Clubbing Solo

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I've seen a lot of guys writing about this and asking about this topic. Although I thought there was already a thread on this, I looked and could not find it. Then again, I can be blind at times or lazy.

I club solo all the time. Not because I don't have anybody to go with but because I have a better time when I go alone. My friend's don't club much and they, of course, are AFCs with large women. I've been clubbing alone for almost a year and found that it will provide more freedom then bringing another.

Most people bring friends for social proof and also as support. A lot of people haven't gotten to the point where they're comfortable in public places without a posse. However, take in to mind the negative sides of bringing another person with you.

I read on another thread by another person that an Alpha Male can gain repore or social proof wherever he goes. This is very true. I just go up and talk to anybody when bored or needing social proof and then end up befriending them or hanging out with them easily. Tonight, I went out and ended up hanging out with this Romanian chick and her friends that I had met a few weeks back at the club. She had a boyfriend already but she was cool to hang out with and other chicks that I had tried macking on before seen me with them and took more interest in me then before.


I've read before that the easiest way to gain repore with people at a club (or anywhere for that matter) is to act like you know them already (don't fake like you do know them) and just talk to them. Male or female. It builds confidence and makes you more of an Alpha Male.



You won't have to run to a friend when rejected or when you need to bail. Instead, just talk to another person or go do your own thing. It will be nice when you're out on a not so pleasant date or otherwise. It may take practice but it's worth it.
 

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I club solo too simply cause I think you're better off that way then going with a few guys that don't know what they're doing. I do, however, think I'd make a ton more progress if I had a DJ wingman.
 

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Im not quite 18 but when i go to the teen club i always go solo. I went with friends the first time and things didnt go to well. They ended up being broke for 3 weeks in a row anyway i had no choice really.

Well going solo was the best thing i could have done, whenever i go i ALWAYS see people that i know and last time i didnt even have to mack. I was solo and the girls came to me. I was just chilling on the sideline sipping some water, scoping the scene. and before i know it i had like 5 out of 9 of the girls walk past smile at me. It was a good night.

When im 18, (this month) ill probably be clubbing solo since ill be moving. But thats cool, because im already used to it. I feel like the fukking Predator. With claws, and pimp dred locks and lazer beams and sh1t. LMAO Just on the prowl, lone wolf style, picking up the honeys without some dumbass friends to make a fool of you.

Soloing is more of a challenge i think, but instead of bs'ing with pvssy friends you are FORCED to interact with other people. I think solitude like that breeds confidence and independance. So that when your with friends at the mall, and your whole group is staring at some dime walking past, your going to be the guy that has the courage to approach her and get the digits while your friends stare in disbelief.
 

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Originally posted by Julian
Im not quite 18 but when i go to the teen club i always go solo. I went with friends the first time and things didnt go to well. They ended up being broke for 3 weeks in a row anyway i had no choice really.

Well going solo was the best thing i could have done, whenever i go i ALWAYS see people that i know and last time i didnt even have to mack. I was solo and the girls came to me. I was just chilling on the sideline sipping some water, scoping the scene. and before i know it i had like 5 out of 9 of the girls walk past smile at me. It was a good night.

When im 18, (this month) ill probably be clubbing solo since ill be moving. But thats cool, because im already used to it. I feel like the fukking Predator. With claws, and pimp dred locks and lazer beams and sh1t. LMAO Just on the prowl, lone wolf style, picking up the honeys without some dumbass friends to make a fool of you.

Soloing is more of a challenge i think, but instead of bs'ing with pvssy friends you are FORCED to interact with other people. I think solitude like that breeds confidence and independance. So that when your with friends at the mall, and your whole group is staring at some dime walking past, your going to be the guy that has the courage to approach her and get the digits while your friends stare in disbelief.
I always wondered about doing this. Usually when you see someone you know at a club, you will ask them who they came with. What do you do when this occurs? It can really make you look bad and give you no social proof if you say you came with noone.
 

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Yea exactly Dave. I solved this problem though by sometimes bringing my sister (15) and two of her friends with me if I go to a teen club. It's good cause everyone sees me walk in with three attractive women and her two friends like to dance with me. So everyone just assumes I'm a pimp coming with three girls.
 

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Originally posted by dave134
Usually when you see someone you know at a club, you will ask them who they came with. What do you do when this occurs?

Oddly enough, they don't seem to mind. As long as you make it seem like a normal thing, they will often admire you for your independence.

However, you can use statements to deflect any odd opinions of you. For instance, if they ask, "so, who are you here with?" There are a few things you can respond with.

"I just decided at the last minute to come tonight and my friend's had prior commitments so I just went solo tonight."

"I usually just come by myself. I'm a big boy so I don't need an escort :)"

"I came solo. It's just so much easier then having to keep track of all of your friends in the club. Of course then when one wants to leave..."

"I'm solo tonight. My friend's aren't much into the club scene and I end up seeing a lot of people here that I know as it is."


I just thought of some important things to keep in mind when saying that you're by yourself. This has to do with NLP.

Make sure you say things like "solo" or "stag" when you mean being by yourself. Make sure you don't say things like "alone" or "by myself" or "not with anybody" or anything like that because you'll seem sappy, lonely, depressed, or desperate and those are not things you want to convey to the ladies. I've been there, don't let these lonely feelings show. Instead, make it seem as if everybody there is your friend and in reality, you're with everyone and having a great time.


Go out and get em my bruthas
 

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I don't really know if this is a tip, but I like it nonetheless. I think the key to doing anything solo is not to beat yourself up mentally by thinking thought like "I must look like a loser all by myself" and stuff like that. Instead think of all the new people you are going to meet who you can build relationships and tons of sex with.

If you don't beat yourself up, then it will be a lot easier and more fun
 

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"My friends couldn't make it."

If you go to the club alone and you don't see anyone you recognize, consider always having a prop like a beer or some smokes. Just act chill and somewhat aloof, since you don't have your buds around to make comments. That way, if you chat up a hot girl, you were chilling before...and after, you spoke to her.
 

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Originally posted by KiInCollege
consider always having a prop like a beer or some smokes. Just act chill and somewhat aloof, since you don't have your buds around to make comments. That way, if you chat up a hot girl, you were chilling before...and after, you spoke to her.
Good call. Sometimes I'd prefer to smoke cos they're a great prop when you're just chilling...
 

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Good stuff, I agree too, using the word "solo" instead of "alone" or "by myself."
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

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What's wrong with saying "my friends are around somewhere.."? Or even better, what I usually do, meet some guys when you arrive and just say you're with them.
 
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