club approaches

[deenuts]

how bout a tnight clubs?

when i approach say 2 girls dancing together

they almost always say, "oh sorry i just want to dance w/ my friend"

how do i respond or reframe that?

say "that shouldn't stop us 3 from dancing together" and smile and laugh??

its just so irritating sometimes at the club i approach like 10 or 12 sets on the floor and only end up grinding maybe twice,

and i think im a decent looking guy and the women aren't HBs or anything


give me ne tips on what worked or didnt for u guys

 

[kdnash82]

Go to the club with the mind frame of simply having fun. Absolutely nothing else. If you go with the mind frame of hooking up with a girl, or feeling like you have to dance with a girl to have a good time, you will be let down.

If you go to the club with the intent of just having fun, and you hook up with a girl, then that's your bonus. You might not believe me, but it's the guys just out to have a good night that will draw the ladies attention. "Why doesn't he wanna dance with me?"

I have never gone out with the mind frame that I wanted to meet chicks.

 

[bumblebee]

^that seems true; just having fun. but if you there is a girl that you wanna dance with (who is currently in a pair with her girl friend or in a circle of friends) how would one "take her away" from the set to dance with you? jumping into the circle seems tacky. sometimes one doesnt want to be the one waiting, but rather approach

also, just curious...some guys think if a dude touches himself a little (like running hand thru his chests/abs area) uses his hips (kinda swerves it side to side, or small thrusts once in a while) seems "gay" when dancing with himself. others think it is a tactic as the point of this touching/swerving is to get girls to notice him..would girls like those movements? or would it seem "gay" to girls too? keep in mind all this touching/hips stuff is kept to a minimum.

 

[deenuts]

some of my friends use the numbers game strategy, they probably approach every single girl in the club when we go out. im not exaggerating, one time when the club was small and had a bad ratio of men to women, they approached maybe the same girls 2 or 3 times within 3 hours, and then out of like 5 of us, a few get maybe 2 or 3 numbers partly which are fake. occasionally 1` or 2 of us makes out or is able to meet up w/ the girls another time. so u can imagine the # of approaches my friends each do maybe like 25 or 30 approaches a night from each of us just so out of us all 1 or 2 of us gets a date.

im getting used to the approaching, in the fact that i don't really get shy or messin up my confidence when i get shot down,

but i just need some better techniques i think, maybe i should hitting up the lounger area outsitde where ppl smoke to try it out?

 

[Derek Flint]

Dance clubs are low on the list of good places to game women.

I've posted several times on this subject, at times at great length so I won't do so again, but you can search my posts if you want to know why.

I'm sure there are many guys who will disagree with me, but again, search my posts if you want to know why.

And why are you wasting time with women who aren't even HB's? :nono:

 

[MagnuM]

some one update more on this subject. throw down some of your experience. all is needed

go ahead. shoot. magnum would like to know!

i've heard its not the best in judgment to hit up a club alone. why is this? who should one bring?

ciao dudes

 

[saber]

I used to go to clubs and watch people have fun while I stood around... major afc move....

Now this is my strategy which is far from perfect but getting better

1) Show up semi-early and dress really nice

2) get just drunk enough to the point they will let you in

(Now most people will say it won't help your game to get drunk but at a loud club it does. )

3) Try a few different dance moves to approach girls but the key is make sure that you aren't seeking approval from them and just having fun in the way you start dancing with them

4) Go to a HIP HOP club that plays ghetto ass music from the 00-07.

5) DO NOT GO WITH AFC FRIENDS...the kind who will laugh at failure but have no balls to do stuff themsleves.

my 2 cents

 

[kdnash82]

This is one of the things I do when I go out.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116142

This link is to a bunch of stories about my nights out at the clubs. They're pretty detailed so they're long. Hopefully you'll be able to find something to help you out when out at the club. Good luck

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=117392