Clubbing Solo ?

[Kodiac]

Ok guys.

People seem to be obsessed with Social Status etc.. having friends / girls around you for social proof.
Really, how important is this ?

I've been thinking that going to Clubs alone may be actually better than going with friends, if your main purpose is to pick up.

It's great going out with friends, its a ball, but for picking up would it be better alone - no AFC's getting in ur way, less talk, more dancing and alot of my friends QUIT (get tired thus leave)early and if a chick is interested in you, it would be easier for her to approach ? (i know, i should be and will be doing the approaching but its still worth the mention).

If i had some DJ friends, wingman etc.. it would be a different story, but this is not the case.

So, i guess my questions;

How important is social proof to women ?

How would they perceive you when you are dancing alone, at the club alone ?

I hate relying on others and as long as it doesn't hurt my chances of scoring, would prefer going clubbing solo.

Any thoughts, opinions appreciated.

 

[dontmindme]

don't do it.. you take a crap solo. you pick your nose solo. you watch pr0n solo. you don't club solo.

 

[WatchMeWalk]

I often club solo because my usual wingman is an AFC who swoops in like a vulture whenever he sees me chatting a group of HBs.

First of all, go to a place where you will definately enjoy the music and atmosphere.

Befriend the males (or possibly average girls) you recognize as regulars. They don't expect you to want to shag them so they are almost always receptive to being approached. A true Alpha can create instant social proof wherever he goes.

Finally, if you haven't made any successful pulls, leave when it stops being fun. Don't hang around until closing time because you will just feel MORE pathetic and desperate and HBs will sniff this.

 

[Kibblez'n'Bitz]

I was thinking numerous times myself if I should go out and do the club scene alone... ...then I'm like nah who cares. The thing is there are days you get kinda psyched up wanting to go.. then it just passes with a shrug. I've never been into it much myself in my twenties (I'm 30 now) and still don't really care for it. As enlightening as this forum can be, it still hasn't driven me to go out and look for "targets" but rather made me "see the light" leaving gladfully behind my AFC days forever like it's done for so many here.

However, I personally don't see anything wrong with going alone so long as you're having SOME fun. I totally agree with several of these guys mentioning about leaving as soon as the fun stops or if it doesn't develop as it is lame to stick around if there's no point to.

 

[Kodiac]

Thanks guys.

I've never liked depending on other's and hate when i make plans with people and they brake them, friends seem to do it alot - lazy bastards.

And ive always been pretty dependant. Life is what YOU make it.

Basically the new club i go to, 95% of the people dancing are women. Ill be the odd one out, as the 5% of guys r dancing with chicks.

So as long as having social proof doesn't hurt my chances, then im all up for clubbing solo. But hey, im different, i have balls, im out enjoying myself - i just hope women see this and not as some loner.

And don't worry, im out to have fun as much as i am into getting numbers / laid etc.. When the fun stops, im gone... and vice versa

 

[Oxide]

kodiac, this is what you should do.

move to minnesota and go clubbing with me

I love clubs, and i found friends who are actually decent at picking up girls at clubs too, but when we go, it is usually free far all , so we just go for girls we like, and what happens happens.

I would go solo, ive danced solo for hours before, even with my friends at a club, becuase when i go with firneds we usually dont dance together, we just go "girl there, go for it".

Try it, and see if u like it.

 

[dionysius_d]

whatever.

A DJ will not care about the need for social support. He will do what he wants on the night.

I have had the best times, going alone to a club.

I once met up with a German Tourist. Girls kept coming up to him, and I used the opportunity. I didn't know him from a bar of soap, but we became friends.

If i am bored and wish to go out alone, I have no problems with it.

Don't live your life waiting for others.

 

[Oxide]

Don't live your life waiting for others.

this is so fvcking true . great quote

 

[Chaos-Knight]

I also club solo,
same thing - my friends are too busy or Lazy,
and flake out easy...

One thing I do is create a purpose to BE in the Bar/club...
PLAY POOL~ I go in with my profesional stick,
pick a table I want to win,then play for free
cause of people challenging me.
I can go clubing for under 20$ and still have fun.
(I only buy myself drinks)
Downside is having to drive,So no booze for me till I get home...
(pot is an excellent substitute for booze = cause I can drive)

Anyway while I play pool is when I'm Approaching or Chatting,
Usually unless I am chatting I leave when the table is lost.
(or I win it back and keep on truckin)
I find it easy to meet people when playing pool,
especially girls,(but few are a challenge at pool)

and If I don't like the music (like country or N'stink)
I leave.Because I want to be comfortable so I can have fun.

And Never hang around till closing if it can be avoided
(unless you want to watch some fights )

I used to hit dennys resturant after clubing (24Hour)
so if your still Wooing a one-nighter you could take
her for coffee after and seduce her some more
in a quiet enviroment...

As far as looking like a Loner I say:
as long as you have some purpose or excuse for being there,
your open to talk to strangers and you don't act like a AFC,
and as long as the chick doesn't see you hitting on every girl there and thus senses desperation,
all you need to do is approach them.
social proof is helpful but probably not required,

my 2 yen

 

[Derek Flint]

I often club solo because most of my single friends are AFC's for life who can't or won't change.

Most clubs/pubs are so crowded, that most chicks won't even notice if you are there by yourself.

You can always tell them that you are waiting to meet some friends later on.

And you can always recruit another solo PUA as a wingman.

Truth is, I've done just as well solo as I have with friends, maybe even better because I don't fall into the trap of sitting around with my friends talking and getting drunk.

As another poster stated, a true DJ doesn't give a damn about social proof or what people think if he goes clubbing alone.

You make the best of the situation and work with what you've got.

 

[tx_xp]

I always go alone and don't even think twice about it. I never think about the fact that I am alone but often time people assume that I am with a certain person there. Recently there was this dude that I was talking to and he was pretty cool, as buds we hit it off as much as needed for the club. Some ladies assumed we were there together, at the end of the night I told this guy bye and met the guy who he did go there with, but before that I never saw the other guy. People never assume you are there alone but when they do find out they think it is cool.

 

[chlywly]

My friends are all too damn lazy and down on themselves, as well! Maybe I'm going to try clubbing solo.

 

[squirrels]

It's difficult to club solo to pick up women just because most of the time women go in groups. If there's 2 girls and you don't have a wingman to distract the one you don't want, she WILL c*ckblock you. Almost guaranteed.

It's usually a good idea to approach groups of odd numbers when you're alone. For example, if you approach a pair, the one girl will feel left out, whereas if you approach a group of 3, the two leftover girls will still have each other while you're working the odd girl out.

Also helps to befriend people on the floor, especially if they are trying to mack on your "target"'s friends. They may actually give the guy a chance if they see you macking their friend, which takes her out of your way.

You HAVE to have fun...you can't just sit against the wall and expect chicks to flow to you. I get a few drinks in me and then just go and dance...work your way across the floor and dance up with girls you don't know. Make eye contact with them. Be sure of yourself. And above all, HAVE FUN! You can't take clubbing too seriously...it's a big joke anyway.

 

[Oxide]

a big booty feeling and french kissing joke for me

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by squirrels
It's difficult to club solo to pick up women just because most of the time women go in groups. If there's 2 girls and you don't have a wingman to distract the one you don't want, she WILL c*ckblock you. Almost guaranteed.

Here is an idea, why not enlist a wingman or even a squadron WHILE you are at the club???!!!! Find a guy or group of guys, show them your target and give them a plan. What group of guys would turn that down? Even if they aren't interested in any of the other women, more times than not they would be interested in just beating a group of women at their own game.

 

[Oxide]

francisco, we should go clubbing

i was at stargate a week ago,with 2 of my friends, when a guy came up to me and tried to get me to be his wingman by saying "dude, turn around lets get those girls"

So just find a cool guy and go for it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Oxide
francisco, we should go clubbing

i was at stargate a week ago,with 2 of my friends, when a guy came up to me and tried to get me to be his wingman by saying "dude, turn around lets get those girls"

So just find a cool guy and go for it.

Oxide, I think you'd be able to hang. Here's the thing, we'd have to go somewhere where you can sarge some college co-ed while I go after her mom

I'd be your wingman though, no biggie.

 

[Kodiac]

Ok, Oxide, im on my way! It will give me a chance to try my so called 'aussie' accent out on some of those lovely American ladies

Thanks guys for all for all the input as usual, very helpful.

Solo clubbing, here we come! Stray women, beware the hair compliment

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

I had this experience this past weekend

Went to a club, alone, and struck up a conversation with two women. They weren't exactly hotties, I'd say they were 5's or 6's.
I ended up having a GREAT time, even though I didn't get laid. I just didn't care if they liked me or not, and I think they found my "don't give a ****" attitude very refreshing.
There was a bachelorette party there, with quite a few 8's and 9's, being loud and obnoxious. Us three just had a blast heckling the **** out of these stupid HB's. Well, we soon went our separate ways to different bars, and they FORCED me to take their numbers. Talk about an ego boost.
BTW, my birthday's coming up next week, and they want to "make it a memorable one".

 

[TurboOverCubicInches]

interesting. i would NEVER think of going clubbin alone. ****, its even kinda dangerous lol. But i dunno, maybe in other parts of the world people actually go clubbin solo? i heard guys do that in europe and stuff....ineteresting.