she knows they're the better choice, but she settles for lesser guys. One time she hit it off with a friend of mine at a party I hosted, she seemed really into him and I thought finally she has some sense. My friend is genuinely a good dude, he was interested in her as well, but one thing he absolutely isn't is a simp.

She told me she wouldn't go home with him that night literally because he was too good. Meanwhile I know she's a fvcking slut regarding lowlife men.

They kept texting each other for a few weeks and then it just fizzled out, mostly because my cousin pulled away essentially due to fear. I think fear of getting her feelings hurt. Actually getting what you desire might bring with it a fear of losing it and the better it is, the more it hurts to lose it.

Instead she has been going back and forth with some fat, needy, insecure dude which she have never even referred to as her boyfriend.

This doesn't really have anything to do with sexual arousal. It's just the complications of having low self-esteem leading to self-sabotage and poor judgement, messed up emotions running the show essentially. As is the case for my cousin and any other woman I've witnessed being in the same boat.

Your female coworker is pretty much correct, that is indeed how women operate.