clubbing solo

[Cod3r]

Hey bro,

I have a preferrence for going to clubs alone, I find it easier to work and I'm just a loner type of guy by nature. It's taken me sometime to feel comfortable and develop the mindset and some techniques to be successful to which I can claim success on multiple occasions. Here's some advice that took many awkward and embarrassing moments to give

You need to small-talk people while in line waiting to get in, I've found that an enviroment opener works best, if its cold say out loud and not to anyone in particular but not to yourself, "damnnnnnnnn its cold !" and people will usually agree with you or chuckle or something and you can progress with the one that gave you a reaction.. like if a guy kinda nods, look at him and go, "sh!t am i right ?? this is killin my buzzz" get it ??

Also if a group of girls is kind of together and its cold outside, huddle next to them and say "lets be penguins and huddle together for warmth" and just kind of move in with confidence and simulate the act. I've actually used that exact line before and we got to talking about the movies "march of the peng" and I tooled them later on in the night

The real key to success is building social proof early. You need to chat up enough guys so that when you want a rest you can retreat and still be surrounded by people who look like your friends. Also you need to at least open some female sets so that while you're looking for your REAL conquest for the night, you can look like a pimp while u dance and fvck around with your little chat buddies...

What I recommend is when you get in a club or bar, do little openers to a few sets with things like, "yeah high five!" and then laugh at yourself for being corny as hell. Most girls will laugh at you, but feel at ease if you have enough confidence to laugh at yourself, after that just introduce yourself and make fun of them for being social retards... kee it quick 5 minute set and then excuse yourself to open another set...

Once you've done this to about 4 or 5 sets, then start the REAL game. Now as you walk around the club, you've got like 9 or 10 girls and some guys who you've interacted with. You can now walk in and out of these groups to look popular (interacting within multiple social groups) and people WILL notice bro. Then when you see the girls you really want, they'll have already noticed you and you can proceed to introduce yourself and it'll be smoothe sailiing...


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It'll take you a while to get this down and it'll seem wierd at first and most peole will think you're wierd until you get the confidence to do this and you have the proper frame, but once you do it, it becomes natural and its pretty easy to go into any place an become 'accepted'. Just build your social proof from scratch bro, i've been in the field for months perfecting my method and its pretty rock solid as long as you've got confidence and a 'fun' frame going!


-Cod3r

 

[wskbb]

great advices, thank you Cod3r

 

[Delta]

thanks cod3r. good tips. but i think wskbb's experience will be the more representative situation....

honestly, i haven't hit the club scene alone but even bars can be tough. i've decided the best way is to go to bars that feature live music. low pressure and you actually have an excuse to be there.

i did this halloween night and a girl dressed up as madonna (like a virgin) kino'd me....

in terms of bars, it might be advisable to use CRAIGSLIST or some other local bulletin board to get activity partners.

i have not tried it yet but this is on my TODO list... my friends are certainly not into the club scene either and even if they were to go with me, they would likely be psychological impediments rather than help. a group of strangers might just be the ticket.

delta

 

[wskbb]

I’m 28 and most of my friends are not into the club scene
want to go out into the field instead of sitting home doing jack.

Have the hardest time overcoming the fear of people, esp. girls,
looking at you realizing that you're alone at the bar/club.

I’ve stopped doing the lone shark cycling and poker face standing thing that
most of the guys do at the club. But if feels extremely weird when I come
up to a group (mixed or not) and talk to them and they turn around give u a
"who the hell is this" look.

When you lined up outside the club people knows you're alone and
when you walk into the club, what's the first thing you do? Head straight to
the bar grab a drink, stage there and talk to people around the bar?

Whatever it is I need to conquer this fear but not sure where to start.

Any help is appreciated.

 

[wskbb]

ok

went to a club by myself tonite, i dress the part smell good small talk to guys and ladies and mixed group but nothing really happened.......still kinda buzzed from the drinks right now.

i read all this DJ threads trying to improve my game but doesn't seem like it's working. i tried to talk to strangers but still getting the wtf looks what gives man

saw 2 ladies at the bar, so i hover and said hi
what're you waiting for they were holding the drinks
we're looking for a spot to chill then they walked away
i didn't follow.
went straight to the dance floor dance to the music enjoying myself then
the ladies show up next to me i was dance towards them but somehow didn't feel a connection...tried to dance closer but the kinda seem to back off so i turned around dance to other ladies, mind u i was on the stage, started to hover, eye contact then try to grind her, but they walked around after giving me the "look". that was kinda sucks but i didnt care just dance by myself, then later on one fat chick and another finer chick showed up dancing next to me kinda bumping me a lil but she's not my type so i didn't dance w/ her.....just dancing by myself.

that's pretty much all i did whole nite, dancing by myself to the music i like.

i dont feel like a loser cuz i know i'm not. but somehow im projecting this loner image.......which is the last thing i want.

things to improve
1. learn to be a better dancer
2. stop being picky w/ the girls that show interest to get social proof.
3. walk around less often w/ a drink in my hand
4. stop buying too many drinks, i turn red hella quick and look like a drunk w/ lil alcohol
i guess i was too buzzed .....bought 4 drinks total...
5. stop looking around for "target" and just enjoy myself.
6. talk to girls that show interest....

but hey i did have the balls to go solo and tried what i've learned here the past few days. taking the baby steps right now, i know i'll get better.....just a matter of time.