Club Failure....

[theapprentice]

I went to a club last night with my buddies and we had a good time because we would joke around and laugh and what not. But I found it very hard to get a lady.

I think that not having any dance flow or moves makes the job tens times more difficult, I really dont have any rhythm and I need to practice.

On top of that Im not built or in excellent physical condition, I was just a regular skinny guy.

The competition was fierce and I felt demotivated. I am determined to learn how to dance and get into better physical shape.

I think when you know that you know how to dance that it gives you more confidence than just feeling like an idiot.

Any tips, Im feeling kind of down watching all these guys in front of me dancing away and Im getting rejected.

I'm not going to let rejection stop me but after a while it sucks because you know you cant dance.

I remember reading somewhere that even the best pimps experience rejection, its just that they come back faster and dont let it get to them.

I got rejected by these two girls who go on to dance with these other dudes, no big deal but if I was in better shape and knew how to dance I could atribute the failure to there stupidty rather than my lack of skill.

Another question most of my post was a rant anyway, but what do you do with girls who are sitting down by themselves?

One of the biggest things that hold me back is that I am not physically attractive enough, or in fit condition.

 

[Docs]

Ohh...I go to a club to have fun first and foremost. Secondary (but still a goal) is the girls. You should be there to have a good time, flow to the music and EC everyone. I don't have the correct moves either to dance, but I try the 'extended hand' trick and it seems to work sometimes, then you just move with her.

Go for the fun, don't let the girls get you down.

 

[theapprentice]

yeah

Yeah but I see so many hot girls dancing with all these other dudes and then when I extend my hand or do the bump trick, all I get is just a head shake saying no. I mean thats just the way things are, you get some, and some you dont.

I can obviously work on what I feel is holding me back and yeah I have fun at the club because the music is so loud and there so many people having fun, and your friends make it cool.

But I want to be the man, big mofo with muscles ripping with a sick dance, and just walking to the dance floor and dancing and getting the girls to dance with me.

I see all these other guys get girls it just makes me think....hmm why not me.

Even though getting rejected is just a part of the game, it does suck.

I can't be stupid and sit here and feel bad for myself, but Im sure you guys know what Im talking about.

Im not focusing on the girls, but that is an aim though. I think your main is to have fun still.

What do I say or do with girls that are sitting down.

The only thing that holds me back is me being skinny and not physically attractive enough to even attempt a pickup....sucks

 

[Trapper]

start with "hey are you feeling se..xy"

 

[Cableguy]

But I want to be the man, big mofo with muscles ripping with a sick dance, and just walking to the dance floor and dancing and getting the girls to dance with me.


The only thing that holds me back is me being skinny and not physically attractive enough to even attempt a pickup....sucks

Sometimes guys need motivation to get in the gym and learn some new skills like dancing. You CAN put on muscle and you CAN learn to dance, but it will take some effort.

Use how you felt last night to motivate your ass to make some changes. Imagine a few months from now. You've been hitting the gym and you're starting to see some muscle you didn't have before. You're walking taller, feeling more confident about your physique. You learn a few basic hip pop moves. You practice them until you are doing them in your sleep. You don't have to be MC Hammer in his prime, just learn a few moves. Watch what other people are doing on the floor and if it looks cool, try doing it yourself. Alot of the moves I use were learned this way.

Be glad that the things that are holding you back are things that you can change now get to it!!

 

[theapprentice]

Yeah.

You guys are right....if I dont find the motivation to get up off my ass and go to the gym and work out and learn to dance then its my fault.

I just don't see myself saying "Hey are you feeling sexy"..... Im afriad of offending the girl or her turning around and making a dirty look and just brushing me off and making me look stupid.

Mainly if I looked hot I could always say "ahh that girl just doesnt know what she missing...she is stupid"

But because I feel that I have these faults like being skinny and not being able to dance makes me feel inferior.

 

[theapprentice]

bump

bump

 

[Reyaj]

how old are you apprentice? and what club did you go to? I have experience in this area.

 

[Delta]

this sounds stupid but watch HITCH when it comes to dancing.

that one little step helps you keep time with the music. keep doing that to music.

then ADD ON TOP. how to do that? watch dancers... at clubs. mtv.

big tip - make your neck work. most people don't move their heads. looks stiff.

but this is for later... after you can keep time. that one basic move and then everything else builds on that.

[another tip - not all music - not even all club music is danceable! hip hop rap seems best. disco or pop music remixed with a good beat works. but sometimes, if a beat is too fast [usually the problem as opposed to too slow], you can't really dance... that's when kids do that "rave arm dance"... so identify a beat that works for you and recognize when the situation is less than optimal to sit out]

also, start working out now. start reading men's health (it HELPS! good tips, and great motivation). work on your diet (amount of protein you consume becomes important... i don't do whey powder [yet] but my weekly diet consists of low fat peanut butter, can of tuna (or fat free chicken or turkey), fat free yogurt and almonds.

i used to be skinny too and i'm still slim (more cut than buff) but all the muscles are there now... it really really helps in your confidence and your posture and how shirts fit you. also boosts mood on a chemical level.

3 times a week (for 1 to 2 hours) is all you need. and if you do it right, you'll start seeing results soon and that'll build your momentum to keep going.

luck

delta

 

[afc_2_dj]

3 times a week (for 1 to 2 hours) is all you need

I used to do this as well, but 4 times a week, interestingly I just signed up again for gym, and the trainer told me training longer than 45 min is a waste of time, in fact hinders progress, something to do with the way your blood-glucose-whatever peaks then drops off. Dont know it its true.

 

[KillaCam]

No such thing as a failure. Just a building block.

 

[skip2mylou781]

DUDE u just solved your own problem........you cant get girls in the club cuz

a)u cant dance
b)your not good looking enough

those are ONLY the 2 most important factors in a club when it comes to getting girls.........and when u FEEL like ur not the best, hell not even close to the best, ur persoanlity will reflect that no matter how much sosuave techniques u try to fill ur head with

u already know what ur problem is, now go fix it!

 

[bmal]

loll theapprentice, like 1-2 years ago, i asked girls to dance, and sometimes they would say yes, but most of the times, i would get rejected in partys when i dunno the girls or in clubs, and now, i've been using this technique, it always works,and it's pretty rare when i get rejected,ur in the club ur with ur friends, u see a bunch of girls grinding, go next to them, start dancing, just start going slowly behind her, try to follow her ass when she's dancing, and after a couple of seconds, if she likes it, here you go, it's all yours. I'm serious i find it amazing, i just got back from a party at my school, i was checking out a girl, and i was seeing she was rejecting all the guys that were trying to dance with her, i was on the dancefloor, i spotted her, start dancing slowly behind her, try to follow her movement, and after 10-20 seconds, she liked it, and the grind started peace

 

[bmal]

oh and, if it doesn't work, , she's just gonna advance, or go closer to her friends, who cares. theres so many other girls grinding around you. go and try it

 

[d9930380]

Muscles don't make the man, looks are important but not the only thing either. What you wear and how you carry yourself are just as important, if your skinny, clothes can still look good if you buy them to fit. Most guys make the mistake when they're skinny is to try to hide it by buying ill-fitting slightly baggy clothes. I know muscle men who are useless too.

Also clubs are dark and noisy and most people have had a few drinks, therefore how you look is or what you say is less important and it comes mainly down to attitude and confidence and playing the numbers game.